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I'm very interested in this theory... Do you remember where it came from?

I think I meant in the big picture. The main reason childhood incest abusers get away with it is because their victims don't report (that's what I believe anyways). If the police or court is dismissive of you personally, that sucks. But later down the line, when they get similar reports from...

It's definitely hard. I may have had people that could speak on how my dad acted in general but not obviously something such as molestation that was private. But the main reason I didn't report was just that I didn't think I had it in me to feel like I was proving myself to the police or court...

My question with this is, has she ever been safe enough to deal with poor mental health? My mom didn't show any signs of trauma aftermath until three years after she divorced my dad. I didn't until I was 16 years old (spent a lot of time alone at night). What would happen if she was by herself a...

This actually makes sense to me. I'm quite intelligent as well, my family is in general. But my ability to learn was impaired by PTSD in grade school.

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Wow... That's wild. What kind of support do people really need? It's hard for me to fathom since support is a concept I just don't get. Like my husband and family are there for me but I don't know how to let them help me? It's always been an internalized battle for me.

Idk if it can be measured by suicide attempts really. It's complicated. Yeah I don't know either lol. I had a baby this year and I was dang they come out so helpless and mothers are so weak and sleep deprived with birth and breastfeeding. I guess there was a lot of "survival over the fittest" in...

Completely agree. This stuff is wild. Does your sister have PTSD? You can get PTSD from one incident, "single incident PTSD" or whatever. Those of us that went through years of shit have complex PTSD but psychologists have yet to add that to the DSMV because it's known but not ya know, official...

So we know PTSD is caused by life threatening or physically unsafe situations like war, rape, torture, car accidents, etc... but we also know that two people can be in the same car accident and only one get PTSD. What causes some people to develop PTSD and others not? My husband said something...

You have a way to report that's not through the police? Or have you decided against any kind of reporting?

Yeah, I totally get all of that. It's all valid. I've heard stories where a rape was reported but the woman didn't even finish the interview, she walked out. But later when another victim pressed charges they used the previous case to help convict the offender. So from a legal sense, reporting...

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In the United States we have a hotline called rainn for victims of sexual assault and I thought they had one specifically for legal advice on reporting and such. (Edit: not sure what I was thinking of, I couldn't find it). Surely you have something similar? But you have to report in the place...

Do you live in the United States?

That's the worst

White noise, earplugs, working out (better yoga or meditation) or journaling before bed, chamomile tea, all things that have helped me. I hope you find things that work for you.

I feel you. I've had a good amount of success with identifying core beliefs and working on reminding myself the inverse. Like say I believe that other people's feelings are my responsibility/fault and I get anxiety attacks whenever I think that and maybe the other person does/says something...

Hi, welcome to the forum. It's so hard to control your life when your parents control you with money. You can go to the doctor without them knowing, but I suppose you're on their insurance. What are you studying in school? Do you have a solid career path after you graduate?

I've been to therapy, but I can't say it really helped much. I had one really good therapist and a really good psychologist, but other than that the therapists I had were unhelpful and possibly harmful. What really DID help was talking to people, telling my story, but more so, writing...

My husband and I deal with this a lot. Like I'd say 98% of the time I enjoy sex and don't get triggered, but damn that 2%. I'm very uncomfortable verbally saying no, but my husband has learned to read my body language. Like say for example kissing is suddenly triggering, I will pull my head away...

That sounds like a nightmare... I'm wondering if there's things you could do to help you sleep when you get off work. But definitely understand sleep issues being recurring through your life... me too.

Thanks for the information, I'm definitely not expert on this stuff but I'd heard/seen a theory about it. I think IN GENERAL, the psychology industry has too many disorders, multiple things mean the same thing and then they realize it is the same thing.

I think it can be hard to know what you're born with vs. what developed in your brain between ages 0-2 let's say. It's just a theory so we don't have to really lean into it much, but to me it I could definitely see that trauma in such early years may make really strong changes in the brain.

I would get a new therapist. I'm sorry it takes so long to get a good one.