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You are amazing. You are my sanity and my strength when I have none left.

Love you. <3 :hug:

@MonkeeMoo Thank you! You have helped me so much as well. I am on a break up with my Marine as well. We are on 6 weeks of a break up after a 7 month glorious relationship, plans for the future, to get married, etc. We were FaceTiming on a Thursday night, he was triggered by his son's birthday on...

Oh yes. Going through the very same thing. Mine unfollowed me and took down all of our pics and comments on his IG page. Yet he lets me follow him but said he can't follow me because it hurts too much. I don't know. I'm still learning. But yes, learning it is very normal for sufferers to...

It's completely natural to overreact. I did and I regretted it. But then I realized that I was reacting like I would have in a regular relationship. Now I've done my research and realize what he needs and have to go on without him for the time being. We went for 2 weeks with zero contact and...

I feel for you. I really do. I dated my Marine for 7 months before he started his isolation. We Facetimed and I Love You-ed each other on a Thursday night and on Friday he started pulling away being triggered by an unrelated event. Then within a week I was shutout, he had deleted all of my/our...

@EveHarrington That was probably the most helpful thing I have read on this forum to date. Thank you. My sufferer has ALWAYS been let down by people giving up on him. I told him my actions will speak louder than words ever can and I mean it. If it gets too much, I'll reassess, but I'm focusing...

Thank you! I'm so glad I found people who understand. It makes this more bearable. And I realize that with faith and support I can do it.

I so needed this thread in my life today. Love all the encouragement on this post. People don't understand what it takes to let someone go yet stay, and have NO concept of how emotionally draining it can be. BUT I will not give up. I love my vet and even though we aren't together right now, I...

Welcome to the forum. I'm sure you will find a lot of helpful advice on here. I know it's been my link to sanity. I know you are beating yourself up over what happened and I'm sorry you have to go through that. I know it's easier said than done, but try and let it go because you can't change...

Thanks love. I just wish he'd get help. But I know until we talk I can't even suggest it.

@Endure That is why, even as much as it is paining me, I will not contact my BF. He said he needed space and I agreed so I have to move on for myself. I am not closing the door yet, but I can't push at him. Ours was very much the same...FaceTime and love/hugs/kisses on a Thursday night to being...

@Fadeaway Thank you. That makes a lot of sense. As a supporter, that's all you want to do, but I never realized that it could be a driving force away. I appreciate the input because it helps me see things from my BF's perspective.

@jems I know nothing I can say will help right now. But Joanna makes a point and has helped me so much. Try (and I know this is way harder said than done) not to beat yourself up. You can't go back and change your past actions. I regret almost the entire first week my vet asked for a break. But...

@Thizette That makes so much sense. I've said countless times that I love and support him so I know he knows this. Thank you. It really has helped me see things from a less emotional standpoint and more of a "what do I need" standpoint.

@Silver If you don't mind me asking, what would be an acceptable way for a supporter to reach out then? I mean, I told him I'd give him space and I would be here. How do I go about contacting him if that's where I left things? I'm genuinely interested in your perspective on this.

@jewel I feel you. I'm in the exact same position although this is the first breakup. We were together a glorious 7 months. Went from talking on FaceTime Thursday night to him saying he can't do it on Friday. Exact quote, "I love you but I can't be with anyone in the state I am currently in."...

This thread has helped me tremendously. @EveHarrington That is exactly what my combat PTSD is going through and just the way you said it, made it so much clearer. Not easier, but I now understand what he's been trying to convey to me. @Thizette That phrase is exactly what I as looking for in...

Sending love @jems I have a similar story too, but way too raw at the moment. Here if you need. ❤️ And of course to you as well Joanna. ❤️

Wish I had answers for you. What do you mean by broken you down? I just want to clarify that he's not being verbally or physically abusive. I'm fairly new to this. My BF (combat PTSD) and I are on a break right now because he couldn't handle the stress. We have been together 7...

It's so hard when all you want to do is love them and they can't accept it. It's been a week without any contact with my BF. It hurts so much. But I know he is hurting even more, so I just try to remind myself of that. Every text and phone call that isn't him hurts just a little bit more. I'm...

@Muse Thank you. I seem to know what I want and I truly believe that he will come back to me. It's hard in the interim but I'm educating myself as much as I can on PTSD so I can strengthen myself.

@Endure My BF has unfollowed me on Instagram. Said it made him too sad and upset. I am struggling with the same thing. He went from FaceTime with me one night to the following day saying he couldn't do it anymore and needed space. I wish I knew what to do. But I'm giving him space he needs. It's...

@Muse Yes. I have a 5 year old son or I would have been out there by now. I'm trying to get a job.

@klif Thank you. He hasn't contacted me in 3 days at all and has been off social media. I pray he is okay. He asked for space so I reassured him I was here and left it at that. He has soiught help in the past so I'm hoping he will now as well. I'm just worried. I want to reach out so badly but I...