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I think I'm posting as an outlet to my mind. Yes you could be correct, which when trying to drop into friend mode, I get pulled out slightly.. every time I think I suss it, she does something which I wouldn't say is a friend, but more than. I am thinking of myself more so now, and less...

I didn't mention before, but at the weekend after that evening conversation... she did tell me she loved me, and in the daytime she was wanting to hold my hand in public, nothing more. Since then I can tell she has wound back from that stance, maybe kicking in some kind of boundary again I am...

I make a start to plan this move, I had a few drinks Friday daytime, in the evening we both spent time together after she picked me up, had a chat about things in general, and both seems to be on the wavelength of.. we know we have to do this, but totally don't want this, neither of us! Then we...

This conversation carried on a little bit while I'm working nights... She's saying she wants me to be happy and move on and fully expects me to. And due to this she feels in that circumstance we would have to have time away completely from each other to be able to get used to that change etc...

@Hojay we've spoken a little more via messages today, being more normal for a change. I mention about boundaries, and we both said we need to enforce some whilst we are seeming better towards each other. Then later she's on about other houses again, looking at better bigger ones with more...

I can see where you are coming from with this, which I suppose could be the case. I must also add, that me being me I don't really want to be out of this situation completely, so maybe it's not all her? If you get what I'm saying. Either way will get sorted some how. I feel the weekend away...

Well she's away for the weekend at a friends.. I said bye to them as we had an uneventful few hours at home beforehand with no disagreements etc. I went out for drinks with a friend last night in the city (albeit a small city, might as well be classed as a town) which was good! I've spent most...

@lostforgottensoul Thanks for the reply. I get that but if I say anything it just causes irrational anger and arguments from her so I'd rather avoid that as it triggers me into defensiveness. And anger. I need to be able to sit and talk about the situation. Because she did say there's no rush...

@Freida that makes complete sense and thankyou for your insight. Either way, I don't think I'll be sticking around much longer and when she can actually sustain a normal conversation with me, I'm going to have to ask her a few favours if I must move out somewhere temporary while I sort the...

@Hojay thankyou for your reply, it helps me knowing I'm not going mad here. It's hard don't get me wrong but I'm just going to do my best to keep my head level, be nice, not stressed or upset Infront of her and the girls. And just get on with it. She will hardly see me for the next week...

So here we go... lonnnnng probably doesn't make sense post here... Another week, and chaos. We had an alright weekend, went bike riding with the girls, made some food for the week, she went out with a friend, all good on the friends front. We had been doing meditation before sleeping, which...

Wow, well thankyou so much I had a good read of it all. It's nice (also not nice..) to know that somebody has been through such a similar thing to what I seem to be going through. This week has been okay considering, I feel we have kept some boundaries. Weekend was the girls birthdays so we...

Thankyou for all of the posts on here, it's been a nice read. I think what you say gives me hope to be in her life still, and to support her, as a friend. This week has been a little tough, we didn't really set boundaries, my hopes got up, we acted normal one day, then all comes crashing down...

This really is a weird one. She's reverted to being the good friends we always was, so when I was in a state last night all she was doing was giving me basic strategies to calm down whilst she had hold of my hand.. which set me off again cause I was like... I'm going to miss that ? but that's...

Thanks for the reply. She didn't allow me to take care of her, I just refused to allow her to have a crappy day on her birthday that was all, I was more doing it to allow her girls to celebrate it with some normality. She's allowing me space, and isn't pushing emotions onto me, I must admit...

We've spoken again. It was her birthday yesterday and I made the effort for her and she felt like she didn't deserve anything, but the girls and I made sure she felt good about it all Obviously we stayed up having a few drinks watching TV and talking, we got back into the subject, I was upset...

So laid in bed after working lates, thinking about things.. Have any of you sufferers broken up with your partner, because of what you're going through, even though deep down you still love and care for that person, and then did you ever feel like you shouldn't have? Or wanted to go back to...

Thank you so much for your insight into this

Hello, I understand what you are saying, you are correct it may seem that way, but in actual fact she is not asking me to do anything, and doesn't expect me to, and is happy to live independently like she always used to. Yeah I'll be helping around the house and such, but as it's my current...

I believe that doing this is allowing her to feel less guilty about not being able to be there properly in a relationship. She explained she knows her feelings about it are there (as well as other things not related to the relationship) but is unable to focus on them and act on them, or feel...

Yeah it's exactly that, the label has been removed and we are friends. This past few months we have basically been awkward friends with a label whilst she struggles along, with the added stress to herself for not giving us what a relationship needs. If it's just her way of avoiding the stress...

As much as I can see that might be the case for some, due to various factors right now we won't be able to move out from one another just yet, but other space can be given as and when required. She has actually asked if we could stay in the house together for supporting each other through this...

Working latest this week, which in my line of work, when it's quiet there's nothing to do so of course my mind does overthinking, yeah I'm trying to control this with various things but sometimes it's hard and overwhelming. Now, I know I've previously mentioned I'm not allowing myself to put in...

It's hard in some aspects yes of course. It will take some adjustments but after talking again this morning while she was working from home, I still feel it's the right thing, wether it changes in the future who knows. Today Ive been started on my CBT to help with my anxiety/overthinking so...

We are definitely sitting comfortably at being friends and that's it, no stress to try have physical or emotional ties to keep the relationship happy as such. And after another decent talk last night over a few drinks, I feel more at ease with the whole situation. She has a hell of alot to...