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He's never going to give me a hug. :( Makes me so sad. Did he not watch Good Will Hunting? Like seriously...a hug is priceless! Unfortunately, it's all about his discomfort with physical touch and so he slaps that onto "boundaries" and what's "therapeutic" for me, completely ignoring what a hug...

joeylittle, this man is like a father figure to me. There's no romantic things going on at all. That's just ewwwwwww. Just wanted to make sure you knew that.

and again...how I wish my T would just hug me! Hugs solve just about anything!

no, I have ~2 years until I graduate. You've all given me a lot to think about, and I'll see how Thursday's session goes & if it doesn't go well, then I'll see about doing something else. I do have a consult on Friday with a T two-ish hours away who is trained in EMDR who I'm considering...

no, he didn't reply to my e-mail. He usually doesn't.

Gah, this is so frustrating. Last night I had horrible nightmares, so today I called and asked that he call me back. He did so, and we talked for less than 5 minutes, and I felt it was helpful to me, but I also felt his irritation for me calling him. I really don't know if I'm reading into his...

joeylittle, as far as moving on to a new T, I don't think that's possible for me financially or logistically. I could probably see another counselor at the uni, but that'd just be too hard to go there and not see him, ya know? I don't know if it's the proper time to see a new T at this point. I...

So, I have been seeing my T for over three years now, although not more than 20x/year due to policy as he is a university counselor. He's helped me in hundreds of ways, and I feel that he can continue helping me until I (probably) graduate next year. But there're these issues going on. 1. In...

I don't have any answers for you, but I feel your pain. I've been in school since '08...I have 121 credits, no bachelor's, nowhere close to graduating, don't know what I want to do anymore since I hate the school I'm at, yet I already have 45 grand in federal student loans, so I can't really...

I have to tell you that I really, really relate to your story. I was raised in a cult where I was abused in just about every way possible and was finally able to escape in Nov 2009. Unfortunately, my 4 younger siblings are still stuck there. For the 12 years I was trapped in the cult, I couldn't...

Personally, I wouldn't be comfortable doing online therapy. I love having my T right there in front of me...there's so much that could get lost in translation otherwise. My T allows me to e-mail, and sometimes (rarely) he replies. I'm a hand-talker as well, so I think he could miss some stuff...

I'd be terrified to link my T to this forum!! Very brave of you, Leah!

I would dump her...she sounds worse and worse all the time. Sorry you're going through this!

In response: 1. I don't think he's being inflexible, but trying to be as ethical as he can be. I think he's being considerate of what might be going on, yet leaving the choice completely up to you. 2. I highly, highly, highly doubt that's his sole motivation. 3. Are you sure he's putting...

Well, now there you go. That's what is expected of all therapists (T's). And TP's response was completely rational--perhaps it escalated beyond that, but I do not believe some of the responses she got were very compassionate or understanding. As a person who studies business along with...

Wow. I personally think it's professional and ethical for the T to respond with a confirmation of the receipt of the e-mail informing him of the break. If he doesn't reply, then TP can be left thinking (1) e-mail went into junk/spam mail, so he never got it, in which case, why hasn't he...

Yeah! what Pencil said! I want my hugs! And responses to e-mails would be wonderful!

Have you read Rachel Reiland "Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from BPD"? That's a good book, and can give hope that there is healing.

It's hard when we have to have breaks. Because I have university counseling, I have a 3 month break during the summer, which can be incredibly brutal, but I always learn a lot during it, and I come out stronger in the end. You can get through this. It's great that you're going to be able to...

I had a flashback during an exam today. It was so bad I started bawling, and I just turned in my empty paper, and walked out. I was a wreck. It sucked. And I don't see my counselor for another week. This sucks!

Pencil, Couple of things: First, right brain/left brain is mostly a myth. Yes, the right brain has specializations, as does the left brain, but both work very closely together to accomplish very similar things. Second, each eye is responsible for part of the information for each side of the...

Your college should have a counseling center too. Most of them do nowadays. There will be session limits, but it's typically free for students. Something for you to think about.

Wow. That is all so true. In fact, this issue is bothering me so much that it's to the point that if it's not resolved, I will discontinue therapy. It's all in the mind, not in the heart anymore, and that's where I need healing. My mind can take care of itself--it's done that for years...but my...

I suppose, to be fair, he said he doesn't remember saying that he would hug me, but still...he ought to know by now that I wouldn't lie to him, and that I have an incredible memory for things he says, especially anything involving a hug!!

koru_kiwi, I'm so jealous. I also have attachment issues, and touch is something I missed out on. If my T would give me a hug every once in a while, I would be so much happier and be more able to focus on the trauma and stuff instead of why he's refusing to give me a hug every once in a while...