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If you had to choose the Sum of My parts or Magic Daughter...which would you pick? I am interested! I have seen interviews with Truddi Chase. I don't think I can handle reading when the Rabbot howls. I haven't seen those interviews for probably 15 years and I still can't get it out of my head!

I work with a massage therapist that specifically works with victims of trauma. I have found it very helpful. Often I would have pain and as she was working on me I would start to cry. I often would not have a memory come with it but I would find relief and the pain would go away. I have had...

That is really intense. I can't imagine how scary and stressful the whole thing is. I wish inhale some great advice or a magic wand that would take it all away for all of us.....but obviously I don't. I'm wondering if you can separate yourself a little bit and hate what happens to...

Feels so good when the tools you learn actually work!!! Good for you! :)

Right there with you! I guess I always felt like the things in my family and the things that happened to me....said something about me. I was somehow flawed...."how could a mother not love her own daughter? What was wrong with me?" I am just now learning that it didn't have anything to do with...

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Totally makes sense. Amazing what so many of us on here considered normal. I didn't know some things weren't normal until I got married and had a family of my own. Sorry you had to go through that. Sounds really scary for a kid.

Just because someone has been trained to expect abandonment doesn't mean it is ever justified! No one deserves that. All humans are biologically wired to desire human connection....some of just happened to be born into families who couldn't or wouldn't or didn't reciprocate it.....but we didn't...

Thank you for saying that. It means a lot.

I am so grateful this thread has come up. It is so comforting to find others that have felt the way I do. My mother was mentally ill and an addict. She would take off for days, weeks and left for good when I was 14. She was abused herself so I don't think she harmed me with intent. It was...

@Silent one I have left many times not remembering what we have talked about. In the beginning I would dissociate a lot. I still do. I often would tell my therapist...."I can't remember what you about th things we talked out last session". Sometimes he would email me a little reminder since I...

That is part of it. The therapist plays a role as well. I will give you an example. In my family children are silent and never allowed to have opinions. Adults were always right and never made mistakes. The first time something came up between me and my therapist and I actually had the courage...

Interestingly enough this popped up in my Facebook newsfeed this morning… Thought you might like it! http://www.myshrink.com/counseling-theory.php?t_id=9

I've noticed the term is used a lot with therapists that focus or use attachment therapy in their practice. Often my homework is to pick an experience or a false belief and then we figure out how we can rework it.

You are right! I just didn't like how the either of the choices made me feel. I was feeling guilty about my reaction to those choices as much as I was upset about having to choose. I have gone 8 months without self harm. I know where my brain goes when I feel like I need to be punished or when...

Thank you so much @EveHarrington. I appreciate your perspective on this. I obviously wasn't looking at it that way. Stuffing feelings is an old habit. I was feeling like such a horrible person for being upset but I see what you mean....I am still entitled to my feelings even if it wasn't done...

@Poofycat thanks for answering. We will talk about it tomorrow. He will ask for sure. I really will feel better in an hour or so. We have worked through several hard things before and we will work through this and it will be fine. I just can't seem to convince my body of that. I get Irrititable...

Actually you know what the hardest things is??? Not having anyone to talk to about it because you don't feel like anyone else can understand it and I don't feel like I can talk to him about it. I am hoping someone else understand.....surely there are others with attachment and abandonment issues.

My therapist cancelled an hour before our session. It has never happened before and he said he wasn't feeling good....but if it was going to be triggering for me we could still meet but we would have a better session if we met when he was feeling better. We are meeting tomorrow instead. He had...

Going to see my therapist after sending a rather abrupt email. Labs to see if I have to have a bone marrow biopsy this month. Totally freaked about that.

Chlordiazepoxide-clidinium

FYI...I have been on several different Meds for nightmares...only mildly successful with too many side effects until two years ago when my brother who is a nurse practitioner called me and told me he found a study about a medicine used to treat spasms in the stomach. A side effect of it was less...

That's really great! Continued good luck!

My daughter went there. Similar struggle with a less serious aspect. We found that individuals in some capacities took things too far but that the school Itself was not supportive of them and actually issued an apology as well as reimbursement for things paid for that she was unable to...

Whatever I am really resistant to....unusually find I need to do...or at least get curious about why I am experiencing the resistance. I think all of the comments abo e are spot on and you got really good advice. I still stress over my appointments but I always find that I am grateful I...