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How awful for you - I know how hard I would find such a sudden end. The working environment sounds impossible though, I wonder if she’s feeling a bit burnt out - which doesn’t help you in that she’s still not there but might help you know it’s not about you (because that would be my fear and...

Well done on making the appointments- are you able to say what’s scaring you?

I wonder if this is worth exploring in therapy as a core belief? If you take it to extreme it means you potentially owe something of yourself to every person on the planet. There has to be a way for you to find a cut off point when “x” isnt owed anything by you without you feeling like you’re...

I’m ok thanks, kept myself very busy over the weekend - can still feel “that” feeling in the pit of my stomach that is a bit dreading seeing T again, both because I’ve had to ask for support between sessions - which I rarely do - and because I’m already minimising how I’m feeling. It’ll be a...

I would caution that if you tell a teacher about your abuse they will most certainly tell your parents. You’re legally still a child and the school will have processes for when a child disclosed abuse, because of the potential impact on the child and their safety. I only mention this because you...

I don’t know if this will help you but it’s something I’m in the middle of just now. I was in an incredibly abusive situation. I cognitively know it was abusuve, it’s an area I have training in and know that I know it was abusive. But. Accepting that this person in this situation was abusive...

I don’t think you’re lying, but PTSD is a complex diagnosis especially in young people. It can sound the same as lots of other difficulties even when trauma has been involved. You will find a lot of different supports here and the information will be useful in terms of grounding etc. I don’t...

My sense is you might be pacing things too quickly, I know I need to take things slowly, give myself space in session to feel things because my natural instinct is to get through it quickly because I can say what I need to - which feels important - but it takes space for me to sit with how I...

I don’t know about DID, but this sounds like a very normal physical reaction to trauma, shaking and crying is one of the ways the body releases adrenaline after whatever danger has passed - it sounds like talking about the trauma puts your body back into fight or flight in session which, passes...

I’m wondering what response you were hoping for? Most Ts, including trauma therapists can’t offer a 24 hour crisis service and really, if you’re close to suicidal, hospital is where you need to be. Again, you may not like her response, but it’s honest - most people, including Ts, have things...

I don’t think weak people do fall apart and get taken care of, I think people sometimes fall apart and need care. Nothing weak about a very human response to difficulties. PTSD happens when our very human coping mechanisms become overwhelmed and our natural processes for making sense of the...

It sounds like you’re quite clear that it was abusive - I do think you’re trying to figure something out for yourself, but I don’t think the abusive nature of what she did is where your question lies.

Thank you - it’s nice to be supported too :) I love your list of distractions btw, I think sky diving might be marginally less sore than where I am just now. I’ve got a lot of stuff on this weekend, much of it people stuff when I’d rather be by myself tbh, but it will be good for me to be out...

It’s not unusual in my experience for the person being cheated on to know, on some level, that it’s happening. Telling them and bringing it into the open may force them to openly face something they don’t want to acknowledge and I don’t think generally we have the right to do that to someone...

My T is a superstar, she knew I was struggling at the end of the session but she’ll always leave it to me to ask for support if I need it. And we’ve been round this block a few times now. Funny, I expect him to deny it, say I consented, he was misunderstood etc though I don’t doubt him...

Except research shows a varying degrees of increased risk of developing acute PTSD in the event of a new traumatic experience, dependant on original and subsequent trauma type - it’s far from across the board, and in some cases show no significant increase in risk of chronic PTSD, again trauma...

So what’s the difference between recovery and cure other than semantics?

So you’re basically saying that someone who has had mental illness is forever “living in recovery”.

It’s definitely part of it, mainly because reporting it would mean accepting that what happened was abusive. I mean in my head I know it was, I know what grooming and exploitation looks like but attaching those labels to me in this situation feels very painful. So part of me thinks if I report...

And a person who no longer experiences situations as triggering and doesn’t experience any symptoms to a debilitating degree, for whom their trauma is a memory like any other is...?

I can see that it’s a crossed boundary but depending on the relationship, the therapists modality and the understanding of what was being offered I think it’s ok particularly if it’s the difference between having therapy or not when the client is in crisis. The other possibility would be her...

And what I’m saying is that research shows the vast majority consider themselves to be cured and are considered to be cured by the professionals involved. The concept of recovery suggests active management of symptoms when there are folk who would say they don’t have symptoms to manage and hence...

Thanks folks, I’ve kept myself busy today and have stuff over the weekend that will help me get through. I like the idea of things lessening in intensity and know that to be true but I strongly suspect this will get worse before it gets better. I’ll find a way through but just now it is what it is.

How would she signal to those parts that now was visiting time? There’s some good resources in IFST that involves getting all parts to agree on X, so instead of getting pissed off your other parts could help communicate with your T.

Sorry, that was me - hit anonymous by mistake!