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She would not do that. She tried insurance in the beg of her career and felt frustrated. She said that insurance reps would tell her directly to encourage her patients to go on meds (with a psychiatrist or md) as ultimately that was cheaper than patients just staying in talk therapy. So as a...

I am just used to reading stories of where many people have a hard time and can only go in network or not get therapy at all. That used to be me for many years and its what has caused my current debt, which I feel ashamed of. I am confused about what I should do because although we can budget...

Well yes, but its hard to explain why I don't think I do. It feels crazy just to go in there and drop 110 on therapy for 50 mins! My psychiatrist was 250 an hour. It is just so tempting to try to make in network work. I am a little surprised by the responses here. I thought people might say to...

Wow, thanks for that response @deeplyloved. I feel that same way about my trauma T. I also saw an out of network psychiatrist who saved my life. I never feel guilty about her, but I do about my trauma t. My trauma T listens to me and "gives me love" in a therapeutic sense, so I guess that is...

Yes, this is so me. I like to save money to cope. I feel terrible spending it. This is why my husband's financial lies were so appalling. Due to my insomnia and benzo withdrawal I asked him to manage the money. Well, it did not get managed well and a big part of that is my out of network costs...

So, I love all these responses and I think because you are all echoing what's in my heart, I want to stay with my out of network T. And I realize after posting this, there are deeper issues. This feeling of guilt and now the guilt is even stronger because I want to save money and spend wisely...

Thanks for these insights. It is just hard now to justify this because our new insurance benefits being so good, not having to meet a deductible. 20 dollars versus 110 dollars a therapy hour. It just kills me. I don't like to spend money at all. Money issues are woven into my trauma history, so...

Hi, I need your insights. I am recovering from financial infidelity from my husband. He mismanaged the money basically and lied about our finances to "protect me" while I was recovering from a long bout of insomnia. He then got a great job (doubled his salary) and finally came clean. We are in...

I think reading that really communicates the point (through the questions) that he intentionally harmed you and is responsible for his actions. The act of questioning and really looking at the details and calling them into the light seems like a healing process. I want to do this with the people...

So my therapist has to be reminded easily 3 times to send an invoice. Its easy to forget they are human and make mistakes. This might actually be a fluke in that he has had to reschedule several times with you just because of his life, but normally does not do that.

I am doing better now. You just have to move thru it.

So, it all just feels too much. I have been struggling with benzo withdrawal effects 11 mos that never seem to end. These effects come in waves and they are diff than my PTSD, but they make it worse. It has been 5 yrs of being ill from psych med sensitivity. My husband has been lying to me. I am...

I think it was hard to explain it in my original post. It felt hard to write it. It feels like everything is a sham. I do not feel he did his best to help me. Doing his best would be to be honest with me. Now, I just do not feel like spending money at all. I just felt so much shame last week...

Yes, there are a lot of cognitive distortions here. There is a sort of punishment thing im doing. I grew up with a lot of financial insecurity and the feeling that I should never buy anything ever. So, it is hard to see an out of network T. She is just too good for me. I also, for practical...

Yes, you are right about me personalizing my T. The codependency issue is in my marriage and I feel ashamed of this in front of my T.

So, I would love some insight into my issue. It feels like I do not deserve my T, like she is too good for me. I did a recent post about my husband's financial infidelity. He lied for years about what we could afford. I struggled with insomnia and severe withdrawal issues to SSRI's and benzos. I...

So, I want to chime in here. I was raised very strictly Catholic. I was hit with a belt, spoon, hairbrush, and yard stick. My mother did this, but dated a man for a couple of years who really did this to me. It was always called a "spanking". My mother's bf hit me with his belt and it became...

So, I would just hang in there and hold until you stabilize. I don't think alternating drug amounts the way you were is good. Your nervous system wants steady and consistent dosing going down only and holding if needed. Taking a 10 percent reduction out at consistent intervals and holding when...

Hi, So, I have not tapered off this specific drug before, but have tapered from lexapro, ambien, and klonopin. I have a brain that gets very severe withdrawal that can be protracted. I am 11 mos out from my klonopin taper and I STILL get withdrawal symptoms like nausea, flu like symptoms, OCD...

So, you do not have to give up drawing or shading. Therapy can really help with that. You could also look into clay: wheel throwing or hand building ceramic forms. This is very unlike shading and it is very soothing to PTSD and calming to the nervous system. There is also painting and collage...

Ok, so I am putting this here in relationships, but its about being extremely triggered. My husband recently admitted to committing financial infidelity and we are working on this and getting into therapy. I did a post about it somewhere. I have had normal reactions of anger, sadness, even...

So I was molested by a woman (and also most likely by a man) and here are some specific issues that arise from the same sex scenario: 1. I hate changing in the locker room. I have heard repeatedly how this is "safe" because of the only women aspect of locker rooms. I hated seeing older naked...

So it is still hard and there are issues. I found out he got behind on the morgage payment. I had to call up the bank and have a conversation about it. I have good money sense and so my plan is to budget it to take care of the fee so its atleast current. I am budgeting how to get the 2nd morgage...

Thanks @Freida that made me feel better. I hope counseling helps us like the way it did you. I was feeling such shame over all of this and that helped. The codependency, the suicidal thoughts on my part, the extreme actions/mistakes of my husband-all shame. It was hard to write on here, but I am...

I think I am going to try that. Think of other options. All of this is making sense and it is a wake up call for my relationship. I am the sick one and my husband took care of me-very codependent. And I had post partum depression where nothing worked and drug withdrawal-I needed my husband and...