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You're a bit late to the party, but thank you. If it's meant to be, one day she'll come around with a willingness to work on communication and I'll need to decide if it's worth the risk of going through this again.. but I don't see her doing that. I'm moving on, I'm happy on my own and I know...

I want to update my feelings on what I think from when I was upset the night we had closure. I don't think it was fair of me to call her cowardly, selfish and cold-hearted.. I was just upset. She actually showed a lot of courage giving me that closure talk, and knowing her difficulty with...

Thanks guys - I guess I have conflicting answers. Either way, her feelings are gone for good and I'm at peace and relieved with that. I'm sorry if I've insulted anybody being so naive about this. I asked just to understand things better.. she clearly wasn't numb but may have switched things...

She's said she's not numb, that she's happy. I'm wondering if I misunderstood what numbness means - if she's happy, could her feelings have suddenly vanished after fighting due to numbness towards me and our relationship alone? Or is numbness a general thing.

Guys, thank you so much for the information and support. I spoke to her and got closure, it's over, and I finally feel at peace. She's sticking to her story that something "snapped" during our fighting over intimacy, and she no longer felt the same way. I'm going to wonder if she was just lying...

So do those feelings come back naturally? I'm conflicted on whether to give her a month of space, or send her a rose and a message with something like "I know you're emotionally numb, and that's okay. I want you to know I'm here for you. And that I still love you, and think we can work this out."

Thank you for the honesty Nessa. So if she's completely numb to me, and she's not going to "snap out of the amnesia," then you're basically saying there's no chance, right? If she didn't have this condition, then if there was a chance, she'd start missing me and feelings would come back...

But is there a chance she "snaps out" of the amnesia? Is there a chance? That's all I need to know.

You're right, I don't know that. But because I know they were there before, they've gotta be buried under that numbness. And I'm hoping if I approach her after some time in a non-stressful manner, and she realizes I'm not a threat, they'll come back. But who knows. I'm a fool in love, I'm going...

She's the love of my life - if there's a chance, how can I give up this quickly? I know her feelings are there, we had the most romantic 6 months of anybody I've ever met. We met at a bar in New York, she lived in Texas. We wrote letters. We traveled to meet each other in 10 different cities...

Absolutely understand, at the end of my email I said "take as much time as you need to answer this, even if it takes years." I know how difficult it is for her to talk about feelings, so in 6 weeks when I message her, I'm not going to bring it up. I'm hoping that will start a dialogue, and...

I could see her perceiving me contacting her as stalkerish if I keep doing it, but I have no intention of contacting her for another 6 weeks or so, and when I do it's just to tell her I passed my exam (hopefully) and maybe offer support. I'm not a stalker, I've reached out a few times over two...

I'm sorry for what happened to you. There are sick people in this world, I hope you've found good ones to fill your life. My ex is a psychotherapist, so if anyone can figure it out I hope it's her. I want her back.. and because I know there's a chance she pulls out of numbness, I don't see...

I'm lost. She still hasn't answered my closure email, which basically was an apology for pushing her and saying I understand why she acted he way she did. Two days later I sent her a final video based on people who have had partners with PTSD, just to say "I understand, I still love you and the...

Hi Sighs, I disagree. Whenever I've broken up with someone, I've always granted a follow-up closure talk, because I still care about the person. The dumper has the luxury of knowing it's going to happen beforehand - they've already processed everything and made a decision. The dumpee has no...

But I don't understand what that means. Is she numb from me or everyone? How long does it last? The episodes I witnessed with her didn't make her numb to me. It was when she perceived something I did, like asking to spend more time together and getting upset when she scheduled something right...

Friday, thank you for that beautiful bit. I already know that this isn't a relationship I truly want, I'm just hurt, and want to know this meant something to her. I see giving someone closure as a common courtesy - she broke my heart, she should care enough to grant me this. I'm curious how...

Follow up: she hasn't come around. I messaged her after a week, offering support, no answer. I followed up saying I wanted a closure talk if she's still 100% sure it's over because it will help me move on. She refuses to oblige me. It really hurts that she would care so little about me to not...

Well, she said I was being controlling when I told her how it was hurting me that she couldn't say that "she loved me and we were going to be okay, this is just a fight." For me, it's just a sentence that should be easy to say, especially when it meant so much for my sanity as I'm writing this...

Once you associate bad feelings with a guy and push him away, does that ever get reversed in time?

Hi, I'm sorry you're dealing with this awful disease. 28 year old girlfriend of 6 months has PTSD from a former abusive relationship years ago. 3 weeks ago I was the "love of her life." In the last week, we fought a lot because she started a new, extremely demanding job and I had the biggest...