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I’d also like to add, whatever you decide… take it one step at a time. So if say for instance you want to start by being awake during the day, you’re only going to be able to alter your sleep patterns by half an hour a day. So if you usually go to bed at 6:30am, tomorrow try 6am, then 5:30, 5...

I’d also like to add “accept their diagnosis – whatever it is. Denying the existence of a mental health issue because you can’t come to terms with it yourself, is neither helpful nor appropriate. Always remember you are NOT a psychiatrist and even if you are, you shouldn’t be trying to...

After 7yrs it sounds like your new doc was right! It must take a will of iron to do it though. Well done, keep at it!

Wow, you're so strong! My youngest had GM seizures just after his first birthday, scary things :-( traumatic in their own right. Was that a result of the meds?

No. I'm not. Sorry. Maybe I wasn't clear. I meant I know it's not OK to drink before sessions so I wouldn't do that but is it OK to take pills to calm down? For me a glass of wine has the same effect as a pill (relaxing) so if I can't drink, maybe I shouldn't take clonazepam either?

Hi Guys I've been in therapy now for almost 8 months. I still find it hard to open up and communicate with her. Sometimes my anxiety gets so bad I get horrible stomach cramps (IBS) and end up taking co-codamol and clonazepam to calm it down before a therapy session. I've noticed when I do...

Yes - I can just about dissociate at will. My therapist told me 'defences [such as dissociation] are your friends. They protect you... don't be so eager to break them down and get rid' (aka accept them - tis the only way you heal enough to be in a place not to need those defences anymore). That...

I think it's really helpful to add.. It is impossible to self-diagnose using Google Google and/or Wikipedia cannot replace a psychiatrist's or psychologist's professional diagnosis. They also don't like mental illness much and are often skewed and biased by the users perceptions (ie you see...

Hi Guys Wondered if anyone has experienced this too. I've heard it said that some people just before they have a flashback get tunnel vision. Does anyone else's vision go really weird just before dissociation? Mine either goes completely white or I see things through a brightly coloured fog...

I don't think it's off topic - I needed to hear that! Thanks Neverthesame. Is it safe to assume you don't have BPD and you're just commenting to be supportive and helpful (that was the feeling I got from your post)? If so, thank you, that's really lovely.

This is a hard one. I'm not ticklish anywhere really. I jerk away when someone touches my neck but it's more of a "DO NOT TOUCH ME THERE" reaction than a "ha ha I can't stop laughing one" I jerk and pull away. It's the same with my knees. I associate someone touching my knees with pulling them...

I think I did too. I was 15 when I first experienced it. 22 yr old guy, sexually abusive. I was heartbroken when he told me he was actually engaged and wanted nothing to do with me. I saw casualty this week (I'm in the UK) and it was this scenario where the young girl (15) had to be told what...

can I just say something positive here... 3 months in and already you're communicating honestly with each other. Forget what it is you're talking about or how you're talking for the moment. 3 months and you're already ABLE to have deep conversations about where this is going and what you both...

Oh and in answer to the trauma part of it. I never had tinnitus till I was 12 and was hit by a speeding car. Before then, I was sexually and emotionally abused, but it didn't start till after then. I also have restless leg syndrome too - neurological condition. I am a messed up little puppy!! ;-D

OMG!!! YES THAT'S ME TOO!! I NEVER REALISED IT BEFORE!! When I'm about to dissociate and go off into la-la land my tinnitus becomes DEAFENING!! Maybe it's just all I can sense? The weird thing is sometimes it's so loud that even if people are talking to me and trying to bring me back to the...

I think it helps to remember that BPD/CPTSD can only be diagnosed by a psychiatrist or a fully trained psychologist (Doctor). It cannot be diagnosed based on something you read online and not even a therapist or GP can diagnose those things - depression and anxiety, yes, because they are really...

I think you're right in some ways, recoveringfromptsd. If it were purely a case that my case was one she could no longer handle then what you suggested would be an appropriate course of action. However, suffice it to say I made therapy with her impossible from the start. It was me. I set it up...

Hmmm... that definitely sounds like whatever happened to you - you need some help. A lot of that could be a lot of things though. What I find interesting is you say you have witnessed male -female violence as a kid. THAT definitely needs looking into and exploring. Witnessing violence is a...

Sorry that's what I meant - registered not accredited. I didn't mean to imply they would be "beginners" but I just feel that I am exceptionally challenging and because I have been through this many times now, I feel I need a very experienced, robust, well educated, extremely compassionate...

I didn't mean that it's only abuse if you don't experience pleasure - sorry, wasn't clear. The body responds even during extreme traumatic abuse, that doesn't mean it's not rape. What I MEANT was that if the INTENTION is to cause pleasure (and it clearly was) then a line has been crossed. That's...

It wasn't consciously done by me either. I felt the abandonment and then *SNAP* without thought, I did something manipulative to her. I didn't consciously sit down and decide "if I do this, then she won't leave". I realise now as I reflected on why I'd done it that it is a pattern of behaviour...

I had very similar to you with my cousin (also a girl). Except manipulation and bullying was involved to get me to do it (my heart's beginning to race just thinking about it) and it lasted for 10 years. I have been looking into this for years. What I have found is that line between sexual play...

Thanks guys, I can't see who it was (on my phone at the mo) but someone said that those with BPD often act out. Yes, that's exactly what happened. I felt the horrible fear of abandonment with her then acted out in an attempt to manipulate her into staying. Unfortunately she now feels she cannot...

Hi guys I just wanted a sounding board really. no questions, just a place to vent my pain. Yesterday my therapist terminated our sessions without prior warning (though i could tell it was coming). She said there's no trust in our relationship anymore (she could have meant from both sides but...

Oh, I see what you mean Joey. No, I don't see myself as separate entities either, but I think we all have different sides of our personalities and I definitely have a logical side and an emotional side which don't affect each other very much (or at least the logical side can't get through to the...