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Ok thanks for pulling me up on this! Ok. I'll consider this. Feels like in this exchange, he's expecting me to. Yep Yes that's how I've taken it. Which is why it's hard for me to take it. Esp when I explained I was having a back lash from the previous session. His response was insensitive I...

Ok thanks for your opinion... I'm defo getting the same gist from everyone else so I will be taking it all on board. Think I'll go back to what @Sideways suggested which is along the same lines. Thank you. I'm beginning to see that you're right in this... so much easier to walk away. But I...

Ooof. This packs a punch. You are right. But I fear if I dissociate so that same young part comes out, nothing is necessarily achieved out of that. Other than dissociation as a result of feeling extreme fear. But maybe that won't happen. Or maybe if i communicate my fears before hand (what...

Thanks for this @Sideways...I guess you're right about there being room for more mis communication with a longer email... so keeping it short is better. I always write too much and I guess I don't see how it can be misunderstood :( I think the only thing that I feel i shutoff communicate now...

Thinking of this as a reply to T: Dear X I'm sorry that what I've written has upset or irked you, that was never my intention. I actually wrote the emails all in a fairly neutral tone as I was questioning an admin / T&C misunderstanding. I felt this was fine to do by email (as it's not...

On the contrary. I'm relieved that a few people here can see where I'm coming from. I think it's interesting, it just goes to show the differences in interpretation of written communication across the board. this is my feeling too. But I know alot of peeps here would say it needs to go both...

Totally agree! I'm trying... My son (12) laughs about it with me and he's coming from a good place... this 100% oooooh .... I like this. Going to adopt it too! Well done you... it sounds healthy. I'm going to take a leaf out of your book!

Yes! I'm going to do this! Will let you know how I get on. Part of the issue for me is, in the moment, esp if I'm rushing, I don't account for the fact I need to make a concerted effort to remember e.g parking. And it feels like there is no way in hell i won't remember where I've parked -...

Sorry for your experience of this too. Though it sounds like you have some great strategies to help out which work for you. And yes absolutely don't worry about what others think of your strategies. In truth, trauma or not, most people have their own strategies to remember things. You have...

Sorry I don't know how I missed this post (and subsequent ones). Well I do, I have a dissociative disorder but normally I'm quite good at not missing posts etc. I'm glad you haven't had any further cognitive symptoms.. that in itself is reassuring for dementia. I really do know exactly how...

That's interesting, though obviouslyI'm sorry you're experiencing it esp as a result of trauma... I hope you can find support for it... have you tried any strategies to help? If you read back through this thread there are many suggested!

Thank you @whiteraven i appreciate this alot.. I'm going to bed to try to sleep but will respond tomorrow...

you've put into words what I was struggling with. I guess there's the possibility he thinks I don't have that for him because of how he took my questioning. I think that's what I was hoping for. Though I know there are people here who would say it's not for the client to sit back and allow the...

Ok. Interesting it would make you feel that way too. Most people's replies feel that I've been the one to misinterpret and that my replies to him weren't great. It's exactly what I feel though, that he's been defensive and dismissive. And more than that, the comment about going to his...

Thanks. I'm finding this really interesting to hear everyone's different take on it. I genuinely meant that information factually. Not aggressively or angrily in any way. Literally: 'I'm surprised. The info is new to me. Before you've always said x.' It really wasn't loaded in any way. And I was...

Yes this may be a good way forward. I may tell him this if the opportunity arises. No he's not to my adult self. But he is to one of my parts. I hear what you're saying. A reality check is knowing he's not. But try explaining that to the part who will make me dissociate badly. I agree whole...

Wow 👏... this is quite incredible! First and foremost I think you can be proud of the amount of work you're putting in and it's paying off.. So it's not just what he's doing... It's very Interesting what you've brought up... I really hope the effects continue for you.. definitely keep us...

Thanks Ecydysis... I know this is familiar to me too and it helps hearing it from someone with a similar stand point Ok yes ..I hadn't seen it like this and I think you may be right....I do have high expectations and one wrong move and snip, gotta cut that cord... I will consider this. Ok I...

Ok that's interesting to hear. And an example of how written communicationcan be miscommunicated as well as misunderstood. Me too I totally agree. But like I keep saying, he's always maintained it's OK. So that's why I'm confused. Thank you for highlighting this. I do have experience of this...

Thanks for pointing this out. You are right. Yes maybe! I do find it hard because when he disagrees with me he becomes very defensive. And I go into myself. I'm unable to confront it. I know I will dissociate and a power dynamic will ensue which will increase the power differential and make me...

I totally agree. And originally i wouldn't. However T has always emailed me at the weekend and late at night. Sometimes not in response to anything I've said just something else. I totally agree re the not emailing on a Saturday for a Monday session. Except he's always told me it would be fine...

Thanks all for your opinions, it's helpful getting different perspectives. I think the main thing i take issue with is the goal posts being moved without him telling me. Yes I don't have proof that he told me about the 48 hours for cancellation. But we BOTH KNOW this is what it's been for a...

Thanks teamwork. Yes that's exactly right - defensive. I always try (as you'll see in my examples) to be respectful or even just neutral). I don't want to pay him for a session to discuss why he's defensive. I've already paid him for the sesh i cancelled. Si he got what's owed. He is taking...

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My response to him telling me I needed to pay for the missed session: Dear X I do understand what you're saying and I have paid you for the session as I respect the position you've now explained you're in. I'm just surprised because you've always said cancelling before 48 hours is without...