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I dont know why its an issue. My attachment issues make me really f*cked up. I am terrefied this is going to make her uncomfortable. But I am always afraid she will reject me.

So there was a therapist that I did this with a while back and I had seen her only once or twice but did see her fb page and it was not a big deal. But this is a big deal because of my attachment issues. I know I need to process this with her but am scared to. I cannot be the first person who...

Yes so that is why I googled her. It was out of a need to know she was real. I was actually trying to find a scholary article or something from her that I could read out of an attachment need but ran into personal info and then I was just plain curious. I wasnt trying really to connect with her...

No not for jealousy because she already knows this. But for the fact that I feel I crossed a boundary somehow. I really just wanted to find out about her and feel connected, but now I have illicit info. I feel like I crouched into her life and shouldn't have. I worry she will think I am creepy...

No I wasnt stalking her. I googled her. Is googling someone stalking them? I wasnt trying to find out where she lived or anything.

So, I may have posted about this in the past. I googled my T twice in the past 3 years. I found an article about her childhood (prob from a local paper) And I found her on fb. She had some photos there, but it was limited. I was in a dark time both times. I have crazy attachment/transference...

Hi, I get the anxiety surrounding sleep and drugs. I suffered from severe post partum insomnia and had multiple bad reactions to drugs. CBT, ACT, and DBT are all very powerful for sleep. The answer here may not be just with drugs, but stopping trauma work and doing some skills work. Acceptance...

I am going to do this, but she can be pretty loose with this. She is a trauma focused pyschodynamic t. And her personality is pretty laid back. She has stated more so descriptions of the care I need or a direction to go in, like she will say things like: You need healing through a relationship...

Well so I do not want a new T. She always says to use "wise mind". My wise mind tells me that she is good. Thanks @grit your post was helpful. I like this: And this would work with her. She looks at me engaged and allows silence to happen and then I feel fear. I fear she may not be invested in...

Hi, I need advice on how to handle/navigate being in a long term theraputic relationship. I have been seeing my T for 2 and a half years, already and still need help. We are working on my relationship/attachment issues. But I took a break to move and now am back, but since coming back it has...

I am just so triggered by this now. I had insomnia last night. I laid awake wondering if my time with her is over Why do I do this? Why do I have to be so dramatic? I hate the attachment feelings and I told her that, but she brings me into them and says they are necc to do the work. I think I...

Have you ever had a bad therapy session with a good therapist? So it was bad today. I started out telling her that I have attachmemt feelings (love) for her, which I have said before. We are specificly working on me developping a secure attachment with her. She asked if I feel like I can have...

I have found that physical things that help me ground work like: An earthing pad or barefeet in the grass Epsom salt bath Hot/cold shower Weighted blanket Hot tea

So I think words like power, control, and weapon are maybe strong for this situation. I mean that maybe you are trying to feel in control of the situation thru humour. I used those words just to say that a really funny person can illicit uncontrolable laughter which can feel like light torture...

Ive been following this and wanted to share my thoughts. So, my first thought is that sometimes you really cannot help laughing. Laughing is a very primitive response (like an ape call). There is a Ted Talk about this on the origins of laughter or something like that. Close your eyes and just...

Yes, you are right. I brought up a lot to her last week and it was a good session. She actualy likes it when I say exactly whats on my mind, it is interesting to her.

So, with my trauma focused T it is easy to talk about the past. I guess I feel validated by telling her about all of the crap that happened to me. But it is soooo hard to talk about how I am f*cked up in the present. I can mention flashbacks and hypervigilence, and many other symptoms. But some...

Hi Pls try to recognize that these events arent connected nor about you. It is easy to feel like there is an "abuse me" tatoo on you, but really this is just random shit. Im sorry this happened especially because you were already fearing it. Think of all the times you were in the grocery store...

Update: I now have an appt with my T. Thanks everybody for helping to keep me afloat. It was pretty dark there for awhile.

Hi @blackemerald1 Thanks for this. I am using major cognitive distortions with my T. (Attachment issues) I will talk to her about this. I do like to have an appt on the books tho before she drops contact which she did since thurs and an appt was not agreed upon. She did reply to me intially...

Ok, so I am coming out of the depression episode slowly. Whenever I get one there is always like several hours where I do not really use skills at all. I dont do anything harmful like cut or drink I just sit there and let all of the negative thoughts swarm around. That is all I can do because I...

I am tried the crisis chat and it was a 15 min delay I am going to try again today.

No I dont have the appt. She replied with a time which I couldnt do and then I responded back. That was thurs. She hasnt gotten back to me to give me a time that works. I have since emailed her to tell her I am doing worse. She doesnt seem to care. I havent been in to see her lately due to...

I did call back. Logically I know this is a technical problem. When I called back I went thru it again where they counted down by telling me I was 1 min away, 15 secs away only to start all over again being told I was once again 3rd in line. This would be upsetting if I was calling about my...

I am practicing containment. I just don't think the suicide hot line should hang up on people.