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Interesting that it helped you. That makes sense from a having no one to stick up for you. At the time when T suggested it, I immediately had a bit of a threat response as I thought it would make the part/ voice stronger which I'd have to deal with, without him alone. But this part has...

I love this... One of my abusers (not overtly sexual, but covertly and highly emotionally abusive) was my dad's partner. I think the image you've used here is perfect for her. She had such vitriol towards me growing up from very young. And although she's in her mid 80s now, part of me is still...

I haven't really. I very much relate to alot you say here and can't offer too many words of wisdom I'm sorry. I had a bad relationship in my teens with him. I was very scared of going to stay with him (parents were divorced) but I thought my feelings were wrong because I was 'mistaken'...

Thanks @arfie ... this is interesting to me because my own therapists, and I hear generally on the grape vine, that we should be treating those more difficult voices/ parts with understanding (they played an important protector role), and to try to treat them with compassion... my own T...

TThanks @Sideways .. Yeah I think this is the bit I'm struggling with... the part which logic and understanding doesn't reach... it's like 'Sorry, different part of the brain here. Don't hear or understand what this explanation is'. That driving force you're talking of is the hard one to...

Been deliberating whether to think about this, let alone post about it. But it keeps surfacing and knocking at my door strongly in the last 3 days. Think it is because I read about the need to accept when abuse happens to you. That it's abuse. If only parts of it were that simple. I have one...

This is great 😊 I think you're doing great... Just keep going, one step at a time... and if you have a bad day, just remember to tell yourself, it's just that. Just 1 bad day. Everyone has bad days. And things do evolve and change. Easier said than done. But you're already doing the hard...

Oooh you know about... I'm going to look up some of the ones I haven't heard of... thanks!

Thanks! I'm going to give it a go... May have to look up an instructional video on YouTube 🤣 Always up for a new card game!!

I'm going to show my age and complete inability with anything technical. I love card games. My fav atm is 'SHITHEAD' - it's fast and clever and requires a bit of strategy... Is that boring? 🤣

I'm grateful for this community who continue to support even when I'm ready to throw everything in... there's so much wisdom here... and so much genuine want to help... it's a beautiful thing... it really is a great example of community...

For a moment, it was almost terrifying. But then one of the cats...

Just hanging out on the kitchen table looking innocent, when in fact, she was just caught eating left over spaghetti (literally caught with a long string of it coming out her mouth) 🤣🤣

NYAD one of the most inspiring true stories I've ever seen... a must watch. Main character was sexually abused by her coach, but it only touches on this. It wasn't massively triggering for me. But I think makes her story all the more incredible

This all sounds positive! I'd be interested to hear how the online thing goes ....

So I know I'm ill, sleep deprived and cranky, and maybe this is not a good time to write, but these thoughts and feelings are here now. So I'm going to get them down. May be useful for me later on. I'm struggling with the fact that the focus of my / our work so far last session has been on...

Thank you for your posts @Midnightmoon ... I actually think you have a very clear way of communicating...I thought that about your last post too, though you yourself seemed to be a bit less confident in your writing... you have a logical, clear way of getting your thoughts across - there's no...

Yup 🙄 Thank you. I'm struggling with the validity thing. But I guess I'm not making it up. I did dissociate badly and I didn't think I would. So I guess it is valid. Just wish I could feel it. You are right. I'm not going to lie though, part of the issue, and this may be contributing to some...

So I went somewhere yesterday... not sure where but not really somewhere I'd care to go again... think I'd convinced myself that doing the session would be fine. Then the dissociation happened and on top of that I have a chest infection (with fever etc), so I'm just over all a bit spent. I...

So I went to T tonight ... I'm not going to reply fully about this now as I need more time to sit and write properly ... But essentially, I made it through the door and sat there for the whole session... it didn't go as partially planned because, as previously predicted, I did dissociate for...

I know very well the pain involved in trying to understand the meaning behind a therapist's actions when they aren't predictable or have changed in some way (esp suddenly)... so I really feel you.. My take: if he said he would call and didn't, that needs to be acknowledged and addressed as...

that's great.. he must really respect you! that's interesting... I think a few people have had similar experiences and feel like you, given all the amazing advice on this thread... it's definitely helped me to see it's more than just a current dispute and has potential for learning and...

I did let him know in a previous email that was a concern ... so he has some awareness ..I guess we'll just have to see what happens... I've been so up and down i feel it really does depend on the day/ the moment ... Thanks for sharing this... one part of me knows this is what needs to happen...

Uuuggghhh! You've summed it UP totally 100%

Yeah, gonna try, but not convinced it's gonna go that way lols 😳.. gonna try to do the least amount possible...!!!