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I'm going to show my age and complete inability with anything technical. I love card games. My fav atm is 'SHITHEAD' - it's fast and clever and requires a bit of strategy... Is that boring? 🤣

I'm grateful for this community who continue to support even when I'm ready to throw everything in... there's so much wisdom here... and so much genuine want to help... it's a beautiful thing... it really is a great example of community...

For a moment, it was almost terrifying. But then one of the cats...

Just hanging out on the kitchen table looking innocent, when in fact, she was just caught eating left over spaghetti (literally caught with a long string of it coming out her mouth) 🤣🤣

NYAD one of the most inspiring true stories I've ever seen... a must watch. Main character was sexually abused by her coach, but it only touches on this. It wasn't massively triggering for me. But I think makes her story all the more incredible

This all sounds positive! I'd be interested to hear how the online thing goes ....

So I know I'm ill, sleep deprived and cranky, and maybe this is not a good time to write, but these thoughts and feelings are here now. So I'm going to get them down. May be useful for me later on. I'm struggling with the fact that the focus of my / our work so far last session has been on...

Thank you for your posts @Midnightmoon ... I actually think you have a very clear way of communicating...I thought that about your last post too, though you yourself seemed to be a bit less confident in your writing... you have a logical, clear way of getting your thoughts across - there's no...

Yup 🙄 Thank you. I'm struggling with the validity thing. But I guess I'm not making it up. I did dissociate badly and I didn't think I would. So I guess it is valid. Just wish I could feel it. You are right. I'm not going to lie though, part of the issue, and this may be contributing to some...

So I went somewhere yesterday... not sure where but not really somewhere I'd care to go again... think I'd convinced myself that doing the session would be fine. Then the dissociation happened and on top of that I have a chest infection (with fever etc), so I'm just over all a bit spent. I...

So I went to T tonight ... I'm not going to reply fully about this now as I need more time to sit and write properly ... But essentially, I made it through the door and sat there for the whole session... it didn't go as partially planned because, as previously predicted, I did dissociate for...

I know very well the pain involved in trying to understand the meaning behind a therapist's actions when they aren't predictable or have changed in some way (esp suddenly)... so I really feel you.. My take: if he said he would call and didn't, that needs to be acknowledged and addressed as...

that's great.. he must really respect you! that's interesting... I think a few people have had similar experiences and feel like you, given all the amazing advice on this thread... it's definitely helped me to see it's more than just a current dispute and has potential for learning and...

I did let him know in a previous email that was a concern ... so he has some awareness ..I guess we'll just have to see what happens... I've been so up and down i feel it really does depend on the day/ the moment ... Thanks for sharing this... one part of me knows this is what needs to happen...

Uuuggghhh! You've summed it UP totally 100%

Yeah, gonna try, but not convinced it's gonna go that way lols 😳.. gonna try to do the least amount possible...!!!

Ok, this does take a bit of mental weight off Ooooh, so this is difficult for me... but you are of course right...I know I need to do it... I think it comes from being younger when I didn't stand a chance against my dad and his partner and their guilt trips and out right blame for how selfish i...

You've made so many hopeful points... which I'm going to read to remind me tomorrow... I totally haven't considered this. But you're right. This is what he's trained to handle. And he has handled our last fall out really well too... That's what I've been feeling. That it's all on me. I think...

I think I'm unsure. Because I don't feel I know myself. I feel there is an absolute truth about the way it should be tackled but I don't know it and so I'm not sure if I'm doing it right. Thinking about it, I guess I'm expecting him to know and me not to because I don't know my own feelings...

Thank you @Movingforward10 @Friday @Ecdysis @scout86 @No More I always forget that just saying what's on my mind, including 'I don't know how to go about this' is valid ... thank you for the reminder!

Getting really nervous about session with T tomorrow... I'm not really sure how to broach the topic of this whole email saga with him.. what I should say about it.. how much I try to explain my perspective.. I'm trying to visualise me being there and not dissociating and managing to hold a convo...

I've had to go the other way and avoid my triggers for a long time and that worked better over all for me... It would just end in a complete sh*t show for me if I tried to do things which would trigger and then intimacy would become all about me and my problems. Which I hated. So avoiding...

I read this and have a completely different take on it... I think co-dependency runs along a spectrum... and clearly at one extreme, it can be unhealthy in a relationship... but I think also having some level of dependency in relationships is how it's supposed to be and being reliant, leaning...

I didn't know this thread existed! I love it! It's great to get a visual of what other people see and what they are into... lots of incredible photos... Here's a picture of the love of my life... she came to us during the pandemic (not our cat!) and has visited every day since multiple times a...

Lols mine is not healthy like that.. I devoured an almost total pack of chilli heatwave doritos 🤣