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If it was me in her situation and I had a partner and my friends were suggesting the guy who is accused of rape was interested in me then I would not isolate myself with this person and definitely not get drunk with them. To me this would be common sense. We all know drinking alcohol can impair...

I have found running and meditation to be helpful. I have eliminated caffeine completely also - this lowers my anxiety. I have started to do some yoga too which I think will help.

Thanks for the reply. I have tried a couple of these. What I am finding is that most women demand a confident partner and I am very hesitant and come across as anxious in some situations. This is because I feel risking rejection is unsafe - as a consequence of feeling intense emotional pain...

@marylouise Yeah it has taken me some time to realize what I need to work on. Most of the trauma I suffered was emotional abuse and the wounds are so deep that inside I feel repulsive or defective in some way. One can never be loved if one does not accept themselves. My behaviours or habits of...

Hi thanks for the response. Good to hear that you have managed to get success in this area eventually. Freeing myself from trauma is proving to be a tough journey and taking up most of my time. I will keep going though.

Hi I feel childhood trauma has completely crushed my ability to have a relationship with a woman. Now approaching my 30's I'm at a loss as to how I will be able to overcome this. I've had about 37 sessions of therapy and made good strides but still I'm alone. Trauma has left me with a deep...

Yeah it is important to prioritize. We can't just focus on the trauma all the time there are too many other things to do. This is one of my problems. I'm currently trying to go from self-hatred / repulsion / shame to acceptance / love of the self. I simply won't ever be able to have a...

It is so much work. I have my own formal records of everything that has happened in the past and digging through it all time and time again is exhausting. It is also proving to be very expensive. Best to just focus on improving each day. Set milestones. Have the belief that we can recover...

Anyone else feel overwhelmed with the work required to overcome trauma? I've had therapy for some time now and keeping up with everything else is proving to be exhausting. I'm studying, working and doing a huge amount of personal work. I have no time for a relationship and I have trouble in this...

I was feeling lonely for a long period actually. Trauma has crushed my ability to have a relationship and living as a single male is tough. I then joined meetup website to socialize with like minded people. This has helped. I have also made myself more career focused and this has helped also as...

Hi LondonLeo I would be interested in coming along. Probably once a month as I'm not in London.

When we are exposed to trauma changes take place in the brain; in particular the amygdala becomes overly sensitive. Our goal would be to reverse this process somehow. I watched one presentation from a Harvard scholar who said that meditation causes thinning in the amydala if I remember correctly...

Perhaps I'll try this.

I have felt like this before. And comparing myself to others' more normal life made it harder to accept. But that is all you can do. Accept and focus on the present.

I tried to pretend nothing had happened in the past and tried to stop myself from thinking about it. But I was an emotional wreck. I had EMDR which helped me to release the emotions locked up inside of me for many years. I noticed a significant improvement after this.

Thanks for the reply. Yeah it seems I can't go without it either. I've started to notice more and more just how sensitive I am to certain things.

Yeah you're right. It seems that at the top you have the wealthy people who are hoarding all the money coming into the country and leave none to invest in important areas such as a strong judicial system or basic needs for the majority poor. Until a solution is found to root out this corruption...

Quite shocking to hear about her terrible experience and India needs to do more to tackle sexual crime especially given the recent case re: rape of the girl on the bus. However I think the above needs to be emphasized so that people have some perspective. I wonder which parts of India she had...

Hi, I'm finding that all the extended periods of emotionally charged situations in childhood have left me really emotionally sensitive as an adult. Some of the times in childhood I would be left shaking from fear or I would pass out due to being overloaded with different types of negative...

I see. Recently I've tried to write down exactly what I could remember each time I had one of those dreams. It doesn't quite make sense once I read out what I've written. It's like a story with gaps missing. However, certain images/feelings/audio do stand out. So I've written out the beliefs...

Hi I sometimes get dreams with aspects of the traumatic events e.g: audio, images, feelings mixed in with other events randomly generated by my mind. What does this mean exactly and how common is this? I'm not exactly waking up in the middle of the night due to these but it's something I've...

It is meditation where you cultivate loving-kindness towards other people and yourself. So generating these positive emotions when you meditate. Idea is to first concentrate on doing this for someone you have a good relationship with, then to any stranger , then yourself and then to people you...

I'm trying to do about 20mins twice a day. Can be hard sometimes if I'm feeling too tired then I just get sleepy. I need to move onto metta though as that directly addresses the self hatred. But I find it more challenging that being mindful of the breath.

It seems we have similar problems. My main fear is that the thinking could become a reality. I cannot tell what will happen in the future. It is not a subject I've discussed with my family and I only briefly discussed it with my psychologist. My mind is a mess. It will be challenging to repair...

Perhaps we could try and generate more positive feelings towards ourselves. For example metta meditation may help although I have yet to incorporate it on a daily basis myself. Or we could dwell on any positive thoughts daily to create positive thinking habits. Changing our minds will be...