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Also.....I look back at the text exchanges between us then. My texts were in paragraph form and his were very short, brief, and choppy. And sometimes did not really answer or go along to what I was typing (I was clueless but never confrontational). But Just like what u sufferers...

Just wanted to share this!! Definitely something about the timeframe. My messages only go back by a year....but this is what was going today from a year to date (definitely some isolation/issues mentioned). And before I knew of PTSD but identified some cycles he had. Hey dear. I will...

Have heard from BF pretty much everyday or every other while in isolation with a short text or short call and did not on yesterday. And I know in the past, he has told me about not being able to communicate. When I did not get a check in response, I texted him a short message that said...

Thank u for this. So hard knowing what he really wants to know. Will focus on trusting my instincts.

Thanks for answering. This definitely aligns with what my BF said. He has mentioned that he had beat up a guy (and not remember) and done other things in the past that he does not remember doing in the act (but it was done) when he was symptomatic. And so he has said he never wants to hurt...

When u say u do not want to accidentally hurt u sufferers do u mean by harsh words and/or actions? Is it like u can’t tell if we are friend or foe and when this happens everyone is like a foe? I may be over generalizing...but I have heard from BF that he does not want me to see him when he is...

I am noticing the way his mind and actions vary from minute to minute and day to day...,if I ever say I don’t call to give him space....he says I enjoy ur calls (Mind u they are still short conversations and sometimes he does not answer but will call back later, so I feel like he is only doing...

Thanks for the response. Definitely see the point in taking it at face value and just live in the moment. Thanks again.

U are so right! I am trying to figure a plan...but I can definitely see what u are saying that it is not something that can be predicted or assumed to be the same every time. Let it roll....I like that. Thanks for that!! Definitely do not want to feel like I am being a mommy or doctor. I...

Question....my BF is still making daily short calls and asking how is my mental and how I am feeling emotionally. I guess I am perplexed by this question given that he is symptomatic. When he is not symptomatic and he asks....I just gauge if I should discuss stuff (it isn’t anything related...

Yes this makes so much sense. And u just made me remember him saying early on that some people could not deal with who he was and his need to just go off the grid for a bit. But he said to me that he would never go off the grid and not let me know something. So I guess that is kind of what he...

Thank u. I think I am seeing from u all that he is communicating and trying. I am thankful for this forum and the honesty and experience sharing that it provides. It helps put things in perspective with a PTSD relationship and what to expect and how to respond.

Got another one liner for today that said “I really appreciate u”. And I responded back in kind..... “I appreciate u too sweetheart.” Nothing more. Getting those kind of messages mean a lot because I have seen him personally get distracted, sidetracked, and go into a tunnel to get things done...

Thank u for the response. Thanks for explaining why it is important for him to take the lead in when he is ready to connect even if it is because he thinks I need for him to. I never thought about that it is important to just let him make the effort based on what he says and feels and it is...

Thank u. Makes perfect sense using the analogy of just waking up. But also good to understand that coming out of isolation may not always look the same. Sometimes gradual..,sometimes instant. I appreciate u all answering because it makes so much more sense hearing it from the suffer’s...

You guys are definitely right on the money about him not being quite ready. Talked to him yesterday and we had more of a conversation and he said that he wanted to see me this week (but I got the feeling that it is not a good idea right now). So I just said ok....but I am thinking I will not...

Thanks so much for the reply. Much appreciated!! Thank u! Ur explanation makes perfect sense.

My boyfriend of almost 2 years has PTSD and I have seen to different degrees when he is triggered when: 1. When talking and the phone just hangs up and he calls back (thinking he had to get himself together) 2. Seen him just look disconnected and look confused about his surroundings 3. He has...