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So glad it went ok! Been thinking about you!

Create one!!! I made a trauma group on meetup last year to find people to share with. If there isn’t anything, there will be a need. Take the reins! You can even take turns leading it or just keep it casual.

Can’t you just do what you can? Like if you can’t imagine a place, can you imagine what “safe” feels like and just really foster and grow that? Let that feeling wash over you? What color is safe? What shape is safe? Etc. Just work with what you have, no specific rules need to be followed...

I think I’ll just meditate while I wait. Then it’s not really wasted time.

It sucks there’s no set rule for everyone. Some are totally ok with 5 min late but how? That’s your time. Think of if you’re in therapy for 3 years. 5 min late weekly is 13 hours of your life!!! To just be looking at old magazines or pacing? God I could do so much cool stuff with 13 hour...

I have social anxiety as well but I kept working on that, it’s an ongoing process but it really makes a difference when you can go out and do the things you want to do. When I started, I looked forward to nothing. Everything was anxiety and fear but over time I got a bit of my excitement back...

DogLover33, do you have a lot of activities outside of therapy? Plans and goals? Things you do? Things and people you can focus on that can take up some of your mental energy and get rid of the obsessive thinking about your t? I find that really helps for me. Other people in my life that I...

Aww thank you! I will. And I’ll keep you guys in the loop!

You guys are so great, you know that? This forum is such an amazing place to grow and learn. Thank you for your honest feedback. I don’t know I this t is right for me because I overanalyze stuff to DEATH but I feel good there. I feel comfortable being myself strangely even though it’s...

“Handle my feelings alone like I’ve always done”. How’s that been working for you? There are people that can help!!! You’re getting in your own way soooooooooo much!! Which I get, there’s a billion unicorns (haha that sounds funny) in front of me and what I want. You gotta tell them to step...

It does add up. I think of the vacation I could have if I didn’t pay it for a year.... but then again I like having someone to talk to.

Sliding scale! I pay $60/sesh.

But not so great for your heart... you owe it to yourself to keep going. And it won’t be the same every time. You realize patterns and feelings lessen. You need someone who can really be there in the way that best supports you. I told my current t all about transference with last t and other...

Mine ended when I found another therapist. You essentially trade it for another. The pain lessens. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. I hope you consider finding someone else who has better boundaries and can help with self-compassion. You’re worthy of so much love and kindness. I wish...

You guys have given me some stuff to think on so will reply later. Thank you guys for being honest. Love it!

Thanks for this! I was thinking how he has in the paperwork I signed that it’s the client’s responsibility to be on time and how it sucks that he apparently thinks that responsibility doesn’t extend to him. He makes appts 60 min long and I think that’s the issue. There’s no gap in between...

Oh no!!!! I’m so very sorry it didn’t go the way you wanted!!! Want to talk more about it? You are sooooo not worthless!!! Love to you!!

I’ve seen him 6 times so far so we are still in that “getting comfortable with each other” stage but I do have to move on to actual stuff I struggle with. I just know once I open that door I’ll be flooded with thoughts of him hating me. Which is just exhausting.

Really appreciate your honesty here!! Thank you!! :)

I appreciate your honesty with me. I guess I would say I don’t divert from EVERYTHING therapeutic. I put myself out there and I try. I’m open and I close up and then I open again. It’s a process and I’m still going so I don’t complete after with you on that. But I definitely am afraid and it’s...

Thank you. It’s just really important that I treat myself well and don’t put up with things that I shouldn’t and I’m still figuring out where those lines should be drawn, you know?

Of at LEAST that time plus more if I want it. He doesn’t rush me out. It freaks me out. I told him he should rush me out lol. I’m overreacting, right? I don’t want to be trampled on so I think I’m being extra cautious? But then, if I AM overreacting, what minute amount is too much to be late...

I need perspective!!! My mother was always very late. We’d get to school late and all my important things late. She’d meet me late as an adult. My first therapist was 20-45 min late every single time and it was expected, you know? I was at a low and she was more important so could be late...

Oh hell yeah it is. And he knew I was avoiding something from the beginning cause I said so. I guess I just wanted to know if other people did it as much.

Thanks. It does. I, too, think it can be useful. Definitely for establishing comfort. I guess I just think of all the wasted time. Like 2 and a half years with my last t, do you have any idea how much time I spent not talking about important things?! But I guess if I can make it a point to say...