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I'm feeling so lost right now. My wife, who I've been with for over 10 years, was triggered for the first time in 2014(childhood trauma). The years that followed have been so dark for her. She had been holding everything back for so many years it came close to killing her time and time again...

Best wishes to you @Amack I know how you feel. My own family tell me it is time for my wife to 'draw a line' under her PTSD. I have tried explaining how the condition works so many times. If someone suffered a physical head trauma they couldn't drawn a line under it could they! They don't get it...

Hi all, Currently trying to figure this one out. My wife's abuser insists to her family that he cannot now remember the most serious incidents of abuse he committed 20 years ago. He remembers the terrible but legally speaking less serious incidents. The thing is he admitted to them ALL at the...

@Sparkle I am sorry that it is so hard. The level of stress and worry can't be helping much with your ME. It is very difficult to turn it all off for enough time to actually do something good I know. Could you start with something small? Or maybe go to a general carers support group if there are...

I would agree with @Sandstone . PODS are excellent. The founder, Carolyn Spring has recently written a book also (I think you can easily get it from amazon). She is a sufferer and has some interesting insight. PODS do all sorts of things including workshops etc for therapists and other...

It's seeing glimpses of all the stuff that isn't her PTSD. The humor, intelligence, the pure creativity. The hope that all of these things and more have the potential to come up to the surface every once in a while. Also, this probably sounds weird, but no matter how hard the day has been...

@Lucycat Sounds like the Scottish police were useful. That gives me some hope that there are some good ones out there. It must be very difficult with your brothers. I find it completely mind blowing that they would want anything to do with the man who has caused so much pain to you and your...

thank you to you both. It s really useful to hear about both of your experiences. @Lucycat I think my wife is hoping that it will help but I don't think either of us see it as some kind of magic fix. Were the rest of your family supportive through the process? I know in our case her family wont...

Hi all, I haven't been active on here really since my wife was in hospital last year following a break down. She is doing so much better than she was then. I wanted to thank everyone on here who was such great support. I was hoping I would be able to seek some further advice. I am a supporter...

Thank you both of you. I agree with you both and think that keeping the boundary is really the most important thing. We are distancing ourselves from him for a while which I think is for the best at the moment. I hope it is just a case of him letting things sink in but would agree that enforcing...

Yes I did make them aware @Purplemunchkin. I phoned both the crisis team and her therapist about the overdose on the day it happened so that everyone who needs to know does know. Her GP had kindly said he is going to chase it with the crisis team so at the very least she should get seen by them...

Thank you both of you. How is your husband doing now @Purplemunchkin ? Was his experience as an inpatient useful? I spoke to her about the attempt. I asked her if she wished she had been with it enough to make sure it was permanent and she said no. She saw her therapist yesterday and her...

So, turns out she texted a friend today to say 'I am annoyed I got it wrong' (the overdose amount)... wtf am I suppose to do with that information? There are some things you just don't need to know. What am I just waiting around for it to happen again now? Waiting for her to get it 'right'. I...

Thanks. I have been having nightmares that something similar would happen regularly for many months so I sort of feel like none of the last few days are real and mostly just feel very sad for her because she must just be feeling so awful for so long to contemplate doing something like that...

Firstly thank you all so much for taking the time to respond. I really do greatly appreciate your help and advice. I would have replied sooner but my wife took an overdoes last night and I have mostly been dealing with that. It is the first time she has done anything like that with pills and I...

I feel so tired and worn out by this all. My wife came out from hospital after a 2 and a half month stay about 6 weeks ago. She has been diagnosed with major depression as a result of a trauma that happened in her childhood. This has been made worse recently when her parents seem to be in...

Thanks, that is really useful to know. I have never seen a therapist myself so there are some grey areas in my head concerning treatment. When she comes home I would only like advice from a professional on how best I can support her and what would help keep her in a safe place I have never had...

Thank you everyone for your kind responses. It is really helpful to hear your views and thank you very much for the article. Her therapist said that she couldn't be in contact with me or talk to me about my wife. Is this normal? The reason I contacted her therapist in the past (a few months...