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Thanks nursenurse. It's really difficult because I never felt it was a lack of love. We both seemingly loved each other very much and had an extremely healthy relationship despite the PTSD. We never fought, and we both had so much fun together. In fact, we had just gone out of town together the...

I'm back. Sorry to have yet another post so soon. Just really struggling. Everyone's answers are like saving graces to me. They help so incredibly much, that it's hard not to come on here when I'm hurting and seek that out. No one else understands. I guess my question is about how to give...

Thank you for your response. I sent her a message today and told her what I said; that I know she's struggling, but it's not an excuse to trample those who love her. I've never really stood up for myself while in our relationship. I pretty much let her get away with just about everything on...

I get it. She's struggling. That's not an excuse to trample the people who only tried to love you and support you.

I just wanted to update and see if anyone can help me at all. Or at least explain what the heck I apparently did wrong. I called her for the first time in two weeks on thursday and she finally answered. We spoke for about fifteen minutes, catching up and just seeing how we each were doing. The...

I think I'm reaching the anger stage. I suppose that was what was meant by blackswan referencing the stages of grief. I know it's not her fault, but all of this has taken such a huge toll on me emotionally, that it really has finally made me angry. I've been so patient for so long. I've been so...

Thank you junebug. See, that was the thing. I understood her needs and I tried so hard to support her. I was always understanding and forgiving. I learned through trial and error what she needed and how to respond to her emotions. And always implimented them. But yet she STILL left. I read...

Can you explain the push/pull to me a bit? I understand it a bit but not fully.

Thank you for responding. That's what I'm starting to realize - that I've let her get away with so many things, all in the name of PTSD. I wanted to support her so badly, and be there through thick and thin, but I refuse to be treated poorly or hurt like that. And it doesn't make it okay because...

She's really good at making really hurtful comments when we've broken up in the past. Every time we've broken up, she says things that really sting in a big way. After we would reconcile, I would ask her why she said those things and if she meant them and she always says it's to push me away so...

Thanks blackswan and junebug. Your words are comforting. I really need it at a time like now.they mean a lot. I've just been keeping myself busy. Hanging out with friends, etc. It's been working wonders. But I still miss her so much. It's just so hard for me to wrap my brain around - the fact...

Thank you everyone, so much. So so so much. The answers are truly amazing. I'm just having a very hard time with it. I miss her so incredibly much. This is one of the hardest things I've gone through :/ In a way, I feel like I failed her. I tried so hard to be there for her and be her rock...

I didn't mean it as in I was only giving her two or three nights to heal. That came out different than I had intended. I meant that I had already gathered she needed time, as I had been giving it to her and was going to continue to give it to her. To restate she needed time at that point, when I...

Springer 80 I just keep reading and rereading your post. That really got in my head and really broke things down for me in a way I never would have ever understood. this is all so heartbreaking.

Wow, springer80 - that really was very insightful. I'm literally at a loss. Thank you for breaking it down for me like that. In a way, that was hard to read. Just hard to know she deals with all of that. :( that really hit home.

Caterpillar, that explained things in a way I don't think I could have ever understood otherwise. Thank you for that. That really helps a ton. I think in many ways, you're exactly right about that. I think that's how she feels. Any stress in our relationship, and she feels she is better off...

Thanks to the both of you very much. I really appreciate you taking the time to respond. Springer80, I do appreciate your words of wisdom. I don't think she realizes that the only time she remotely seems happy is when we are together. She doesn't seem to see that. But it seems crystal clear to...

Hey all. I had received some great advice from a thread I had created about two weeks ago. It was about how to handle my anxiety from being a supporter. However, it turned out that she broke up with me shortly thereafter. I got some great support, but I really need some more right about now. A...

Thank you so much. Yes, it feels very much like the right person, wrong time. I've never loved another person so much in my life. It's pretty unbearable. I've just been trying to keep busy and be with friends. I just miss her so much. I tried contacting her and she just ignores me. That hurts...

Hey there. Thanks for the reply bronswan. So much for that fist bump for the weekend away, as I just got dumped on Sunday evening. I'm pretty torn up and heartbroken about it. It always catches me so off guard. We just had an incredible weekend away together, and then she tells me she can't be...

To answer some questions, yes, she is in therapy. She's also working on DBT in order to learn how to communicate more effectively. That has just started, so I need to be patient with it, I know. It's just hard. She is trying to get healthy and she is working on herself. I'm just having a hard...

Thanks to everyone who has taken the time to respond. It's all wonderful and fantastic advice. I swear I'm not your husband, fadeaway lol. Although it sounds very much like I am in your husbands shoes and you are in my girlfriends. Your situation you described sounds exactly like mine. I think...

I'm at my wits end. I don't know how much longer I can hold on. I feel so frustrated, I actually just sat down and cried my eyes out. Sometimes my relationship can be so wonderful. She can be the most kind and compassionate woman I've ever met and the best girlfriend. Then the next week she's...

Firefly - I just did some background reading about both of those books and they sound amazing! A trip to the local bookstore is in order later today! Thank you so much.

No, I haven't read either of those booms. I'll have to check those out! Thanks for the insight! And thanks all for the kind words. It's very much appreciated.