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Welcome to the forum - glad you found us☺️

Welcome to the forum, J☺️ Sounds like a pretty difficult space to be in, with violence being a norm in your life. Hope there’s options open up for you where that’s not the normal, and becomes something in the past for you to start healing from:)

I don’t know. It wouldn’t make any difference to what my experience was, which is what I’m healing from. I have an intellectual curiosity in understanding why adult humans do these things to children. But it’s not helpful to me to apply that intellectual curiosity to my own experience. Tried...

I don’t go looking for info. Like, I don’t check up who directed a film before I see it, just like I wouldn’t look up the background of players on a sports team before going to watch them play (although, I find it incredibly difficult to come most forms of football, because…not a great track...

That’s a pretty normal, healthy thing to need. Even if he doesn’t respond well to you honouring that need, you’re still allowed to look after yourself. With boundaries - they’re about ourselves, and our own behaviour. The way other people respond may determine how we choose to act, but the...

Mod Note: If this discussion descends further into a debate about the pros and cons of guns rights, it will be shut down. We don’t do American politics debates in the Socials on this forum - any benefit had by those sorts of discussions are far outweighed by the dysfunction and dysregulation...

Not at all what I said. This is what I said: It’s interesting to me that what I said was read as “only Americans are interested in keeping themselves safe.” But..not interesting enough for me to dragged into the rubbish this has quickly descended into.

Welcome to the forum. Sorry you have reason to be here, but glad you found us☺️

Where I live, you’re not allowed to carry around weapons like the ones you’ve described. And yes, crime still happens, and there’s definitely a vocal minority that advocate for the right to carry. But, currently, it’s a (perhaps surprisingly) small minority. I get that a lot of Americans...

Welcome to the forum:) Your shopping list of diagnoses is very familiar - I had depression instead of panic disorder, but swings and roundabouts. Pretty sure it all came from the trauma. Hope you feel a bit less isolated here☺️

Humid AF. Hot air, water vapor, season change, and the universe putting it all in the blender. We’ve got another one about to hit in an hour. Awesome.

Pain and humiliation, to ensure that I can fulfil my purpose. That response rolls off the tongue as easily as “the sky is blue”. Intellectually? Because I was conditioned to believe that. Of course, my brain has it wrapped up in all sorts of trauma-blah to justify and rationalise it. Being...

16cm hail, but still not enough to break the heatwave. Top of 37 celcius today🥵

Definitely relate. My triggers have been things like grey carpet (not all grey carpet - dappled patterns are usually the worst), the smell of wheat pies, etc. Very specific. I think that’s actually pretty normal. I’ve worked with people who are similar. For example, one lady I worked with we...

…and most handheld vacuum cleaners with a 2nd, stronger mode, still won’t get all the dog hair, even if they’re used on the turbo setting all the time😂

Tbh, I think when folks tell you they want to listen, they often genuinely mean it. But, it’s a bit like saying you want the really hot one the first time you eat at an Indian restaurant. You don’t actually realise what you’re asking for. How could you possibly know what the ‘really hot’ dish...

I volunteered at a dog shelter. Because yep, people can suck. Weirdly or not, I am currently now employed in the industry. When humans are letting you down in every possible way, you can trust dogs. If dogs are where you feel safe right now in your life? That doesn’t mean quitting on life...