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Love is peculiar... we stay with who we love for whatever reasons. Do you want to be with him? If yes, then please grant him the freedom to choose to love you and be with you. (Speaking from a lover of a sufferer who chose to end the relationship because he felt he is being unfair to me, and...

I relate to many of you here. I had an absolutely fabulous relationship with someone who broke down with PTSD. We haven't spoken for nearly half a year now. Right now, all I can really do to cope is to shut down my emotions toward an opposite sex. Of course I want sex, but the thought of...

Thank you both for writing. Yes, the sheer knowledge that "I am not alone" and there is nothing wrong with me in the way that I feel is certainly comforting. I am surviving. I was certainly feeling under the weather this past week. Having this place to just cry out to - verbally and...

Yup. We are certainly in the same boat. I miss him very very much. It must be very hard for you too; how do you deal with it considering you would see him twice a week? In a way, I am glad I am not seeing him, and I can't because we have always been a long distance couple. It's 2 ways...

A man I love is/was suffering from PTSD when we put an end to our relationship. He had a breakdown and ended our relationship, which is perhaps for the better since he really needs the time to recoup for himself. This happened before Christmas 2013 ... and this is our 4th month without...

Give Mom some time :). One day, she will accept even though she may not understand or agree!

What a timely posting... I have been struggling a bit in the past week since I am missing my love one with ptsd. It's been more than 2 months since our last contact. It isn't that long at all if I put things into perspectives, but it feels like a long time. Anyway, as a supporter, I feel I am...

We all face insecurity to different extents and I can certainly see the patterns you see for yourself as well! I think having the ability to earn income, freelance or contracted, will be an empowerment for you. Going to school, like you've mentioned would be great too. Even if you were to...

I can understand your situation. I'm an expat in another close-by country. I've also lived in Kyoto and Tokyo as well. Happy to talk on PM If you'd like.

Interestingly, one thing I noticed about myself (supporter) is I am FEELING so much more than before the incident happened. It feels like super sensory overload and I am not interested to connect emotionally to anyone except those who mean a lot to me. I know I am putting up a wall with...

Nothing is minor or major, and please do not compare what happened to what impact it has for you. The accident must be horrific but I am so glad you survived and lived! I am glad you are going to therapy and what you are feeling now will not be forever, your emotions will come back to a...

Wonderful! It sounds like a big step forward to me :) There is a saying in my culture, "the neck has more control than the head" because the neck can turn and direct the head. I wish you the very best.

Dear Serasen, I used to be in your position with a man who does not have ptsd. I first tried to talk about it with him, and it continued. I then went out of my way to "destress" before I see him, and even then, if it is not one thing it is another. There were times that yelling got bad and I...

I love a man who shares your symptoms - withdrawal, disassociation, panic, cry, sadness, guilt. Speaking as a person who loves this man so dearly, as he is everything I could ever want, I wish to tell him, as well as tell you - "It is okay. :) Relax. I love you. As your system learn to trust...

Notsowild, give him some time to digest and understand. :)

Dear Dustin, yes, get help. I believe in you. You have already identified the problem, now you can start to seek help to fix it. Do lose yourself in sports. See if friends would like to do 3 on 3, remind friends and mates about body contact as you are prone to injuries. Sportsmen will...

Viosinger, you are such a strong and beautiful woman. It is fine to feel tired, vulnerable, shatter into pieces, cry, and hold your dog. I am a supporter and I have these days too. Let us allow ourselves "a day off" from fighting and we will re-energize and keep going for the sake of life and...

Deo, awesome optimism. You've brighten my day. Thank you.

Can I answer this question too? As a supporter, an understanding and awareness allows us to learn to care for you and myself.

bell, I rejoice at reading your sharing. Don't give up! My arms are open for a hug if you want to join me for a virtual embrace. love, xx.

bell, this is classic of PTSD relationship isn't it. Those who love you, love you for who you are - everything that you are, everything that you mean to us. :) Love is very difficult to put in words - it's love, desire, compassion, kindness, that embrace literally, everything. I want to...

Thank you bell for sharing your experience; it must be very different for a sufferer and "reflex" is a perfect illustration. If I may ask further, in your experience if you are willing to share, after your panic and flight, what goes on in the mind, body and emotions? I sometimes imagine...

Hi AJJ, I relate to the pain you feel. My understanding of PTSD's response is "fight or flight" and I apply that to myself when I feel that pain. In "fight mode," I try to address where the pain is from, feel it, work through it, manage it to get through the day. In "flight mode," ... and I...

My partner with PTSD said to me in email, "your expression of care is a trigger of my stress"... I believe him as I have seen him break down and said to me, "you are scary". I am completely shattered it hurts but I know, that is the dark shadow that has engulfed him talking at that moment, and...

Tswevnz, being conscious of both behaviour and thoughts already tells a lot :)