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@candor , he seems to have forgotten that his behaviour is his responsibility (and never anyone else's responsibility). It doesn't matter whether you knowingly or unknowingly provoked him, it matters whether he is able to keep his behaviour within acceptable limits. (This rule does not apply...

Mine gets a LOT more painful, but I'm not sure that it's worse. I don't get dissociative amnesia anymore. It feels worse in the short term, but the subtle ways that it used to mess up my life have reduced dramatically.

It sounds like you've been extremely productive, and now you're tired. The timing seems pretty inconvenient, to put it mildly! Your ideas make sense: Keep some structure, focus on the essentials, and finish the semester the best you can. If the best r&r you can get involves dissociating, try to...

In the context of these forums, I do not have any authority to tell people how to post. I did request. I made a genuine effort to make sure that my request was not perceived as exercising an authority which I do not have, and that it was a request. I'm going to try to take my own advice, work...

My feeling is that @Unsure does see it as an issue, but is struggling to find ways to organize their mind and their activities in ways that are safe. My read of the message that we're all talking about is that they said "I don't think it's safe for me to drive. But I don't think I have any...

Thanks for explaining that - I can see how you've been offering a clear picture that can be understood while under stress, and why it would be helpful. I seem to be working though my "Why don't people help the way I want them to help" stuff again at the moment. Hmmm.

Which journal? I feel like I'm close at the moment - my internal communication is really strong, and I practice a lot of my communication skills on outsiders - my outside relationships are better than my inside relationships. I lost the ability to speak for several hours last week - now that...

In Amethyst's description of how she's doing, the way that she talked about crying hinted at avoidance. Hence meeting criterion C, and therefore possibly PTSD. The statement "You don't seem to be avoiding anything any more than anyone else does" is either reassuring (if it is as it seems) or...

There's definitely something serious going on (especially now that we have a bit more information). When I said "I'm glad you're getting therapy" it's because I think she does need therapy. I agree that it's important to get an assessment! And while "You might have PTSD" is a reason to get...

If guilt and shame were effective at getting people to do what's good for them, then all of us here would be taking care of ourselves really well. But we're not. Because guilt and shame don't work. If I accept that others have the freedom to tell people to feel guilty and ashamed, then I'll...

@Iriseen , I think you've raised some complex issues in your reply. I'll send you a private conversation request, or perhaps we can start a separate thread. It's important to recognize that Unsure is feeling hurt and confused right now. If we say things that cause pain, it becomes harder for...

The thing to note is that after a month is when you start to assess for PTSD, there are quite a few other relevant diagnoses that produce symptoms that last longer than a month. A critical component for a PTSD diagnosis is avoidance: It's not enough to have distressing memories to have PTSD...

So much has been covered! I'm glad that you're feeling safe enough that you're able to let your feelings show, even though they are scary feelings. It sounds like there is support available to you, which is great. The one thing I'd add is that by getting into therapy quickly (like you are...

Hi @Unsure, I'm really glad that you've asked for help with something that I'm finding really difficult. I'm trying to do what you're trying to do, which is to earn the trust of the parts that set out to hurt me. The first bit of good news is that I posted about having a part that wants to kill...

Most of what I've learned, I've learned by explaining things to people - there's something about writing down your thoughts that helps you to clarify them. And, like everybody else, I don't speak with any kind of moral authority. It helps me when I say things that I also need to hear.

Firstly: I only come here when I want something that I can't get anywhere else. So I don't mind that we have that in common. I've seen old film of myself (super 8, from before home video), and it showed me being happy. And it's true that there were times when I was happy. It's also true that...

Sounds like you're doing all the right things. Therapy twice a week is pretty intense; you'll improve faster, but you'll be tired a lot. Other than that, I guess 'read other threads' is something that helps me. There's a lot of stuff that can help you work out what your questions are, as well...

You're welcome. And yeah, the fighting is tiring and unpleasant. And we need to fight hardest when we are the least able. It sucks.

You found a way to say something (anything), and that can be really tough. Well done. You have a therapist who is aware that you're dissociating! This is also good. I find it really hard to talk about my own problems, easier to help other people with theirs. It's good enough; paying attention...

That question (how to get by on your own) is definitely the first one to ask on Monday! I have no idea how the NHS works, so can't advise about getting another assessment done, but it should be possible. Get a piece of paper and put it on the fridge, put your local suicide hotline and crisis...

Wow, this gearbox metaphor gained a lot of traction! I'm inclined to see if more torque on the subject would be equally powerful.... So, if we use 'gearbox' as a metaphor for the mind, and we talk about different personality states as 'being in different gears' then we can see that the 'gears'...

In addition to much great stuff above: "Part" does not mean "Fake". A gearbox is not a car. A car without a gearbox isn't going to work very well. A gearbox without a car doesn't do much either, but it's still a gearbox. These parts, they do important stuff. We grow them because we need them...

I've been away a bit. Been practicing some new coping methods that I'm not practiced with. It's been difficult and tiring. Am starting to feel like I'm getting there. That I can participate in these forums without losing my ability to be present in my offline life. New things are always more...

I look at how the word is made: 'flash' and 'back'. It's a sudden thing, disorienting and jarring. And it takes you back. You can qualify it with a word. So 'emotional flashback' takes your emotions back. 'Somatic flashback' takes your bodily sensations back. None of those meanings are very...

Relapses are an essential part of the healing process, but damn, they hurt. That pain is just as real as any other, and it's a signal that means "I need help." It seems to me that you're doing the right things. Keep on taking care of yourself and accessing help.