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To me it has been quite the opposite, the friends who truly care, but even so don't understand, are still my friends and we still are able to have friendship relationships with. I just don't expect them to truly understand, as this is setting the bar way too high for them. I have carefully let...

I've come to learn quickly that expecting people to understand is setting myself up for failure and hurt. It is a more positive way to view it that they won't, don't and can't understand. I think it is something valuable to know and realise.

That is a really positive tip on coping - setting aside a period of time each day to 'go there' with memories, feeling angry, grieving and then allowing the rest of the day to be good - full of the good things around us today. Dear ((((Gizmo)))), I don't think you are wallowing - I think you...

I only have one friend who understands the PTSD, all my other friends and family have no experience of the level of trauma I have experienced, or living with PTSD or the other illnesses I have. The ones that know about the PTSD are often very invalidating. But, I have learned to just accept they...

My husband thought it was personal against him, but over the last few months, he's realised the extent of my history and does understand why intimacy is beyond me at the moment. I hope your husband can start to understand more why it's so difficult and that it isn't personal. I'm glad you're...

Abstract, I'm glad you are still thinking about getting that lump checked out and are talking on here about it to help you move towards being able to do that :hug: Bubz, I hope you are okay? Sounds like such a horrible, difficult time. I know what you mean about the app to get put down, if I...

I am now on Mirtazapine 30mg, Effexor 150mg and Seroquel 50mg. So far I have side effects but they are manageable and won't cause long term damage. I don't want to keep trying different ones and be on the medication merry-go-round, so I'm sticking with this combo. Doc says this is a good...

I can totally understand how scared you are about possibly having DID. I dissociate a lot and my psych doc and T ask me all the time have I noticed things that I must have done whilst dissociated but cannot remember doing. So far I haven't, but I can imagine if I did - I would be very stressed...

((((Gizmo))))). I know how you feel about never getting to tell your father what you think of him. I've only just recently worked out some terrible things about my father (and mother) and how much abuse there was in him letting me be abused by his 'friends'. I wish he were alive in one way so...

I am really happy for you Sues, that is such good news. I am really glad you had someone with you at the court. It was definitely worth the effort and the stress :hug:

This is very common after rape and I relate only too well. I really feel for you, it's a very confusing painful time. I have been unable to have sex with my husband since the PTSD started and I had flashbacks during sex, which is probably around 12 months ago. I can't even consider anything...

My insomnia is very bad and my nightmares are terrible and every night, as my PTSD is severe. I currently take Mirtazapine, which is an AD that helps sleep. It doesn't knock me out like sleeping tablets and I can still hear my kids if they wake up in the night. I can't drive though until the...

I think the hyper-vigilance part is just the need to not get hurt and protection of that. Being overly aware of and then sensing someone's anger or annoyance at us - even when undeserved - triggers the brain into thinking we could get hurt, so we react in a sometimes highly sensitive manner...

I think when you are someone who has had bad parents, a toxic childhood and multiple trauma - it is 'normal' to be a sensitive person. I think it's actually a protection method, but it's over-sensitive. People hurting us has happened all too often, so our brains are very aware of negativity from...

I really like this. And I really hope this works for you. I think this is a really positive thread. Thank you 99Phoenix99 :hug:

I completely agree.

Reading these posts have made me realise something. As a child, I dealt with my abusive parents and CSA through suppression and denial. Which is one way abuse victims deal with the ongoing abuse. It was only when I feared for my life later on and believed I would die, that dissociation kicked...

I started to descend into complete self hate due to guilt about my husband having to go through the issues being married to me. But recently, I have started to understand that we are both doing our best in a difficult situation on both sides. He is cutting me a lot of slack, and I am cutting him...

I agree getting blood works done is a good start. My doc did this and my iron was very low and my Vit D was seriously low which causes low energy. Depression, anxiety, hypervigilance, being a mother of young children and 3 strong medications that cause tiredness are all adding to my fatigue.

Britt.F7, I don't cut myself any slack either. Whatever weight I am is never okay, never good enough. Just like many people have told me. My parents and sisters used me as a 'fun game' of who could come up with the best nasty remark for me being thin. I was never allowed to protest. My worst...

Britt.F7, you don't need to justify your weight to anyone. It is wrong when people assume overweight people are just greedy people, who don't look after their bodies. Everyone is judgemental in life about something. To say we aren't, is a lie. When it becomes a source of anger it is a problem...

Yes PTSD has worsened my physical illnesses, including IBS which is painful and I suspect I may have a mild form of fibromyalgia, as I have a lot of pain in most of the areas normally associated with fibro, which considering I have a high pain threshold, means it must be pretty bad. I also get...

I feel angry when I see parents at fast food places buying food for their obese children. But I know this anger comes from having bad parents myself and wanting all children to be raised appropriately. I also feel angry when I think that 5% of the worlds population own 95% of the worlds wealth...

It is common for sufferers of abuse to try and keep track of their abusers. I've done it as well. I googled my worst abuser and found out information online from a newspaper local to where he lives. My husband didn't understand why I googled him, until I showed him in book on trauma that it is...

Sunny:) That's interesting you developed neck pain from Effexor. I always carry tension in my neck and shoulders, but this has become more painful in the last month, since starting Effexor. I'm now at 150mg, so won't be wanting to increase it and the neck pain get any worse. I'm also on...