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Just downloaded it. That's exactly what I was trying to find out! Thanks for your input. I am curious what self care suggestions they have. I will use that when the time comes. Curious if it will help me stay on track if I have an app.

Has anybody used this app? Its a PTSD supporter app. It gives suggestions for self care and helps determine your stress level and track it. It has phone numbers and resources if you or your sufferer need them and it takes you through a safety plan (which freaked me out) if your loved one gets...

@Never_falter I dont have any answers but my vet does the same. I have chalked it up to a combination of crappy memory, attempt to be helpful, and hypervigilance. Most of the things he tells me time and time again is the locations of weapons and survival gear in our home and how to use it. He...

Did everybody miss the part where an M16 was held to her chest and a sword was slashing the furniture she was sitting on with threats of killing her? Or are we talking about someone else now? Regardless, yes, everyone has the prerogative to leave any relationship at any time for any stupid or...

Ain't that the truth! Lol

Yes! This is what I mean. The times when it CAN be identified then its great to share that nonchalantly. It creates more understanding for the times it CAN'T be immediately identified and/or the times that a sufferer is not in a state to be sharing. The little things help bridge the gap. I am...

I understand that. I am not talking about a daily reminder of "hey, dont forget stuff is hard for me" or anything. But generally sharing the occassional small everyday thing that can be difficult that I wouldn't think twice about. When I see things are "good".... especially when things are...

Like someone else said, you guys do this so well that we forget. A friendly reminder is always helpful. And you don't even have to address it directly as "hey this is out of my comfort zone and difficult for me". I was once reminded how hard everyday is because my boyfriend came home from...

@Swift I really appreciate you opening uo this discussion This is one of the reasons I love this site. My boyfriend has expressed a similar sentiment to me. And I generally feel conflicted because I would love for him to feel comfortable opening up to me, but I literally have no idea what...

Consider yourself lucky that you got very clear instructions. Most of us have to guess that isolation has come and learn the rules through trial and error. During this time period do some self-reflection. Is this something you can do regularly? Are your needs (as YOU are 50% of the...

That's vague. I would ask for more information. Can s/he give you an example of a time s/he was a bad friend? If I got this text I would say just that. "This is vague. Can you give me an example of a time this has happened? In general, I disagree with this statement. Also, its not for you to...

@BoyfriendqwithPTSD To me, it sounds like his behavior is all over the place because his brain is all over the place. The PTSD monster will ALWAYS be there. ALWAYS. Your chance will never come because PTSD will ALWAYS be there. And it sounds like it will be quite a while before "without so...

Hugs if you accept them:hug:

I LOVE THIS AND I LOVE THIS FEELING! I am always so proud of my honey in similar situations. I can totally relate!

Self care self care self care! You gotta ignore your sufferer and do you. When you do you you will be able to do them. I plan my day and meditate before bed. In the morning I take supplements that I LOVE and honestly put me in a better mood and give me energy. Crossing things off my to do list...

As a supporter, there are frequently times that I am glad my boyfriend bows out of things. Something like my birthday would totally be one. That means a social situation with people he would want to impress (my family and close friends). That means he has the stress of having the charm turned...

THIS! I call it "disconnecting". After going through isolation a few times I've learned that a)he will eventually "come back" to me b)the sooner I disconnect from him and do my own thing the easier it will be for me. But yes....every isolation period I have all those thoughts. It feels like it...

@Florian7051 ok....yeah...I get that. I was sexually harassed by my instructor and was REALLY upset about it. Cried to a friend of mine that had been physically attacked and raped. She was SUPER supportive but I just felt silly thinking about how much worse hers was (also I didn't know that...

I agree with @Freida ! Neither! I don't have a service dog or PTSD but I am pretty private. I wouldn't do any announcement. The dog would just appear in his first photounpurposefully and that would be that. I would act like everyone knew I had a dog. Someone will inevitably say they didnt know...

Who is cutting onions? Thanks for that. And to your question: as many have already said: communication! Figuring out that he is going to isolate is so hard and so frustrating. It initially comes off as him being mad or irritated with me about something. So, I am sitting there trying to figure...

THIS! That was so well explained. Hats off @Hojay HAHA

Yes, it is. And it will continue to feel like that periodically. @Freida, thank you for this insight. It was super helpful to me.

More about the concept space: its not that you're not there for them....its more of waiting for him to tell you what he needs because it can be overwhelming for him if you're trying all these different ways to help. This took me years to figure out. I was constantly trying to "help" and I was...

Yup. That too! Thankfully my boyfriend is in public service so I can get him out of most things with "oh he's working" no matter the day or time or holiday and then I don't even have to go there. A lot of people that aren't close to me always comment on how hard working he is (which is also...

In my experience, during isolation, yes, it is constant. But, you get better at it. He will stop isolating eventually and everything will be wonderful again and you'll think how silly you were for letting your mind go there during isolation. But isolation sucks. It feels like nothing will ever...