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I agree with what @FridayJones has said, but you may need to go even more basic. When I was at my worst (and this sounds really stupid basic), a calendar is what was needed. Don't get tied up in knots over buying the right one - you can easily print a week or month one off the computer. (I...

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this...I don't really want or need a discussion...just a place to vent and have witnesses. For background: In early March, I made a "no contact" agreement with myself regarding my ex. Basically this meant (and I conveyed this to ex) that I would...

I think you need to create a troll smiley/emoji...then folks can just click on that and cease discussions :)

Thank you @bell - your post is beautiful and inspiring and I can relate to so much of it as I work through my own stuff...especially this:

I don't think "everyone" here is judging you...yes, assumptions have surely been made based on the what you posted. No, you did not directly say you were cured, recovered or better than, but I can see how it was implied. It seems to me that you have things you want to say or work out here...

While I feel a little sad that the OP feels the need to judge other people's recovery / healing, reading the responses has been very uplifting for me. My experience with this site (and granted, I've only been here a little over a year) is that it is a great place to feel connections, to look...

I think I can relate to what you're describing, if I'm understanding you correctly. My brother was physically abusive and it was either minimized (to the point of "it didn't happen") or, when it couldn't be ignored, I was blamed for it. Intellectually, I can see how this has made me question...

Another (ex) buckeye here. I also lived in Indy for about 18 months...but it's been a long time. If you're into eclectic shopping, eating, walking around - the Broad Ripple area is nice. There are (or used to be) a lot of interesting stores and outside dining. I also second the Children's...

Apologies if this is "derailing" - but I was reading a novel recently where the protagonist experienced alcoholic blackouts and it got me interested in what happens during a blackout. Apparently, during an alcoholic blackout, the brain does not make memories - the person experiences transient...

Well ack. I wasn't going to read this thread because I don't have a problem with this...except when I do. Every couple of months I go on these online buying binges - not a HUGE amount of money - kids and pets will still have food - but it's usually stuff I really don't need, or even want if I...

I only "did" EMDR once - didn't know we were doing it, didn't agree to do it...anyway, it started with the "safe place" things. At the time, I was dissociating so much I was (realized much later) that I had my own little maladaptive daydreaming world - but that didn't fit the definition of a...

All hope is not lost - you posted here. Write your pages and pages...post them or don't...hopefully being heard will help knowing that you are not alone.

This is very similar to what I have been able to do - which is "remove the story" and just feel the feelings. I have to say, though, that it is a difficult thing to learn and practice and I am disheartened when I hear of therapists telling clients to just "sit with their feelings". If you...

This is a difficult one for me because I don't tell many people and I haven't (in the past) asked for support. Family - can't - they're a problem...big sigh. Boss - interesting - kept everything undercover until the police showed up at work to take me in to the hospital...my boss (and my work...

:):):) Maybe ignoring is not the right word - "choosing not to react" might be a better way to look at it. I have an ex who likes to bait me, and I used to like to bite at the bait. When I finally realized my "goal" was to be in a more peaceful place, I was able to choose not to respond - it...

This is one of the things I like best about this forum - there are so many different folks, different approaches, different personalities. If everyone felt and acted the same way towards everyone, I'd never learn anything new. The stuff I don't like or don't agree with...I can ignore it.

I'll join that group. I've always used the term "socially awkward" myself...but I'm ok with "inept". I think I have a real fear of being seen. And when I'm anxious, I just can't find any words...or they're the wrong words... And I'm either too unapproachable or I'm over disclosing. All of...

This was my experience as well. My experience with ideation is that it is noise - sometimes background murmuring and sometimes loud shouting...but when there has been an actual attempt, it has been exactly like a switch being flipped.

I don't think the stigma of "mental illness" is confined to Western society. In fact, it may be worse in other societies. But I'm not positive that it's Western society's opinion of mental illness you are struggling with. Yes, there is stigma attached to mental illness - and PTSD is considered...

I think you described it quite clearly and eloquently @WillyKat. For me, suicide ideation is strongest when I feel both helpless and hopeless (I sometimes call it "trapped")...so viewing it as a passage makes sense. But I agree with @joeylittle, it is a dangerous state of mind. It's also...

Last year I left my therapist of three years (who I loved) to try working with a DBT-trained therapist. The first one I chose didn't work out. I think part of the issue was that none of us (me, the old therapist and the new therapist) took into account the strength of my emotions for my old...

And that's why there's a world full of wonderful, fun, relaxing things to do - and you have the agency to choose which one(s) work for you! I have friends that cross stitch - I would end up sticking that needle in my eye if I had to do it for more than 10 minutes. :)

I really am naive...I had no idea. Wow.

I have to add that the term "adult coloring pages" does sound a little iffy :). I was afraid I might get some "hits" I'd rather not see!

I disagree. I think that there are well-trained empathetic therapists that can understand someone else's pain and help with healing that pain. I also think there are a bunch of less-than-qualified folks hanging out a shingle and, perhaps unintentionally perhaps not, causing more even more pain.