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Just contributed 2 cups of supercharged coffee - $5 each. This forum has been a lifesaver for me - or at least a sanity saver, and that is just as important.

Sounds familiar. It sounds like your girlfriend hasn't come around to "I have triggers," vs. "You triggered me." I am at the tail end of a 7+ year relationship. The end started with triggering my husband without knowing, and then again when he tried explaining to me what I had done. The first...

I second @tiredtexan. My sufferer would NOT go to the movies. Ever. (and tried claiming he TOLD me why he wouldn't go to the movies...nope. He just wouldn't go.) So, once he said he's done, I went to the movies. And I had fun! I sobbed through the previews (Logan with Johnny Cash's Hurt...

Good to know that even new memory loss (or a new variety) is part of PTSD. I swear, I learn more every day. :wtf:

Memory loss, yes, but not to that extent. For my sufferer it almost seems to be more dissociative. That is, loses time, and...its like he forgets what he even likes. But that does sound different. I'd definitely have your sufferer's symptoms looked at, especially if it's new. Could be...

I'm going to second @Friday's suggestion in taking the couples counseling thing slow, especially since yours just started his own therapy and things are going to change rapidly in the coming months with a new baby. I could see that being way overwhelming for him. My soon to be ex and I started...

Logic, sadly, has nothing to do with it. My sufferer said ending things with me was his "pure logic" taking over, but couldn't answer how going from "I love you and want you in my life, no matter what, and I can forgive you anything" (opening up entirely to being vulnerable, which is sometimes...

@monsterade My advice: Just say no. She's made herself clear at this point, in actions and words. If you try to contact her, you will be doing more harm than good, to both of you.

That also sounds familiar, @ManagerWife. My sufferer needs help with basic stuff that required any kind of concentration - filling out paperwork was the big one, since he insisted I take over the bill paying and finances when we got together (which was good - he just doesn't do well with bills)...

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I wish I had an easy answer for you, @LoveMyNavyChief!. I've you've read any of my tale over these forums, you know I'm in a similar situation - after 7+ years, 5+ of them married, my husband has decided he's done. I haven't gotten the "I'm no good for you" speech, probably because he knows...

@HurtandConfused You've already gotten good advice, and I'll reiterate it. Take it at face value. She says she's done, then take her at her word and consider it done. Figure out your own boundaries - that might mean, if she contacts you and starts on about missing you, nip it in the bud, if...

Magical fairies that sort, dispose of, pack, and move belongings. For free.

Peace

My guilt hits me on occasion, yeah. I didn't know about PTSD, and thought I was just being rejected in his inability/lack of desire to do anything with me. After 7 years, I basically stopped trying. I didn't tell him, of course, that I had given up, and I'm not sure he realized. But...

The last few months, once my sufferer hit bottom (or close to it) of this PTSD spiral, he's been obsessively studying Japanese. From the time he gets up until the time he goes to bed, he's either at his computer or on his phone (he has an app that goes with the course he's taking), working on...

Unfortunately with PTSD, that's the bottom line. My husband went from "I can forgive you anything" to "You've said and done the unforgivable," literally in a week's time. The unforgivable likely came because he DID let himself become so vulnerable with the "I can forgive you anything." And the...

@Snowflakes - No flippancy or sarcasm detected. :) And I really want to thank you - your kindness across this forum, not just to me, but to everyone, has been a help to me. I feel like even here, I'm all about "mememe," so I feel like I'm not as kind as I should be (and entirely too long winded...

I am kinda getting to the end of my rope. Getting a full time job, or a second part time job, is proving to be more difficult than I anticipated. I don't know if it's because our state just passed a new minimum wage law, so even grocery stores aren't hiring, or what, but I've applied for, and...

A second, part-time job. Or a new, full-time job. And about two or three of the paychecks from it up front.

@ManagerWife Yup, almost all of the above. But instead of voicing his feelings of I'd be better off without him, he' just pushing me away. Part of me thinks it's so I can't argue that it's not his decision to make, if he's good enough for me or not; and the other part because he's convinced...

Coffee with booze. Irish coffee? Yes, please.

I'm ashamed to admit I'd wondered if my soon to be ex was exaggerating, either his trauma, or his symptoms. But, the more I researched, the more I realized it was all part of the "package" of PTSD. Whatever his trauma was, it affected his brain and stress responses, so the illness is very real...

@Deadman I've had to show my soon-to-be ex receipts for things he thinks we got yesterday when it was weeks ago, and a facebook post that showed something happened, literally, more than five years ago, when he thought it was about seven months ago.

Also, I'm lucky now that I can work from home if I need to, and have a boss who understands mental illness, since she suffers herself, and I think HER almost-ex-husband has PTSD as well. So best possible scenario, and ironically, still causes stress.