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Welcome :) Do you know how to self soothe. It took me a while to learn this skill and when to apply it but it really helps the trick is to use it before you even get close to overwhelm. My suggestion is to start tracking some of your thoughts over time and also when overwhelm hits. I did this...

Do you know what you want more of in your life. For example I want; calm, friendly without being personal, gentle, quiet, supportive, understanding. I have a friend who by comparison wants; lively, exciting, variety, chatty, energetic, action. If you can identify what you want to bring into...

I couldn't read your whole post properly as it brought up too much past for me, sorry. it seems like you have a crap T and you need to ditch them. It took me a while to find my T but she is sooooo much better than the others, very supporting and validating. My first T did a lot of damage to me...

May I offer my thoughts ... As you enter out into this new world, trust your instincts and focus on what you want to have in your life. For example. Where I live there are many coffee shops. The one I go to I chose deliberately. - it has the busy section outside and the slower section...

I always feel defeated by housework. I deep cleaned the kitchen last week, but this week you couldn't tell it was done. I'm not sure how to get past this defeated feeling, but I want too.

I only skimmed the article. I do generally believe the 3 "fixes" though. I believe diet and exercise are important, the god stuff is where I differ. The increase in kids with mental Heath problems I think is skewed by the increased willingness for doctors to diagnose and label. Eg My eldest...

I was genuinely trying to helpful not personal. The example was fictitious and not "mine". If it is deliberately limited to emotional reactions then I have no objection.

"Avoidance of or efforts to avoid external stimuli such as places, conversations, activities, objects, and situations that arouse distressing memories, thoughts, or feelings (add physical response) about or closely associated with the traumatic event(s)" In my opinion The external stimuli...

So, avoidance is limited to emotional reactions, not physical ones? I see this as overly limited as many (maybe particularly those with childhood trauma?) don't emotionally "feel".

I understand this, what I meant was do you (and should you) only meet this criteria if you "avoid" for emotional reasons specifically, and not for other reasons. I avoid because of disassociation and physical responses (eg vomiting) but I don't "emotionally feel" anything. I posted at the same...

Also...I have physical reactions, more than mental/emotional ones. Are they included, should they be?

Does disassociation fall within this. I do t find disassociation distressing but instead dangerous.

I've read these concepts too and I don't think they help with childhood trauma. I'm the same in that there is no pre-trauma me, I was too young. But, I do think learning who you are, and what you like is useful. For example, I like drawing. I used to think I was horrible at drawing. One day I...

Welcome :) One of the things that helped me most was learning to self sooth, and doing these activities regularly and before I "need" them. Everyone's self soothing is different, do you know of things that work for you?

This seems normal trauma therapy to me. There is a lot of work to be done prior to trauma processing (i.e. Talking about it).

Similar happens to me regularly in therapy. I think it's dissociation. My vision goes into tunnel vision and the world goes dark, I can't speak and my mind races but typically only on a single thought. Sometimes I will also dig my nails in. It passes but not if my T keeps talking on the same...

For me it's when I can't see that this feeling/moment/pain will pass. That I can't see that while it will come back (it always does)... I will get a break.

I think that those with the worst off quality of life due to PTSD are most likely those least likely to be able to make use of an assisted suicide service (particularly if you need money or to get past red tape).

Also, if abuse is outside the home and parents are in denial. More important I think than teaching what "bad" tough is....is being a safe person that they can tell, and somehow communicating that.

My approach is to teach kids to say no and model acceptance of their no. My nieces/nephews/friends kids.....I ask for hugs etc and it makes me so proud that when they are not in the mood they say no. I started this when they were very little and it took years, but now they are all great with...

I was thinking that a domestic violence shelter might be willing to help you. Their focus seems to be women and children and I think they would help someone who is not suffering violence. In my area for example, they provide children with clothes, toys etc.

Like fadeaway, I don't feel I could be relied upon. I would however be happy to help if I can. I'm not so sure what the set up is you are proposing. I try to welcome new members in introduction threads, but find it easier if I can relate or understand them from their intro.

Every child is different, every birth is different.

To ask for help effectively I think you need to ask for something the other person both can, and is willing to give. I'm not suggesting this is you but I've noticed on this forum people reaching out in the 3D world when wanting to self harm, then feeling rejected. I think what might happen is...

I think it's important you tell this to someone on the case, as long as you trust this person not to push your daughter for the information. Your daughter should only tell when she's ready, if she is ever ready.