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In reply to Abstract (post #37): Thanks for the info on hypervigilence; I think she's (and my kids & I) suffering from that as well, which may trigger the fight or flight response. A to Q #1: She's an ok mom; however, she's not doing much of anything else (ie, cooking meals; maintaining a...

In reply to Abstract (post #30): Hello, & thanks for your interest in trying to help. You stated, "There are people who use things such as restraining orders and children as a way of manipulating and controlling others. There are also those who go around whitewashing their behaviour and blaming...

How I'm I "wallowing" and "trashing my wife"? Everything I stated was 100% FACT. Bottom line: you know next to nothing about me, or the hell I've been through, so please spare me w/ your trite opinions. "I am really sorry that you are where you are." sure you are ; )

...and what kind of person makes light of another person being homeless, due to someone's untreated PTSD?

Who said anything about divorce?

Trust me, I know how you feel-- I also married a person w/ PTSD. I've gone thru (& continue to go through) hell for the past 9 years. Hey, at least you're not homeless like I am.. thanks to my wife's untreated PTSD.

...didn't he already say, "yes" to hosting Thanksgiving at your home-- just remind him of that fact. There really isn't much more you can do.

You stated, "...he also says that he will leave for the day if anyone visits that day." And? Let him leave. Believe it or not, the world doesn't revolve around this person. He doesn't seem to really care about keeping his word, AND how important this is to you & your family, 1 of ONLY 3 major...

Unfortunately, you can't 'make' a person keep their word. At this point, all you can do is tell him how important it is to you & your family.

Wow, that must be an exhausting job: trying to keep a person happy... at ALL times! Wish my wife had just a bit of that desire.

Thank you 'intothelight'.

Does anybody here know someone in San Diego (that's where I live)? Sleeping/ living in my car for 4 months-- again, is getting very depressing & difficult-- please help.

I don't know why anymore, but I'm still married to her. Yes, more time w/ kids would be nice, but unlikely due to current living conditions.

In reply to InsideAWord: Thanks a lot, I'll do that : )

In reply to DMerish: yes; I just got 8 hrs per week.

In reply to DMerish: "Do you and your children's mother have a legal custody agreement currently, if so what is it?" Again unfortunately, the CA courts failed miserably-- they even know she has PTSD & still gave her FULL custody.

In reply to DMerish: Background? Can you pls be more specific, thanks.

Sorry about the delay; I'm using a faint, free wi-fi signal. I'm in CA.

Unfortunately, no, being a P.I. isn't helping me. How do you know about these 'advocates'?

No, I don't have any $ to pay them.

U.S.A.

Her PTSD has gone untreated for over 14 years-- which I found only gets worse with time. As a result, our marriage has been VERY difficult! My wife is in denial about her untreated PTSD being the real issue of our problems; she often 'fights' or 'flights' (unfortunately always w/ our kids). I...