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Thank you p-no, I hope you're ok x x

Hey everyone, I'm having my first up day since my boy said he couldn't be in a relationship with me at the moment, as he has to heal himself before he can start a relationship. I mean up in that I've not cried, I've eaten and I've done things today that have taken my mind off him a bit. But as...

@p-no that's really interesting to hear...I guess it makes sense that what you're going through feels like the norm to you if it's all you've ever known. Just out of curiosity, and I hope this isn't intrusive, but when did you realise that what you experience with your PTSD symptoms wasn't...

@bell I really appreciate your point of view, especially as you will know much more than I about what it is like to actually suffer with PTSD. And you're not being curt at all, your honesty is refreshing & you're making an extremely valid point that I need to take on board if I'm going to get...

Bell, I hear you, but it's so hard to even think about him not coming back just yet, I feel like I have to stay hopeful, for him as much as for myself. He doesn't have to be alone in this and I don't mean in the way that I'll be there on his shoulder not giving him any space or time to deal, but...

Kahlan - silly autocorrect changed your name, sorry!x

Kahlan, your point of view wasn't at all egocentric, I knew exactly what you meant by your post - sometimes meaning gets lost in translation over the web, it can be read so many different ways by different people. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, although I'd never wish my anxiety on...

Solara & P-no, what you're saying is really interesting to me, and actually enlightening. Thanks for sharing with me! It makes sense that just because he can't spend time with me romantically, it doesn't mean his normal everyday friendships and relationships will be neglected. Not that I would...

Kahlan, you're absolutely right, it must be incomprehensibly frightening for him to let other people in, especially as he's told me as much. I think it's a case of baby steps in my situation. The last thing I want to do is overstep the mark when he's not ready x

RussH, thank you for the book recommendation, I'll look into it for definite! I am prepared to be patient. In fact I'm prepared to do anything to help him. I'll do anything x

HI Solara, Thanks for your advice again. I wouldn't dream of wanting him to cut contact with anyone just because we dated. It's not that I think those people matter less at all, in fact, they probably matter more at this stage. My anxiety isn't that he has other people besides me that he...

HI Kahlan, Thanks so much for your welcome & support. I think today is the first day I've been able to focus long enough to think about distracting myself with something. This form is a genuine god-send for me, something to help me piece together what is actually happening, with people who are...

Thank you Bell. Deep down I do believe in the power of love, I do. The distance is SO scary though, to the point where I talk myself into thinking it's personal & what he is saying is just an excuse. And I KNOW that is so unfair of me, but it's a thought process that creeps in before I have...

Hey everyone! I posted my first thread yesterday as I've recently become involved with a lovely man who suffers from c-ptsd. About two weeks ago he withdrew and we had very little contact, but a couple of days ago we talked it all out. He's sorting himself out, and can't be with me while he...

I woke up in the middle of the night in a panic that he won't come back to me. I know he's said he's sorting himself out because of me, but I'm so frightened I'm losing him. Doubts are so hard to rationalise in the middle of the night, especially when distance and giving space is a key part of...

Sending hugs to you Jenn x

Willykat, thank you for your thought. My lovely man was abused as a child by his mother, but as far as I know it wasn't sexual abuse. It was, however, sustained over a long period of time and consistent over a number of years to the point that he thought it was normal. Because it was his mother...

HI Jordan, Solara & Willycat, Thank you so much for your advice, it's so helpful and interesting to hear from actual sufferers. You're saying things that he can't say to me, so thanks so much for sharing. You're right Jordan, I shouldn't tell him I understand, as truthfully, I don't. I'm...

Hi Everyone, I'm new to this forum, but i've been reading for a while. I've been dating someone who has C-PTSD and he has recently pulled back from our relationship. After two weeks of very little contact we met up and talked last night and he explained to me the reason for him distancing...