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Hi there - looking to ask for advice on how best to look after my teenage daughter. we found out a few months ago that her step sister had been abused by family member. My daughter has just confided to me that the same was done to her by her grandfather, with whom she used to have a good...

Hello guys - really need some practical advice here. My daughters step-sister has told her mum that she and my daughter were sexually abused by their grandfather several years ago. My daughter would have been 7 at the time. My daughter has never said anything about this. Given her age I don’t...

Hi everyone, Not posted for a while...looking to get some independent view on something? Two years ago I got fired: - by a boss I thought was a Friend, who I had respected and trusted immensely - example, when I found out my dad still hits my Mother, he was the person I asked for advice on...

Hi everyone Sorry it's been a few months since I last posted anything. Things have been busy as I moved country. Desperately need some help/advice. Apologies in advance if this is in part too graphic. I was raped in 2011. My view was that I wasn't particularly upset or bothered by it...

Hi guys I've posted previously whether others have had any experience of Intensive Short Term Dynamic Psychotherapy (ISTDP)...it seems very "sensory" focussed in that it pushes you to physically feel sensations of feelings/emotion in your body; it's driving to shut down anxiety which is...

Hi Bear with me - this is a surreal situation even by my standards... I have a history of chronic severe depression and 3 suicide attempts. I live in another country from my family. I woke up the other morning to 12 missed calls from my siblings and text messages saying that my Mum is...

Hey all, Does anyone know what this is?? Has anyone else used it? My T recommended that I read this book...seems this is the thing he's been trying to do...including the part where he asks me to imagine/fantasise about beating my father (?!)... Has anyone read this book? It seems like a...

Hi everyone, So, I've started seeing my T again (post nightmare of avoiding involuntary hospitalisation by the skin of my teeth)... I feel like something is starting to dawn on me (always was a slow learner)... Item 1: Feeling feelings Over the months that we did work on the somatic...

I have to write something about this, as I'm just so freaked out. My ex-partner found a note that I had written in a sketch book months ago, which was when I was in a spectacularly low period. Understandably he freaked out - but, he called the f*cking cops!!! I wake up to about 10 policeman...

Hi... Bear with me... In the last session I had with my T...he was asking me to literally imagine, re-enacting an abusive situation that happened at home when I was a kid (I used the example of the first time my father hit my mother). He was trying to get me to imagine, getting him back, such...

I was fired last year because my boss didn't like me anymore. This was devastating for a number of reasons: 1. It was just before this that my T had told me, me and my siblings had been "abused" and should have been taken into care. All I had thought about my upbringing and me, basically got...

Hi guys, I was reading this: http://www.nytimes.com/2015/08/29/opinion/how-to-halt-the-violence-treat-mental-illness.html?_r=0 ...I wondered how long it would take for a piece in the news to come out like this. I find calls for expansion of "Assisted Outpatient Treatment" terrifying for two...

Hi guys... Would appreciate a sanity check here... I would like to go back to the company I used to work for (5.5 years) - but I am concerned that HR would "block" my coming back because they know too much about me? e.g. I had severe depression a few years ago (after what I guess people would...

Hello. My dad seems to have a habit of losing control in the car - which is bizarre as my parents have multiple cars... My dad has never hit my mother to the point of leaving black eyes etc, and he rarely does it - but: On more than one occasion he has slapped her across the face, whilst she...

Hi everyone, I attempted suicide when I was a teenager. The hospital required me to see a child psychologist in an outpatient appointment. My Mum drove me to the appointment, and in the carpark told me not to say anything about what happens at home, or the fact that I used to cut myself, on...

Hi, According to my T, I and my siblings were physically and emotionally abused when we were kids. I thought last year I could separate all of this as "ancient history" and no longer relevant to my current relationship with my parents which improved substantially after I left for University at...

Ironically, it's the thought and promise of death...yes, I'm morbid. Sorry. I have pretty much chronic major depression, and the last 12 months, it kind of looked like this: - Major depressive episode early last year, leading to time off work for 3 weeks; - Suicidal and tying rope to the...

Hey everyone... Ok, I'll warn in advance, I'm likely not going to be able to explain this well... Hit a bit of a roadblock in seeing my T, basically because it's a question of: - He wants me to trust him, over trusting my "inner dialogue"/which is obviously me. Basically, there's a not so...

I'm in my thirties now, I tell my daughter I love her regularly, and vice versa. My parents never said those words until after I had left home, and that was only after I coaxed it out of them through humour. Maybe it's just a "British" thing and/or a generational thing e.g. I think nowadays...

Hi all, This is something I question a lot and I'd like to understand people's feedback. What I imagine we have in common in this forum is "adverse experience" of multiple varieties. I think most people recognise such experiences leave their mark on people. However - do you consider these...

Hi - this is more a bit of a vent/rant thing...not really something with a "question" I'm looking to people to answer...I just wanted to write it down in a sense. I don't dream very often...once or twice a year...if that...but all my dreams revolve around violence, typically sexual based, and...

Once upon a time, there was a boss he got upset and extremely cross he couldn’t control one of his minions the bitch thought she could have her own opinions! He manages people, can’t be seen to lose face so he started to think how to put her back in her place “I could make her comply -...

Hi all, My T essentially refuses to tell me "what is wrong with" me. He does this because I think he's concerned that it's "rumination" and will lead to me internally beating myself up. Maybe this is partly true, but part of me genuinely wants to know why I get so depressed. I want to know...

Hello, Ok, my T is a subscriber to the "what are you physically feeling and where in your body" philosophy of whatever it is he's treating me for... This is very challenging for me, as I really do live entirely in my head, and never have considered myself a "physical" kind of person. Most of...

Hello... Came onto a touchy subject with my T today...suicide. By way of context, I've made 3 attempts, the last one was involuntarily hospitalised for 3 weeks. Hospital for me - was the opposite of therapeutic - in fact it was outright traumatising. I sent my T a book I had written that...