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I have noticed that the attitude of a fair number (not all, but a definite majority) of older people tends to be scarily dismissive with comments like 'well that's how it was in those days'. And there is a lot of victim blaming where the abuser is/was famous.

Or change your name by Deed Poll?

It's been over two years since hubby's last day at work, and since then he has been medically retired. He's been saying for a long time that he wants a job, but hasn't had the confidence to apply. Also, the jobs he's been talking about have tended to be inappropriate for a variety of reasons...

Have you thought about becoming a tightrope walker? I think being a supporter in a PTSD relationship is all about finding and keeping your balance, and it's bl**dy difficult! I hate it when hubby asks me about my feelings. I do want to express them, and I do think he should try to accept that...

I didn't meet hubby until a few weeks after his diagnosis, and I do think that makes it less complicated for me. His Mum has repeatedly told me she wished I had met him 'before', but I just remind her that this is the man I fell in love with and joke that I may not have liked him 'before'!

Yay you! X

Sorry for your loss @TheBubzilla. I echo @digger; honour her, grieve for her, and say goodbye to her your way. From what you have said, not only would she understand if you chose not to go, and would appreciate a more personal, heartfelt farewell. X

I appreciate both sides of this discussion, and I firmly believe this is why we should have a 'none of the above' option on the ballot paper.

You have to ask as many people as you can; all the people you are worried about hassling and nagging. They will realise that someone is failing to contact you and that is why you have to keep getting in touch. Make sure they can't forget about you because you are always in contact...

Er, no. I can't tell you the number of times hubby has been let down by his care co-ordinator. And the 'crisis team', well they are referred to as the 'cause-a-crisis' team around here. I couldn't tell you a single positive thing about them. Since his diagnosis in February 2013 he has seen a...

My mum is a firm believer in astrology (not in horoscopes). She was recently very poorly and the nurses asked me to compare how she was at that time, to her normally. This was easy to gauge: "Has she asked you what your starsign is yet?". When the answer was no, it was obvious that things...

It's the telling me what he thinks I want to hear that causes the biggest issues in my relationship. He can't understand that I want to hear the truth, and telling me that at the start would be fine. But promising me the moon, and then failing to deliver, repeatedly, upsets me. Whereas if...

I had one of those days yesterday. I swear I sometimes feel more lonely in this relationship than I ever did when I was single and lived alone. :hug: x

I too work whilst hubby stays home. We go through phases where the house is spotless and I'm not allowed to lift a finger, and times when I have to do most things around the house. We have a board in the kitchen that I write a list of things to do on. Not because he's too stupid to work out...

When my hubby isolates he doesn't isolate from his family. He may refuse to leave the house most of the time and he may ignore/shut me out. However, he will still call his parents and his kids every night, and will visit his parents every week and see his daughter every fortnight without fail.

You are not a bitch, but he is selfish and taking you for granted, even though he may not comprehend that. You can't keep doing everything for him as he will just expect you to keep doing more. People always say it on here, because it's true, but you can't help him if he won't do anything to...

:tup: Yay for you! So pleased to hear that your therapist kicks ar$e and your insurance company have come up with the goods. I hope your trip exceeds your expectations, and remember that we will be here when you get back too; waiting to here how well it went, and how much your pooch enjoyed...

And that is partly why we bring these rants here, rather than to 'real life' friends and family who probably would react that way, as they don't understand. I don't do confrontation. Never have. When he mouths off, I walk off. When I'm confined with no escape (as you said in the car) I just...

I will never understand why people behave like that (other than they are ar$eholes). Regardless of the PTSD, you obviously went to the man for help BECAUSE THAT'S HIS JOB! The fact that he made a patient/client cry and was unconcerned that another, independent, client was concerned about his...

Hey @RaggyDoll! Fingers crossed your new meds don't take too long to have a positive effect. I know hubby found it really hard when he came home. Even though, in hindsight, he says the hospital really wasn't that nice, at the time he felt safe there and kept begging to go back. As of...

Another vote for telling A&E you are a danger to yourself. Hello?! You are already hurting yourself quite badly, so tell them that you can't control it anymore and are scared. Keep checking in here if/when you can as we worry and care about you x

Can your therapist not assist you getting the urgent help you need? Isn't it better to talk to them, than to no one at all? Sure it's her job to stop you from getting discouraged and quitting? Sorry I can't be of much help - supporter in the UK, rather than sufferer or anyone who understands...

Another one thinking of you here.

Sorry, I'm a bit late to this conversation! You mentioned finding a new strategy for when you start living together, and I wanted say that hopefully you will find it easier. I hated staying over at his and feeling like I was just 'there'. It felt like I should follow him around since I...

I'm a supporter, not a sufferer, but I find this forum to be a huge support to me. To be able to logon any time and ask for advice. To read threads and know that certain symptoms/behaviours/reactions are reasonable with a PTSD context. To know that other people feel what hubby does, and what...