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I'm sorry you had those experiences. What is traumatic to one person isn't to someone else so I won't evaluate your trauma for you. You have every right to have strong feelings about your life, permanently. It's your life.

We started out in California, went to Oregon and then Washington. Backtracked through Oregon on the way to Idaho then Utah. From Utah we briefly touched Idaho then went through Wyoming, Montana, and South Dakota. Now we are in Minnesota. I am learning so much about my country! The weather is...

I am really happy to see a positive update. Good for you.

A long time ago I thought I could "read the signals" and figure out who wanted to have sex with me based on that. Then I found out that I am a rapist. Apparently I can't read the signals. I decided that I never wanted to make someone feel like that again. I have asked for permission before I...

This is why I am a fan of "Yes means yes" laws. If you haven't said yes then it is rape. Clears up the confusion.

I don't do well in trauma groups. It is okay to opt out of them if they don't work for you. :)

I'm taking this very personally, so this will probably be the last time I post. High emotions. I had a very similar experience with a friend coming over with his f@#king bottle of gin. He got me so drunk I passed out then had sex with me. I am very. very. very. very. sick of people saying...

Also: the fact that this girl repeatedly said she wasn't interested, she had a boyfriend (which is often a BS story women tell because it is the only way to keep a man off of you--but it was true in this case) and this "friend" repeatedly took her clothes off without her consent because she was...

Well this is turning into some victim blaming. "Where is the personal responsibility?" The person who begins the sexual contact has an obligation to establish consent. Without doing so the person who is engaging in sexual contact is committing a crime. Being drunk next to someone isn't consent...

I'm a stay at home mom who is home schooling. I'm seven years in (my daughter turns seven tomorrow. *sniff*) and we have an active, busy life interspersed with periods when we stay home. That's ok too.

Good luck and Godspeed.

My husband wrote a lot of sad, introspective, "Am I being abused" posts on his journal when I was pregnant. I was pretty evil.

Being in a black out does not excuse violence towards him. The only thing that would excuse violence towards him is if you were preventing him from hitting you. Your emotions do not give you the right to hit people. Ever. That is abuse.

If you have a 5 year old then you have done the single mom thing. It is better to be single than to live with someone who tears you down. Better to kick him out than kill yourself. I get it though. It was brutally hard going through pregnancy. Every hormone is off the chart.

My mom smoked, drank, did pot, and speed when she was pregnant with me. I think I was held as a baby--I was the precious dolly. But I was born into a violent, incestuous family. Things were broken before me and during my infancy things were really bad in my house. I know the sexual assault...

Slightly different, my shrink says I act more autistic as I age... And she thinks it is weird. Your shrink probably can't legally drop your care without a referral. I'm so sorry.

I've read all of his books and I've found useful stuff in every one.

I've had a hard time adjusting to Anthony's style as well. Not because there is anything wrong with it, but because I view men in authority responding with vigor as hostility. That doesn't mean that Anthony is feeling hostility. Feelings! All these darn feelings.

@FridayJones I spend a lot of time feeling like I should follow you around saying, "What she said. Because she said it better."

Nothing is wrong with you. It is normal, natural, and appropriate for people to feel positive feelings towards people who pay attention to them. There were also abusive times. And that makes the totality of the relationship complicated. But those good moments were good moments. It is hard...

Well if you had said, "I got my diagnosis and went home and got drunk for months because I'm so broken of course I'm a drunk" then we would have said, "Yup that is an enabling PTSD diagnosis." :D

I took time off this weekend. My husband and I have been talking a lot for the whole last week. He is rolling with the new restrictions. He's being supportive and sweet. He is very ok with the shift to sex being specifically verbally negotiated each time. He's ok with the idea that we don't do...

Welcome Laura, there are lots of people who will understand. I hope you feel like you get useful tools from your interactions here. I'm sorry you need to be here and I'm glad you found us if you need us.

I think that the PTSD can enable you to give yourself the self-care you *Actually need* that you might otherwise deny yourself. :D That's what I'm hearing from your post. It sounds like you needed to heal for a while. It is ok to have periods where you need to pull back from the world and...

It took me four days to read this thread so my responses will... maybe not feel relevant at this point. Ha! Earlier in the thread some folks said that new people can feel intimidated when established people feel very comfortable sharing all the details of their traumas and this can lead to a...