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First, I too am really sorry to hear about what has happened for you. It isn't okay to film or record a person without their consent. Where I live it is illegal. If a therapist did it without consent, s/he'd be struck off and likely taken to court. The client/therapist relationship should be...

In today's Sunday Times Magazine, India Knight has an interesting article about how too men woman are looking for fairy tale heroes. She cites the story of Helen Bailey, the widowed and bereaved children's author, who got chatting to a man who, online, appeared to meet such fantastical criteria...

Hello and I'm sorry for the confusion your friend is causing you. What I say next I do so with compassion for you and your son. Might it be important to remember you need to feel safe here too? That having a reliable, available partner is important? Is there some reason you are settling for...

I'm familiar with people saying they 'have' either anxiety or depression but you are right, they are experiences in the same way rain or lightening can roll past us. Neither rain nor lighting are at fault any more than depression or anxiety, they are just experiences. But some may feel sad...

Thanks...I've been doing twice daily x 60 minute meditation/mindfulness sessions for some time, know Christine Kneff and the others work. As part of my own path and quite awhile back I did an MBSR course. I began the thread because I'm interested in other's experience. I began meditation...

Here's something I'd like to discuss: I've recently been interested in therapeutic approaches to anxiety and depression that suggest both can be habits we turn to for protection (and as a learned behavior)--largely in times of emotional overwhelm. And that if we give permission for the emotions...

I resisted thinking anxiety was dissociative for a long time. The day I felt/realised it WAS for me was the day I began to get relief. It was the therapists I mentioned earlier who directed me to that realization and through my meditation. But that realization wasn't something I could have...

One bit of advice I got is to PAUSE when strong feelings or flashbacks hit us. Instead, I was urged to allow the emotions generated via conditioning to roll through our hearts and bodies rather than reacting to them too soon by sending emails or saying something we may regret. Especially when...

Hello LFS: In my experience and those of published therapists whose work I've found to be my salvation (Tara Brach: Radical Acceptance; Peter Walker: Complex PTSD; Paul Gilbert; Alice Miller), YES: anxiety, depression, perfectionism, rumination, self criticism, self judging and even resistance...

Hello @SMW83 : I'm really sorry about your distress and the situation you are currently in. I can imagine the anxiety, fear, confusion and other overwhelming emotions. I see you are in the UK and I'm reminded of the Anna Friel character in the current TV drama, Marcello, whose PTSD flashbacks...

I found beginning with an eight week mindfulness meditation course along with listening to Dharma talks but the discipline isn't easy, lots of overwhelming emotions arise that have been ignored through the addiction of anxiety...and facing that through meditation takes commitment....one learns...

My anxiety started before I was five and I know the reasons why. However, in the last five years I've come to realize that anxiety had become a habitual and addictive tool employed to keep me safe. I went with anxiety as a way to scan for danger in the hope that I could fend it off OR to try...

Thanks so so much Ms. Spock! I will go through the links over the next week. My yoga practice after meditation sounds like it gives me a similar benefit to your 'movement' exercises. It helps the energy move through more easily for me. However, I realise that I made a spelling typo in my...

I was looking for threads on mindfulness and meditation on this forum because I find it the single most useful therapy for my CPTSD. So I'm kind of surprised its not used by more people here (maybe it is)? Many of the threads I found are closed as they're old. So I'd like to raise the issue...

I think the wanting validation issue raised is really important here. All we can hope for is to validate for ourselves as painful and isolating as that might feel. CPTSD results from carer neglect too. We have to become our own carers. We have to feel compassion and care for the child that...

Oh Violet, I feel for you! Sounds very lonely work experience but your coping devices sound great. I wish you well with your job hunt...it can be an anxious period on top of everything else. I hope you feel supported on this forum. xJoie

I would trust the work you are doing with your therapist. I've never to my knowledge been sexually abused but I have pretty vivid memories of my physical, emotional (mother likely a narcissist), isolation and other forms of neglect. Until she died my mother, who sort of vaguely remembered...

PS: the earlier reply that HR work for the company rather than employees is an important caveat...so do bear that in mind. But you may be surprised to learn the harassing person may have come onto their radar before!

I suspect most workplaces have dysfunctional staff. Sometimes I'm probably one of them! And I've no doubt I may have projected something onto the person to make them seem like triggers--sometimes. Because of my mindfulness practice I now try (not always successfully) to pause when people say...

Keira, you are fantastic! My eyes welled up I was so proud of how you have looked after yourself and turned to help other...I wish you good luck as well with a therapist you can related to is equally. Your feelings are normal...I just wish someone had told me that when I was your age. AND...

Everyone is different and there is no right or wrong way to be with a therapist...like other relationships in life, it takes time to build trust. Many who've been through trauma feel exactly the same as you when they begin therapy. And it's probably wise that you've got a read of your...

I used to have really scary night events, the mood from which could persist the next day. The more I do mindfulness meditation and let myself just sit and feel the full force of the anxiety as strong sensations in my body from all I've felt during the day (and even in the past coming up via a...

Thank you all so so much! Unusually, I feel a bit liberated after the session and opening to you guys because during the session I was able to be respectful, true to my feelings, express them and not be dragged into what was going on with him...so that was really something for me. I think I...

Hello Keira, I really feel for you. What a lot of loss and pain you've been through in your short life. It's hard for me as an older people dealing with overwhelming emotions like grief, so I think its great you are on here. There are many 'compassion focused' therapists in the UK and one's...