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Counseling of my own, lots of healing time and the support of family and friends. I am one of those people who truly believes everything happens for a reason. Last July, right before things REALLY took a turn for the worse, I decided to start horseback riding again. It is something I did off...

Exactly, I am fortunate in that I had the resources both emotionally, physically and financially to get myself out of this situation. I do realize others are not so fortunate, and that some people would leave for less, or would need even more to leave. It is very, very difficult to break free...

Hello, It has been about a year since I was active on this site, but wanted to share my story with those of you who are in a relationship with someone who is suffering from PTSD. If you look at my previous post, you will see a detailed account of an incident last September where my husband...

Makes sense. I am 99.99% sure there's been no physical contact, or really anything TOO inappropriate. However; it's definitely eyebrow raising and concerning. Infidelity/lack of trust on that front is the one issue we don't have and really a big thing we DO have going for us. I'm afraid if...

****UPDATE**** I wanted to provide an update and, once again, seek guidance on an issue. I suppose I could start a new thread, and will if the mods insist. My husband and I went to therapy this past week for our first session together. I was actually looking forward to it, and he was...

I wanted to offer an update for those who may be following this. It's been almost a week since our (his) big meltdown. We have been operating separately, so to speak. One of us has been alternating spending the evenings away after work and he sleeps in another room. THAT isn't too uncommon...

We are pretty active, but I hate to say this....I doubt our pastor is equipped to deal with the depth of the issues my husband has. If it were more along the lines of infidelity, financial stress or child rearing issues I would be comfortable seeking help through church. For myself, I'm...

For someone who regularly goes to counseling, he's pretty off base on what they will do. No one can make us do anything or make us live our lives a certain way, my hope through counseling is that it will open up the doors of communication and hostility. It very well may not work, and I'm...

Exactly, nursenurse. One thing he keeps saying is that this is all about "me, me, me!" And I keep reminding him that yes, right now and in this situation, It is. I am absolutely looking out for me right now. And I won't apologize for that, not to him or anyone else , I don't care what he...

Sorry, typing from my phone. In summary, he finally agreed to go to ONE counselling session. Just one. And he says the minute I don't follow the suggestions he's out. I think We will live separately for a while as we seek it, but I'm hoping this step, albeit small, will work.

Update for those following this. I spoke with a woman yesterday by phone who works for the national suicide hotline, specifically for veterans/spouses of veterans. We talked about an hour about his issues, symptoms and overall physical and mental health. She gave me some good local resources...

Thanks Hashi, but your input is ceasing to be helpful at this point. I am not ignorant nor making light of this situation. Furthermore, "hard times" is a subjective term. No one knows what another couple goes through, so I do not assume to know and/or compare notes. I know what MY...

What I meant about forgetting is that your mom, sister, best friends don't easily forget or forgive when someone hurts you. That's why I keep my relationship private, ALL aspects of it, not just this. That's how I have always been, not because I've ever had anything to hide or thought my...

I've made quite clear I'm not staying with him for my religion or his job. Obviously his health takes priority, the reason I didn't call the cops is because I wanted to process everything. In hindsight was it the best option, no. But in the heat of the moment I was scared and trying to be...

My family is ultra supportive of basically any decision I've ever made. My hesitation is that I don't want them to feel obligated in case he does harm himself. If I show up and say "I need to stay here" or "I need financial help while we separate", they'll do it no questions asked. I'm just...

Thanks everyone. This has been really good for me to receive feedback on this situation. No one in my life really knows, as I don't like discussing my marriage with friends or family, because they never forget. I'm wanting to reach out to his friends who were also in the military, but I'm...

I'm prepared to leave if need be. I don't want to because, as a Christian I feel that divorce is a last resort and only admissible in cases of infidelity and abuse/abandonment. I do feel this situation warrants abuse in the very least and that his actions have shown he is abandoning our vows to...

Thank you all for the replies, especially those of you who have first hand experience with suicidal thoughts and are able to help me gain perspective. I'm unsure who his therapist is, He only guess 1x a month for 30-45 minutes. I am tying up a letter, just to organize my thoughts. I know...

Also, after these episodes he completely acts like nothing ever happened. We go to dinner, watch tv, etc... and it's like 2 hours before never took place. He sleeps like a rock while I toss all night wondering what to do. He does take several medications: anti anxiety and a mood stabilizer...

I have family near by but would prefer to keep them out of this if it does turn violent. The fact that he decided to assume the role of a sniper if I had called the cops let's me know I don't want to put my parents or siblings in harm's way. I'm definitely removing all the guns/weapons this...

Thank you so much for the replies. Unfortunately, he is vehemently against therapy or intervention and now says he "isn't suicidal anymore". Having never been suicidal myself or clinically depressed, I'm unsure of how someone can be suicidal one day and not the next. My large concern is his...

I'm looking for advice as the spouse of a man with severe PTSD. He has been diagnosed through the VA, seeks "regular" VA counseling (I.e. once a month to retain disability benefits). Over the course of our relationship, dating through a couple years of marriage, his overall physical and...