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Oh and to answer your question about his family, they basically dropped us like a hot potatoe when he left. His mother And I have some contact but it's slightly strained but I think she would be open to visits there so I should try that avenue. Not a bad idea at all.

Yes he is an alcoholic. Him being sober if he sees her is an absolute must me if he sees her but he's not a stumbling drunk so short of breathalyimg him upon arrival I don't know if I can control that. There is always court orders I can get in regards to the drinking but I haven't gotten. That...

I 2nd the Amen!

I 100% agree that separation doesn't have to equal abandonment and I was really surprised at how open I am or was to maintaining a family without the relationship. I thought I was doing the right thing by her to say we can do this together and not be together. He seemed receptive to it as long...

@scout86 & @deer_in_headlights thank you for your responses. I have my own therapist (thank heavens) but haven't been able to see her since this episode. I have my appointment Friday morning! I was hoping she would help direct me on how to talk to the little one but wanted perspective from...

He's been gone just about a month and I'm spinning my wheels in the grief cycle. Not much of a cycle these days. I'm stuck in anger. Anger that I did this to my daughter. What I mean when I say "I" is that hell yeah I did this to her. I didn't give him PTSD or make any of the decisions to...

This is the same for all of us. Then months ago turns into years ago lol... Just remember that you must love and put yourself first. If you can truly do that, you will be ok. I have a battle buddy I met here on the forum years ago and she's a blessing. After some time you may find your...

Hi everyone! I tried to read through this whole thread but can't lie, I skimmed a little. I usually just like to read threads others post because I find it comforting that I'm not alone. This one stuck out for some reason... Maybe because your posts remind me of myself early on. You are not...

@FridayJones - I've not yet followed you on the forum but I intend to. Your responses always have just the right amount of truth (Sometimes hard truth) but also just the right amount of sass that sparks something in my brain that says "hey you! still sitting there feeling sorry for yourself...

First meeting is today 10am :) I'm looking forward to it. Thank you everyone!

@FridayJones Thank you, I think you hit it on the head when you asked what's most important to me. Being an adult of an alcoholic father and OBVIOUSLY codependent, it's most important to me that he gets treatment and if he chooses not to then I don't want him around her. I know first hand...

Actually a more appropriate question is how do I say it. My first instinct is to blurt out all the facts about how it is damaging her but I know he can't handle that kind of message. Should it be a seek treatment and Jen you can? That seems way to aggressive. I don't know how to say it.

Thank you so much. When all was said and done, were you right? Did you make the right choice?

Hey everyone. I'm really struggling here. If you read my backstory my situation is my sufferer now ex, has PTSD AND Alcoholism. I have been to a lawyer and was waiting for an intervention from his family before I made any kind of moves with how to manage visitation with my daughter. Well...

It is THIS exactly that has me furious. I had my first visit with the lawyer this past Friday and am prepared to put everything together legally but was urged to hold off just another week or so due to a planned intervention by his family. They felt any action on my part may derail the...

I'm raging mad. I assume since this is my only child and happens to be with a man with PTSD that many woman experience this even without PTSD being a factor but like I said I am raging pissed off. It's been 3 weeks since he woke up one morning and just decided he didn't love me and moved out...

I love this thread. Here goes... F*ck you! F*ck you for being in complete denial about your problems and making me look like a complete fool to all of our family and friends! F*uck you for abandoning us AGAIN and making everyone believe it is my fault and you don't have a problem!!! How...

Ugh... My gut feeling is that I don't want to be there. I know something has to be done and things have to change but this method worries me. I'll give my feedback to the professionals and see what they say. Maybe I'm so uneasy about it because it feels like the last effort. If it doesn't...

I think this is great advice and I will do this before I make a final decision. Thank you.

Wow, all great responses! Thank you everyone. So it is being handled by a professional and I believe the an is to have a facility ready if he says yes, that he will be taken to immediately. I am participating in some ways behind the scenes. Organizing and providing medical information...

Hello everyone, I have recently separated from my sufferer... Well he separated himself from us, you all know how it goes! Quick background is we have a 3 year old daughter and he is an alcoholic. He has been out of our home for two full weeks and I'm focused on my daughter and I. Very proud...

Just an update, I have an appointment with the lawyer Friday morning. Thank you everyone for your support!

Oh yes, I go my own therapist. I hate reading the truth. Hahahaha!

Oh and one more question... Is it normal for sufferers to only detach/isolate from wife and child? I think it might be but I get the impression from some friends and family that I may be in denial since he doesn't seem to be having an issue anywhere else! Quite frankly I'm pretty sure everyone...

Thank you again for the support. I called yesterday to set up an appointment for consultation. I think this time more than ever before I'm making my decisions more for us than him and more from my head than my heart. It's encouraging to me to see the change in myself. Two side topics...