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Maybe he’s really dumb. Lol. Weird he would say that but I guess it would depend on what was being said? Mine said I was an enigma but then said why he thought that. Had he left it without explanation I would’ve wondered what he meant as well.

Thank you!!! Yeah, it’s so rare! I’m really glad I gave him a shot. I’ll be sure to report back cause it’s fun to talk about therapy here lol

Yeah, I do it in a joking way but I keep doing it. I asked a friend what she would do and she said to just let it go (although I didn’t tell her it was about my therapist). If there’s a silent moment I prob will share since it will be on my mind. Plus I’ll be drinking tea and it’ll be tough to...

Whoever edits my posts and comments, thank you, looks so much nicer when you do! :) Yeah. I feel disproportionately bad about it, though. Like it’s doubtful he’s losing sleep about having a really hot water kettle... Maybe this is rather just something I need to release and not let myself spin...

He’s awesome. I think maybe I want to stomp all the caring out of him. Since I get to text him I’m gonna just have something already prepared so I can hit send when I get there and we can “talk” about it. I do tell him I appreciate him so I’m a mix of kindness and asshole. Yeah! I think maybe...

So I notice it’s new with this one and I didn’t do it with my last. She was a woman and he’s a man. I think that may be why? Like I’ve seen him only a handful of times but I find I want to correct the ways he does things. Like say “yeah, you’re not supposed to disclose that” or “you really...

There’s no rule you have to cry. You’re overwhelmed right now. I don’t cry at my stuff and I’m pretty ok with it. Trust your body will release it when it’s the right time. And congratulations! That’s so huge to share your biggest secret!!!!

I meant, it helped me to know uncover why I am about the things I wasn’t sure about, but that it didn’t change anything. I just wonder if I force myself to open up about every tiny detail if I’m just causing more suffering that way. Because I’ll focusing on what he things vs working on what’s...

Do you just share what’s relevant (like what YOU want to work on) or do you open up about everything that’s vulnerable, even if you know why you have specific issues and don’t need to figure it out more? I mean, does anyone actually share EVERYTHING with another person? Aren’t we all selective...

Oh I thought it was 2 years for ANY sort of relationship. Hmm. Ok. Well, I don’t know. I hope whatever you do, however you say it, that his response is a good one.

My t acts very friend-like in the way we joke but I think that’s just all about rapport. And I think sometimes they can’t help but get a little attached as well... But you do realize (I’m sure) that if any friendship were to occur after therapy it would be officially breaking the rules, right...

I remember that post. Yeah, that makes sense that you would want some kind of closure or answer on that so you can let it rest and work on the feelings that will come from his response. Are you prepared if he says no? What will that do to you? Are you prepared if he says yes? I don’t know...

Yeah we definitely can’t answer that for you. I will tell you that I’ve told my t vulnerable stuff in person and I’ve let her read it on her own without me seeing her reaction. Both were very different experiences. When I said things in person that were hard or embarrassing or just things I...

Yeah, I asked my t for an “I got this” message so I at least knew he read it/planned on reading it. I have some email freakout, too. I’d ask for that. For some reply, however short. I LOVE it when they thank you for the emails. My current t does this nearly each time and it’s so awesome.

My very first therapist knew I had crap self-esteem and repeatedly was late (20-45 min) and canceled and rescheduled. She definitely wasn’t testing me. She sucked. I didn’t realize how awful she was until my last one who treated me like I was worthy of respect and care! I’m so glad your t...

Only you know best. If you’re confident in your relationship then you gotta find a therapist who is really hearing what you just posted.

You have a great sense of humor. Blurting our something like that at the end of an email is something I would do as well lol! Vulnerability is scary stuff. When you find someone who can just contain that for you... yeah. I get it. Absolutely. I don’t know if I trust my t. I don’t know if I...

Omg that list. That is SUCH good stuff to talk about! Like really good. If you can, I’d bring that in. That would make for a very positive (at the end) discussion, I think.

She has an online course! I’ve taken it! Well, I did half of it. Ok, I did like 1/8th of it. It was cool, though! I love her shame talks. I have a couple of her books but haven’t read them yet (I have a ton of books). I emailed my t and said I want to work on vulnerability and he’s all on...

I’m glad you did that! Do it again. The thing I loved about my last t is that her voice became my voice, you know? And now it’s still her influence but it’s me caring about me but I needed her to show me all that care and respect. Say it til it becomes your own version. Everything is ok and...

Haha!!! I totally know what that’s like to want to send an apology email for emailing. Oh the things we do to ourselves! Ok. Here’s your practice. Write a letter to yourself telling yourself it’s OK to email things. That it’s ok to reach out. If you can’t do that, try pretending you’re your t...

Fascinating! What were you working on when you lost trust? Did you feel more vulnerable?

That’s because of rumination. Which might be a good goal for you to get out of that. I do that too if I don’t catch it right away and it’s easier to stop when you first catch the thoughts. I think that’s a dbt skill. Anyone know?

This is also a good opportunity for you to consider how else you may find connection with someone. Is there a support group in your area? You could even just go and listen. Think of what your base need is and consider how you can meet that without your t.

It’s not about you. Whatever is going on with her is based on her own thinking or her own issues. I get how you’re wondering what you did wrong but you didn’t do anything wrong. Ask her about it when you see her next. Maybe she has a lot going on personally. I think we tend to forget our...