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Geez. I had stuff to say but didn’t want to say it. He knew that. So we kept it light, per my request. Then at the end I mentioned how I didn’t want to like him (and that I did) because nothing good ever comes from liking someone. And he said we will talk about that next time although I figure...

I hear you.

Hahaha! I totally hate people as well. That’s what I’m in therapy for. Well, among many other things. I hate when my mom comes up! It’s such a heavy topic!!! Like I immediately regret it.

See?! It’d be very handy... lol

Heads up emails should seriously be a thing in therapy.

Haha! I wish I didn’t feel so weird about sending emails. I feel like I do it too much. Would love to implement “heads up” emails. “Heads up! Starting to like you and freaking out a little. May be a bit shut down tomorrow!” “Heads up! I know you’ll be gone for 2 weeks and I’m a little sad...

I’m so sorry you’re going through that, it all sounds so intense! I’m glad you relate although I feel bad, mine isn’t necessarily about trauma I’ve talked about as much as fear of being close or liking my therapist. Props to you for being brave for SURE!

I posted like 2-3 days ago about how good I felt about my new therapist and now I’ve just been hoping all day that he would cancel and he hasn’t. Does anyone else play the game of “I love my therapist/ I don’t ever want to go back”? I know it’s bwcause I’m starting to like him. I used to...

What about group therapy or support services that are free through NAMI or Adult Children of Alcoholics (you don’t need to be a child of an alcoholic to attend). If you don’t qualify for government need and aren’t in a position where you just can’t function then that may be a better option? Or...

Yeah there’s no way I would ask someone else to pay for my therapy. What happens when he randomly stops paying when you’re going through hell? That’s if he would pay at all and I can’t imagine that conversation going well in my own family. There are therapists who work with those who can’t...

Transference is sooooo fun. (Eye roll). Yeah, I experience the same but I’ve been been experiencing that way before I even knew what it was with professors and teachers and anyone in any kind of authority position. I agree at times it is EXCRUCIATING!!! At times it’s like it’s barely there or...

I get this!! I had maternal attachment issues with my old t and was sooooooo upset when she ended therapy by taking a really long sabbatical. I had no intention of seeing anyone else ever again and mourned her for weeks before making an appt with a couple new ones. I had no idea that her...

Is there such a thing as healthy dependency? Like I’m fiercely independent and have never been able to depend on anyone. Is that encouraged or discouraged?

I just thought now, what a great question for my t!!! Totally gonna ask him.

I’m just curious? I’d like that. How do I get that? :)

How has this shown up in your past? We repeat these patterns because we learned them so I’d guess your answer is in your past.

I’m so sorry! They sound extremely unpleasant, to put it mildly! So I think it’s really in how you judge it. Like wanting them to STOP, while completely understandable, will likely give you the opposite result. Things boil up from our subconscious for a reason generally. What can be learned...

That’s so good that you are so open with him! Yeah, I told mine how I wanted to not go to sessions with my last t becuase I would think she hated me whenever I would disclose vulnerable things. Like who wants to go to therapy when you think your t wishes you’d stay home?! And I said that...

Haha, thanks! And thank you for sharing all that! I’m super terrified of closeness as well. For me it’s not being hurt so much it’s the goodbye and the pain that would bring. But I’m not gonna let that stop me. He seems to just really get me and he jokes when he feels uncomfortable as well so...

Whoa! So today I brought up vulnerability and how I wanted to work on that, it was basically a super fun session filled with laughter and I brought up how his kindness freaks me out. Anyway, he told me a vulnerable anecdote that related and I felt so weird after! Like we went from having fun...

It’s human to care about others. It’s awesome that you care! But I totally agree, it’s not your job to do anything to make her feel better. I struggle with this myself. I want my t to feel good about what he’s doing. I have to constantly watch that. For me, it’s because that was my role growing...

It’s really good stuff to explore though so I hope you do say something!

Do you think she’s not ok with her sexuality? Why do you feel the need to reassure her? Because she said she felt alone? I think it’s really kind to want to reassure someone and put her mind at ease. It really is. But why do you think that’s your job? (Btw I’m just asking these things to...

You want to say “I’m ok with you touching me even though you’re a lesbian?” You have issues with it. Otherwise that thought wouldn’t have even popped into your mind to say that. You can say anything in therapy but if you say those words she’s gonna have some questions for you for sure. I think...

Ugh I couldn’t do therapy homework! I got too much into perfectionism with the workbook my last t had me start. Didn’t even get through the first chapter!!! I just had to get everything just perfect and I didn’t know how to do that so I crumbled under the pressure. What really helps me is...