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I agree that if you heard your self say something you didn't want to say (and you have DID), then that is pretty active, and probably means you were co-conscious during that experience. I think of passive influence like when others/parts/alters are putting thoughts/feelings into me when I'm out...

Has anyone read any good/helpful articles or books about when parents gaslight their juvenile children while raising them?

Thanks for sharing your experience, @TraumaMama , its comforting to know there are others in the same boat.

Thanks, @feixapreta , yes, I have tried those, but no luck yet.

I never thought of that, @Tj's Paradigm Shift , I never connected it the the PTSD freeze response before, thanks for that insight!

Thanks for your thoughts, @Wilbur , I agree, gaining trust in a therapist is a long process. I have been with mine over a year now, and only now (and only sometimes, depending on what parts are up) feel some trust enough to talk about some harder things. I think having the structure and support...

I found a book that says its self-therapy using IFS so I am going to download it and check it out.

@Hopefulphoenix , thank you so much for your message, it really does feel better knowing youre not alone. Also, I can totally relate to this:

@Wilbur , IFS is one therapy i haven't tried because i haven't found a therapist who does it, but that is a great idea, I can look around more and see if I can find one who does. I never knew other people experienced this! This happens to me at unpredictable times, no rhyme or reason to what...

Thanks for replying, @Kubash16 . I've tried everything therapists have suggested, and read tons of self-help books too. I can't even think of the names of everything we've done--neurofeedback, EMDR, CBT, DBT, compassion-focused, those are what I can remember. This job thing seems to be its own...

I need help thinking through this, and thought you might be able to help. My diagnoses are DID, PTSD, and OCD, so I put this in here because you all are maybe more likely to understand because you have other disorders besides PTSD. Background: Okay, so I have been unemployed for 6 years now. I...

Yes, if there is lots of switching, or just a more energy-using part, I will feel utterly exhausted after. If I can't rest/sleep, I just push myself through the day till I can.

Same, in most cases I don't find it clear who is doing what. It'll just be "some/one of the others are...." or "some/one of the others feel...." etc. Sometimes its clear who specifically it is, but not as often as it being unclear.

Thanks for sharing, @Reflections , it helps to hear that there really are people out there who take you as you are, who and understanding and accepting.

Thanks for sharing your experiences, @PURUSHA, it is encouraging to read that people have made it work despite their PTSD and related problems.

Just kidding. I agreed to the date. Then the next day I canceled. Looks like it was stupid of me to even try.

Interesting insight, @shatter eyes , and I like what you said about it possibly being a conditioned response to avoid good experiences, that makes a lot of sense to me. All I can say is YES. THIS.

I've been there, @Pauline, its such a painful place to me. I was just reading an old journal this afternoon, one from 12 years ago, where I was writing very similar things to what you wrote here. I kept writing things like "Everything's impossible, there are no solutions, I've tried everything...

Thanks everyone, for your thoughts and encouragement. I think I am going to go ahead and go on this date.

Good tip, thanks for that! Hey @JadeB. , yes I did date before the DX but haven't since. I kinda stress cause I don't want to mislead people or be dishonest, that doesn't seem like a good way to begin any relationship, friend or otherwise. So I don't know how to work around talking and getting...

Wow, thanks @Ronin and @somerandomguy , your responses really helped me feel better and less frustrated. I think i get so ashamed of different aspects of myself and my life and start to believe other people won't like or accept me because of them, and forget that I've had plenty of friends (and...

How do you ever date or get married when you have DID?? A friend wants to set me up, and I suddenly realized: who wants to date someone with child alters? I realized how there is so much about my life that I'm ashamed of, that I try to hide from people. But when you date, people ask questions...

@Reflections , I have DID, and the majority of my parts do not have names. When asked, one explained to my therapist that it wasn't safe or smart to have names because then others might find out they were there and we'd end up in the loony bin-so safer to have no name and just respond to mine...

Its okay that its hard to explain, @Pauline , we understand, many of us experience those dissociative symptoms. Its scary, confusing, and stressful! So your response is normal! Trauma was hard to comprehend when it happened, thats why you end up with dissociative states. Its okay, there's no...

Just so you know, @Sandstone , there are many of us in the same boat, worried we are faking our DID or OSDD/DDNOS. Denial is easier because it feels more in control to believe we are making it up than to feel out-of-control that we actually have this condition that is so disruptive. Self-blame...