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Thought it would be really cool to have a post about the good that we’re doing! For me, I’ve learned a lot from my previous therapy and how I want to show up differently to be more productive. I’m not obsessed with what my new t thinks about me and feel he cares which is awesome. I’m being very...

Very kind of you! I’m sorry for your stuff as well. This world can be pretty messed up.

I think a good one with me was when people knock on doors in my building and I freak out and want to hide. It brings back how I felt when my mom would come home from the bars and would come into my room. She wouldn’t knock or anything but it’s the same panic. And she wasn’t abusive or anything...

Holy crap, you sound just like me and I’ve felt so dang alone! I have yet to read the other responses but I have c-PTSD. If what you describe is a part of it then that’s amazing! I mean, sucky for both of us but amazing that there’s a reason! I can’t stand to be around people although I try...

So my last t never spoke much about CPTSD so I really know only what I’ve read in articles and such but curious to learn more about emotional flashbacks and if anyone here has experienced them. I’ve been thinking tonight of all the things that could qualify and wondering if just the massive...

You could be way less harsh to the op. She’s said she feels intimated and has that issue. How would you like to be spoken to like that?

I was really afraid of my first t. Transference. That was awful.

Everyone’s situation is different though because every person handles their trauma in a different way. I wouldn’t scare the OP and make a statement that it could be 10 plus years. You don’t even know what trauma the partner is dealing with.

The meaning isn’t hidden though. You’ve flat out said you had feelings for him. And I don’t believe their fake, just that the thoughts behind them may be built on a rocky foundation. I’m familiar with that. We all are. And it just may help long term to address it.

Ok. Have you told her you want the focus to be on you and your trauma and not the marriage?

I think if you don’t want your marriage to be the focus you gotta set clear boundaries with your t. She likely thinks she’s just helping out but be clear he is here for moral support and your relationship is not to be the focus at this point. And if she can’t do that then she can be replaced...

Meh. Might as well just say it then. He already knows you’re super attached and want more than a client/therapist relationship. I doubt he would be surprised by your admission and hopefully he can help you navigate those feelings and help you uncover why they’re there and why so strong.

I know some people go with their partner to therapy. I mean, you can’t be privy to everything there of course but a session or two maybe to help understand what’s coming up and how you can be supportive. That’s if your partner would consider that. I’m so sorry this is difficult for both of you...

But there are also people who make a ton of progress and feel a lot better in some areas. Don’t be too worried. It’s a process. It’s a self-discovery journey that just really sucks at times. It won’t be awful all the time. It’ll fluctuate. And if it’s continually bad for your partner you may...

Lol yes it’s like asking that. It depends on your SO, their defense mechanisms, how open they are, their willingness to heal, the quality of the therapist and the type of therapy.... There are so many factors.

Because it dredges up the past. Think of your very worst moments in your life. Imagine reliving them.

Is it about client empowerment? That WE are in charge of our therapy and what we talk about? I have this belief (that I’m working on changing) that people will only ask about things they want to know about and don’t want to hear about anything else. With my last t it was very frustrating when...

OP, would you consider seeing a new therapist? If you don’t trust your current one to care, please find one that you feel as good about as your old t!

Do you have her email address? Might be good to at least get some of your thoughts and feelings out if you don’t plan on seeing her again (I wouldn’t). I’m so very sorry this happened. I’d report her as well.

I’ve considered them. There are some on YouTube my last t recommended to see if it would be useful. A lot of people get positive results from it!

Actually for some reason I really don’t believe he judges me or is annoyed. Could he be? Sure! But I don’t feel that from him. My point was just to say they give the very best of themselves when people are really just such a mixture of awesome and suck. Lol

I completely agree. It’s the perfect kind of attention! You say whatever you want and you have someone who always treats you well, listens better than anyone ever will, is calm and confident and cares solely about you. It doesn’t actually exist in life which is so funny. That’s why it’s such...

Ugh. I’m sorry. That’s so hard! I like your comment. When my last t told me she was leaving for a long sabbatical and our therapy would be ending I took it HARD. I told my friend over breakfast that I don’t know what to do. What if I can’t survive without her? My friend said “well, you’ll just...

Avoidance is the best!!!! Costly but fun.

You’re my hero.