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@Statsattack Hey there. She had a pretty rough childhood. She was physically abused by her father and stepfather and then she was in the militarh and was a medic for special forces so she saw a lot. It's lot to deal with.

Hey guys, Sorry for the late reply. All I was trying to do was set a boundary, but I could have gone about it in a more straight forward way. Regardless, it was something I needed to do. I don't keep score with her. I give so much to this relationship and don't ask for anything in return. So...

@Thizette Do ever just shut down without saying anything? My girlfriend with PTSD won't respond or talk to me and it's been nearly a week. I've tried to be respectful and realize she likely needs space and not contact her whatsoever (once in the last 4 days). She's told me before she sometimes...

Those are normal responses IME. It's very hard. I wish I had the answers for you, but I don't. Is it possible she will forgive you? Yes. Will she for sure? No one knows. Only she does, but I doubt right now she even knows it. I know that's tough to hear. A lot of sufferers come back, a lot...

So my girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7-8 months with about a 2 month break due to some issues she was having with PTSD from combat and her child abuse (she broke up with me brutally telling me she never loved me over text). She's very open about her issues and abuse and is in...

Well it was more the complete change in personality and closeness since she had her break down in March. I mean a complete 180 she went from sweet, caring and affectionate to cold, overly critical, and extremely distant in a matter of days and it progressively got worse until this happened.

I did love her as she is, and I felt extremely lucky to have her. She didn't ever since her episode in March... Is what it is. What's done is done. I too hope she gets healing and never does this again to someone.

I guarantee she tries to worm her way back to me at some point... I make REALLY good money, very educated, I'm a great dad and a better person. She isn't gonna find another guy this understanding and this willing work WITH HER through her issues. She needs serious help... Call me bitter or...

No I agree. Finally closure. I'm actually relieved. That said, I feel bad for her she's not medicated, she's also bipolar and she doesn't see a therapist regularly. I just really hope she gets help. No one deserves this sort of roller coaster. Especially her.

Well that was quick... Just got this text WTF! Listen, I know you mean well and you really love me, but I’m still not feeling this. I feel as though I’m being forced to love you back. I once had love for you but I’m just not feeling it anymore. I should have just stuck with what I said a few...

I know. I just miss her so much. We had that break up then she doesn't want to see me? I mean she also said she's going to be her and I need to be me, that she needs someone that will ride along side her and not try to break her. She also discussed her severe trust issues with men due her abuse...

For how long? Just cut off contact until she gets a hold of me?

So that's now three full days without speaking to each other and two weeks since we last saw each other. How do I know it's her isolating and not her just ignoring me as a passive aversive way to break-up?

So I asked her about this weekend... Just shot her a text "hey are we gonna see each other this weekend?" She replied "no I just want to be alone" I just said "ok, if you need to talk or anything I'm here. Thinking about you. I miss you and I really do care about you." Then I said how I did...

Lord knows I want too...

Well this is what I want to say I guess this is cathartic, a lot of emotions here so no need critique just need to get this out: "I'm really trying to be cool about all this and I know I blew you up the last few days. I care for you deeply, I love you with all my heart, but ignoring phone...

I'm actually starting to get a little angry about all this. I mean I treated her so well and she pulls this? PTSD be damned, she's responsible for her actions and has never even apologized. For breaking up with me like she did.

So what do I do here? I mean we had planned to see each other this coming weekend, but now with no contact from here I'm not sure what to do? Do I bring it up? or just let it lie? I really think if we see each other things could improve. I mean from our conversation Friday we are still together...

Yeah well, like an idiot I called her last night and still no answer... I think she just wants me to pull the plug.

No I definitely have abandonment anxiety issues. I think you're right. I just need to let go concentrate on me and let her come to me.

@Simply Simon It's closer to 6 months now. I promised her when she had her breakdown in March. I would never abandon her.

Well we talked Friday. She said we rushed into this and she started questioning her feelings, then with her abusive dad dying, pressure from her family to reconcile with him, school, waiting to find out if she's getting into the nursing program she wants to go to, and me placing extra...

@Olivia2016 I just re-read what she sent me. She's not coming back This is exactly what she said to me: "We aren't compatible. I've tried to be understanding. As much a as I want this, this just isn't anything for me anymore. I do not wish to participate in this relationship. I do not...

I wish she knew I was happy with her... I probably was a little strong with my expectations with her over the weekend (it was birthday) and on Monday. She wanted me to show her though, how to do things, how to love. That makes perfect sense actually everything she said. Thanks @Olivia2016. You...

@Olivia2016 Thanks for your kind words. You actually made me tear up a bit. I think you hit it on the the head with the feeling inadequate to reciprocate. She always said she loved the way I am so affectionate and slowly learning to be the same way, but as she said she "can't lie to herself...