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Thanks so much for your responses.. Your both correct. As usual lol. I am going to take a week or so to pull it together and then file the order. I'll schedule a consultation now for a few weeks out. Thanks again for your support.

After walking on eggshells for about 3 months and trying to avoid what he said was coming, he left. Saturday morning he woke up, showered, walked down to the basement grabbed some boxes, packed kissed our 3 year old on the top of her head and left.. Just like that. I knew it was coming but...

Oh I know exactly what your saying... I do. My intention is to let him go and eventually I'm sure he will hit whatever bottom he needs to and if he doesn't ever hit that bottom then we are better off anyway. I guess my question is do I help him go? It pissess me off to help him out the door...

Hello everyone, For a weeks my husband and I have been on the downside of our roller coaster and I'm looking for advice. My mind is blurred with thoughts on whether I am being protective of my daughter and I, or am I just trying to be passive aggressive/hold on as long as I can. First let me...

Thank you for your prayers. Is it ridiculous of me to be thinking that given time without me pushing him to talk he will come back around to rational thinking? I'm so afraid that I pushed to hard and now he's going to really go. I realize if he does there is nothing I did wrong and I deserve...

Well, here I am back again. It's been awhile since I've visited the site seeking wisdom and comfort but I suppose I always knew I would be back. Here is a little backround info but I'm sure you are all familiar with my story since you live it every day...

Thank you all for your replies. It helps me to read what I already know to be true. He does in fact admit to his alcoholism and knows it's due to his PTSD. He jokes and says he has to go to the store for his "medicine". I think my mistake is that I bottle it up and blow up when he's drunk. I...

After a long haitus from this board, here I am again. Looking for support and advice or maybe even just to vent. Venting to family and friends is almost impossible these days since when I do, the advice I receive seems unrealistic. Maybe I'm just not ready to take the advice, I don't know. My...

I have been doing this as I think of things. He will be talking to me and instead of jumping right into a conversation I make a note in my phone to address it at therapy. I don't think we are capable just yet of tackling many of these things on our own. This is my number one boundary. I...

That is the plan. I only wish I had allowed myself some time to identify what those boundaries should be. I feel unprepared. I had a preexisting therapy appointment scheduled for Thursday that he has agreed to attend. It is a new therapist for me so we will both be starting fresh. I am...

Hey everyone. Last I posted you all gave me some very good advice on how to handle things with my sufferer and our little girl. I took your advice and was very firm with what was best for her and I. I didn't budge. I always give in when it comes to what I want for myself but when it came to...

I read your other post prior to this but this one really struck me because parts of it are SOOOOO similar to mine. I will tell you which parts so you can at least understand that YOU are not crazy and there are many people like you (me) out there. :-) My sufferer and I met in a similar way and...

Hi MoeXc. Welcome to the forum. I am in the same situation and have been for some time. It's a very difficult life to live. Your very brave for taking a stand for what you believe is best for you and your children. I try very hard to do the same. I am no expert on the topic as I am just...

You nailed it. That is exactly how I have been living. Everything is great as long as I do not bring up anything that he is uncomfortable with. If I bring up drinking, PTSD, or anything related he's a goner. This is why he left in the first place and why he continues to leave. You can see...

I understand what you are saying here. I have been making decisions based on my feelings for the man and not on the well being of me or my daughter. I don't want to believe he is capable of causing harm to her but I wouldn't be asking the questions here if I didn't have something inside of...

Sorry to have been absent from this discussion but I went to sleep. Please allow me to clarify a few things. Please keep in mind that I still love this man very much and continue to make excuses for him. Feel free to call me out on that. As a matter of fact as I am writing this I am thinking...

Just sort of had a revelation here.... I read and replied to nicolette and abstracts posts and when I did that I was focussing completely on my sufferer and his actions. You can see there that when I was focused on him that my responses were that I thought he was a great father. Skip down to...

Springer that is the exact argument I have used when I have tried to explain This is my biggest fear. This is why I am the way I am today

He is a wonderful father and I reading both both of your posts made me see that it is my own anger and not a true fear for my daughter that is wanting me to restrict access to her. I do think that it is still important for me to restrict access to me. I think I have allowed the roller coaster...

Welcome Saturday :)

So it's been awhile since I've posted and that is mainly because like many people who post I typically only post when I'm unhappy or have a problem. I have been happy. If you read some of my previous posts you will see that my sufferer had left me and our baby months ago and we have been...

I started to cry when I read this. I'm at the beginning and I'm putting one foot in front of the other slowly. I keep thinking one morning I will wake up and say "hey I'm ok". I look forward to that day but there is a reluctance to want that at the same time because I still love him so much...

I think the name of the thread speaks for itself but man am I frustrated. I need to vent. Obviously nobody wants to deal with alcoholism in their lives at any point but as many of you know when you grow up with this in your family you can often times become one of us lovely "codependents"...

Hi Sarah. I have been down this road several times and am going through it again as we speak. I will offer you a few things from my own experiences. First this forum is the perfect place for you to be but please be prepared to hear honest feedback. I am new here and have learned that there...

I wanted to thank everyone for your responses and words of encouragement. I've gotten a few of the books recommended and started reading already. I spoke to "the" sufferer ( notoce i dodnt say "my" hahaha) last night and for the first time in a long time when the conversation was over it was...