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@FridayJones That is really interesting to hear, and actually makes sense to me. I think I can understand this from my own trauma issues. Your example of why is also really interesting and a helpful perspective to hear. I guess therapists screening veterans would often be coming from the...

@Justmehere thank you! Yes it is hard to see him struggle and I am naturally empathetic which makes it worse sometimes. I am glad to have the therapist too! Good point about the sharing information with the other therapist. I think how it currently works is that they often collaborate on cases...

update: So I had a support session with my therapist, and they are in office with spouses therapist. They asked them if spouse had mentioned the nightmares etc. and they said not that they could recall but they would keep that in mind going forward. So it sounds like spouse did not tell them...

@shimmerz thanks, that's validating to hear. I just couldn't see how spouse just being anxious in general makes sense, especially when there were all these things that seem to connect to the trauma, the basis like you are saying. I think it makes sense to use those things as the...

@Justmehere I really hope they are not clueless, but I'm feeling pessimistic! I have run into the occasional clueless therapist. We did talk about the GAD diagnosis and I mentioned that PTSD is not always so black and white, but I had to be careful not question them too much or offer to many...

So generalized anxiety does not seem to include dissociation, nightmares/terrors, triggers. Yes spouse has these other symptoms but I don't feel like they come out of nowhere I always feel like they are triggered versus operating out of a constant place of overall anxiousness. At the very least...

I have actually met spouses therapist way before they ended up going in for therapy, and I had gone to them to see if I could get a better perspective on being a support because they were supposed to be familiar with the military and PTSD, so that means I have actually told them some of these...

@shimmerz I agree, the military has not handled soldiers mental health well! And when those things are repressed it does make it easier to pass it by. I have been doing a little searching today as I am re-evaluating what I thought. I have to work through a lot of trauma issues myself so I...

@Solara I looked up the therapists page, and they are an MA, LMFT that has received additional consultation in trauma focused cognitive behavioral therapy, cognitive and behavioral therapy, pro-longed exposure therapy. It says they have a passion working with military families and veterans and...

@shimmerz Thank you, that is a good point. Spouse doesn't like to talk about the nightmares and also some parts of their deployments. So I really don't know how much more that is there, but at times they treat it as if they didn't have enough bad experiences to warrant their symptoms as...

@Justmehere I wish I could say I am not guilty of the push. But I am, I totally am. I feel a bit of self loathing at this because logically I know things take time. It has taken almost seven years for them to get into therapy. That is seven years of me trying everything I could think of to...

@Justmehere Spouse is no longer in the military thankfully, or I agree that would make sharing much harder. It's good to hear perspective/experience about the sharing process, thank you. I can see how it might take time for them to really open up. I had thought that they were not sharing...

It's been a little while now that spouse has been doing therapy, which ultimately has felt really positive. However their therapist apparently does not think they have PTSD, and for the second time spouse has been diagnosed with generalized anxiety. But here I am waking up at five in the...

@intothelight Thank you :)

@Mercy I like the pad of paper idea! Recently I have been trying to map out what each piece is all about- it is a lot of work. The parts being afraid of disappearing makes a lot of sense, I am not sure I have had that experience either. Mine get out of sorts when another part they disagree...

I was still feeling confused and frustrated with sorting through and understanding my spouse reactions so I decided to ask them to help me differentiate. It turns out I wasn't wrong about them being upset with what I said, but it was because of how they hear things. This is a problem they hear...

arfie thank you for the thoughts! What you are saying makes sense and I know my mind reading talents are not always great as well. I like your statement "honest inventories of my own capabilities". Your right I can't control what goes on in spouses mind. I will just have to keep working towards...

Thank you, that's a good point. Either way I need to get some distance and perspective when these type of things come up and do self care. I can understand choosing to be alone and focusing on taking care of you :)

Hi Solara, It seems to be a more visible thing than a verbal thing. I feel blamed when something I say results in a change of body language. They seem to droop, sulk and then shut down or give me the silent treatment. I was thinking I was taking on feelings that were not actually there either...

I wanted to know if what I am experiencing with my sufferer spouse is ptsd or something else. I had a conversation with them last night where they shared some thoughts and feelings, they had seen the therapist that afternoon. I had some questions about where they were at emotionally with their...

Thank you, and yes it is really nice to relate to others who share this experience! I can't quite get my pieces of self to blend neatly either especially when figuring out career goals!

Thank you very much RussH :)

Hello Change and thank you :) United states of Tara was a television series featuring Toni Collette. It was about her daily life with multiple personality. The DSM has changed the definition of this disorder to DID, meaning disassociation disorder. They used to have DID NOS (not otherwise...

Thank you Mercy, very happy to have this site as a resource!

Thank you all :)