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Wow, thanks for the replies. I am hearing many thoughts here: 1. Trauma being interpretted as something else like demonic possession. I think that trauma being "taboo" in POC families and culture is an interesting point. Why is this the case? Is it a weakness/strength thing? 2. Struggling with...

Hi, I am looking for thoughts or comments from people of color who have experienced trauma. Also, any one who has a comment. I am a white woman (with PTSD) and I have been doing a lot of diversity work. I was at a conference and I had many reactions. 1. I have suffered in my life, but have...

Oh ok, thank you.

What does the "AF" stand for?

My T says traumatzed people can have sensitive and adverse reactions to drugs. I agree with others here to try really low doses and titrate up. That is something a doc can accommodate easily. There are also a lot of non drug options that do help just as well. Especially when it comes to sleep...

So I have taken 3 SSRI's in my life. I took Effexxor (not an SSRI, but does boost serotonin). I took Zoloft I took Lexapro. I took the last two during post partum depression. All 3 meds caused manic reactions, extreme anxiety, some psychosis like symptoms, extreme intrusive thoughts, weird...

I would not feel bad about wanting to get it corrected. This is not shallow if others have pointed that out. Though I would at the same time work on body acceptance. I had my lazy eye corrected and it changed my life making me feel more confident talking to people and making eye contact...

Could you look into sueing for disfiguration? I would spend the money for a new surgery. If this is a complete loss of life, what is the cost of your life? I would talk with a lawyer or just save and get it redone. I would then suggest body/appearance acceptance therapy.

So you dont know how is life is really going. He sounds like a jerk to me with the rape and refusing to wear a condom. He is prob a jerk with her too. Maybe he will end up alone after all. You are projecting your own maternal yearnings onto them in terms of jealousy/resentment. They could be...

I agree with all the others. Not normal at all. She crossed a boundary to tell you that. It isn't your story specifically, but more her capacity to handle it. She may have been trying to validate your experience but ended up blaming you. I get why you would feel bad about sharing, but that was a...

I was an RA in college so essentially had all of that training on consent in order to support my residents. So my assault happened after this. I distinctly said no to him and even talked about consent. He just threw his head back and laughed. So that class is great news and will help in some...

My T brought up something similar. She said that the shame is not mine. I like that. The shame belongs to the perpetrator. I felt responsible at 4. I tried to get away so many times.

That helps because I feel like such a nerd. I was made fun of for being so 'naive'. I was actually trying to be promiscuous and thats how I got assaulted. I went to a club, got a little typsy, met a guy, took him back to my place and I changed my mind. I got triggered because of the sexual abuse...

Thanks, I will check that book out. Even thinking about buying that book and then reading it, I felt a combo of dread and nausea. It is hard to even talk about. Sex for me is synonymous with disgusting. I also have feelings that I am completely disgusting and not attractive. This is not the...

So, I have been working with my therapist on reclaiming my sexuality. I was object raped at age 4 (and other acts I remember and don't remember) by women and (possibly men) then assaulted (almost raped in college). I have had varying degrees of issues effecting my sex life. I used to always need...

Freezing does not mean you are weak. I had a ton of child hood stuff and when I encountered sexual assault as an adult I froze and left my body and then I was very accommodating. Can you explain to your bf that you had the "freeze" trauma response and it does not mean you were ok with what...

Hi, So I get why this is so triggering, this makes a lot of sense considering that this is what your abuser said. You can use some insight to see these people as ignorant. Abuse can be terrible and people don't want to believe horrible shit can happen so they are discounting you because of...

Hi, I went back and read your story after I had liked your update. I do still like that you found closure and maybe people can change... But, seriously after re-reading your story you were brutally and viciously raped. I was almost raped and we were drunk and it was consensual at first, but I...

Yeah, so therapy helps with this. You need to process the rape. You may have these triggers for awhile, but as my T says, "You can get your sexuality back."

Hi, I wanted to tell you that the drugs you took and tapered off of could be contributing to your agoraphobia. If this is the case, then this symptom is temporary as it could be withdrawal related. Having said that, stress (from your family) may make withdrawal symptoms from drugs worse and...

I agree with these last few posts. I would not want this T to help my mother understand LGBT issues. She is still indirectly helping you. She should not be mentioning your mother (a client) at all. Your abuser could still get to you through her. Would your mom understand that this has been...

I wanted to emphasize what another person said, that he found a way to you via your T. So that is f*cked up, psycho total manipulation bull shit right there! She fell for it. He found a way to you in a safe space. He knew what he was doing. A more clever, ethical T who understands domestic...

Hi @EveHarrington I wanted to reply to your post to tell you that I have felt what you felt. You are still so young! I felt bad that I was not an artist, but I am doing little steps and my goals may be realized in my 40's, that's ok! I am turning 39 and this depresses me, but I still have a lot...

So I wanted to reply to you to tell you that teachers are mandatory reporters and they will let the principal and poss the counselor know as well. I am a teacher and if a student came to me to disclose abuse I would let my principal know and either she (he) or I would be required to notify...

I have this same issue with getting better and not being in therapy. But you could stay in therapy as long as you need to. Your needs might change.