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I have a friend in my Guard unit who has also dealt with PTSD and I've been talking to him a lot lately. It's been very helpful for him. I'm starting to realize little by little how I should be handling things. What's hardest for me right now is to get over the fact that I didn't handle things...

I would be very curious to hear some opinions on this as well because those are some of the same exact things my (ex) sufferer says. He says "I don't know" or "I don't know what to tell you" when I would ask him questions (which of course I stopped asking him questions), and he says he doesn't...

Right now I'm just hoping he will allow me to be friends. I guess he is in his own way right now - since he is allowing some communication. But it's tough when I can't ever see him. We can't just meet up for coffee or something because he's so far away. I'm just worried that me being so far away...

I agree. I'm kind of wondering the same thing. My guy does not like phone calls (but he never really did even when things were "fine"), but he can handle messages. I am hopeful that things can be worked out with him and I, but I'm wondering at what point I need to decide to move on. I agree that...

Thanks Nikole. I think I will check it out. It's good to hear all of that. My guy is a sufferer for sure, but after seeing a lot of stories on here I'm not sure what to think about my situation most of the time. He did say yesterday that he's willing to keep an open line of communication, but...

And I will try harder to send only messages that don't need a response...however that's tough because that's the only way I know he's ok with me talking to him is if he responds. Double edged sword! :sorry:

He has not come out and said to not contact him. And actually just earlier tonight I asked him out right if it bothered him if I say hello or ask how he's doing from time to time. He said it was fine. He also said that he doesn't have a lot to say and that he has nothing to give. I told him that...

Is it a bad idea to occasionally remind him that I'm here to listen if he needs me? I see people talk about how it's important for them to know that we're here, but how often should I be telling/reminding him of this? We don't have a completely open line of communication right now. He will...

Thank you for the responses. I can't say it's exactly what I wanted to hear, but I know it's the truth. I'm trying very hard to be patient. Hopefully I can find a way to let him know that I'm here for him without it seeming like I'm pushing him. The simple fact is that right now I can't give up...

I have (was) dating a combat vet for about 7 months. We weren't dating when he was deployed. I met him a year and half after he returned. He seemed so positive about our relationship - he even almost had to convince me to date him! But once we started dating things just seemed to fall into...