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I was able to get a domestic violence TRO today! It's just the temporary one, and I have to go back in a few weeks for the hearing to see if it's granted. But for now, or at least after my ex is served by the sheriffs. Now I just have to hope this doesn't send him into a crazy rage and he...

Yes, Gizmo, thank you! I agree Brat17. My first divorce attorney, who worked for ME, talked me out of reporting a phone call from him. She told me it would just piss off the police and make things worse.

Hi Pinkcake, I have no idea how to explain it, but that's why I haven't told anyone about it! I'm scared that I will get that reaction, or worse. Maybe some day I'll get over my anxiety and fear and let someone know.

My adult son lives with me. We both left my ex together. My son's very big and very protective of his Mom. :D The restraining orders are free if there's any violence. It's just a matter of convincing a judge to say ok and agree. Unfortunately that's not easy. There's no evidence, I never...

I procrastinate too. It feels like avoidance because I use it to avoid doing things that will remind me of triggers or that cause anxiety.

I've always like animals a lot better than people. You know what to expect from animals, people, eh. I was at court today for a restraining order and it's been a very stressful few days. There was a woman there with a service dog waiting in the hallway. That little dog came right up to me and...

The judge denied my request for a TRO for a domestic violence restraining order. They claim there's not enough evidence of violence. Oh, so he's got to either beat me up, kill me, or at least threaten to kill me in front of others and it has to have been recently. :banghead: Now I have to go...

Hi Maryann V! I've always had a problem with this too. My main thing is that I think of forgiveness as saying 'I'm ok with what you did. I forgive you, lets be friends' or something of that sort. Others say it's not about forgiving them, but about moving on and being ok with what happened. Not...

OK, I just wrote up the attachment for the request for the TRO for tomorrow. That was really hard to do. I had to write about my ex and what he did and said and stuff. Ugghhh!!!! I feel better about the whole thing for tomorrow though. Having this written up makes me feel like I'm more ready...

Thanks everyone. I'll update you on how it goes. The first step is the 'TRO' or Temporary Restraining Order. I go (hopefully tomorrow) before a judge, plead my case, and they grant (or not) a TRO that goes into effect immediately. I have him served with it. That stays in effect until we both...

Oh yeah, Saphy, I definitely had a bad day today. Like I said, I'm heading out tomorrow to file for another restraining order. Part of the order will be to stay away from me and my work. I do read the letters. They are upsetting, but also show what a juvenile liar he is. I have them all and...

Thanks Gizmo. I live in California. My ex is a retired police officer, so the local PD are not very sympathetic towards me. Today was spent with my boss and the security people at my work. The head of security says they can't do anything except ask him to leave if he shows up. I know all of the...

What Monster1977 said!!!!!

Great thread. I hadn't thought about this much. I have boundaries that are in place that I did automatically and I didn't even think about it. I like the links too, thanks.

Thanks Saffy and Movin'On. There are restraining orders here. I had one, but the DA (District Attorney) messed the case up and now it's gone. I'm going to talk to my work and see if they will get a restraining order against him. He doesn't go there while I'm at work, so I can't claim he's...

I've always been seen as this strong person. People think I have my act together. Hey, what can I say, I'm good at faking it. No one knows about my PTSD. They wouldn't believe me anyway. No one knows what all I've been through. No one knows how bad it's been. There are things that I can't even...

I have my good days and bad days. Some days the symptoms are horrible and it's all I can do to function and appear half way normal. I can feel good for a while and then without warning, bam, I'm right back into it again.

A little background: I'm a domestic violence survivor. We just went through the divorce. It took two years because he's a jerk. There were errors/typos in the final judgement that need to be 'fixed' and my ex is not paying me what he owes me each month (two years of back pay that was supposed to...

You're not petty Abstract. Sounds like you are learning to deal with stuff that are triggers. I don't have any suggestions, but I wanted to say you are not alone, and I'm glad you posted. :hug:

Thank you for sharing that AS, I'm so happy for you.

Way to go, I'm so happy for you!!

I'm pretty messed up from before. What is love? I don't even know anymore. Love isn't mean. Love isn't violent or angry. Love doesn't lie, cheat, or betray you. Love doesn't strike fear into you, make you feel unsafe, or keep you up at night because you're afraid to go to sleep. Love shouldn't...

I really like this and can relate to it ScaredofLonely!!