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*wry smile* I know they have trust issues, which is why that was the focus of the arc. Of letting the friend in. Eve lashes out at the suggestion it isn't her fault - she is not articulating it as anger, just a visceral reaction that her friend has no clue that in no way no how could it not be...

That is why I started with - it depends on what the arc of the story is. In Eves case, the story arc is trust - trusting her friend to hear her story. The Survivors Guilt, and repercussions of that guilt included being unwilling to tell her story, are a part of that arc - but not all of it. This...

I think the answer depends partially on how the scene takes place, when it takes place, and the Point of View of the person I am writing from. I will try and answer this in as much detail as I can without being explicit (so as not to write something which may trigger). In general, all of the...

Ronin, while Archive of Our Own is a good resource, it is mostly fan-fic, which is very different style to what I am writing. I am in a community of writers, but few have grappled with these themes - I'm hoping to do better. For now I am concentrating on the links and books so helpfully...

I am writing more than this story.

Joeylittle - thank you for those sources. I will get those from the library as well, and do the reading you suggest. Yes I am lacking on the PTSD side, because when I posted this question I had not thought my character would still be suffering from it - just the guilt as a lingering aspect...

I'm not going to quote things people tell me. She has told me something in that each flashback is different that I could never have learned otherwise. That is why it is valuable. I am not ignoring the pieces I did not directly quote in my responses.

This is valuable. Thank you for sharing it with me.

Thank you! I have put it on hold at the Library and will go pick it up today.

This is what I am trying to do, and why I am here. And, if I get far enough as to finish it, I would 100% ask (respectfully) for someone who understands to read it first to make sure I got it right. This is actually pretty close to what happens actually, which is why I came asking about guilt...

Everything you have written is very insightful and helpful. The reason I asked - rather than going off the clinical descriptions of the symptoms - is that those descriptions are (for want of a better word) sterile. For instance - flashbacks. Ok I can make a narrative about a flashback, but that...

I am deeply apologetic that I hit triggers, and clearly I have a lot to learn, wish is why I am here.

That is a very good point that I had not thought of. I will certainly follow that idea and do some more research on it. Thank you for bringing it to my attention.

I will thank you.

Except that as I said I thought that would be entirely inappropriate and disrespectful.

This was totally NOT my intent. I did not come looking for PTSD because everything I had read lead me to believe that after 13 years (which is the length of time for my character) PTSD would not be manifest as strongly. I've learned by this thread I was wrong. So even your unwillingness to want...

Thank you. This is ALL I was trying to do here. Learn. Clearly I did not understand the questions as I wrote them as painful. I did not want people here to tell me their stories - if I wanted that I could have gone snooping around the site and read them myself. I didn't. I wanted to respect this...

I work with refugees every day in my day job. I am not trying to make anyone a labrat. I know that BPD is not PTSD. I chose BPD studies because my brother has it, not because it relates to the story. I know PTSD is not survivors guilt. I searched for survivors guilt, I saw threads here. I felt...

[/USER] I have not disregarded the rest of what people have said. I have taken it on board, and tried to show that I am learning. If it seems like cherry picking, it is only because I wanted to show that I had read their post by responding to part of it. As to proper research, I do it all the...

I did not think it was relevant to my question, which is why I didn't include it. But, for what it is worth, it was going to BPD families for research and to refugee support services (whichever region needs it most at the time this ever gets published). It probably should go to PTSD support...

See.. this is the kind of stuff I don't know and wanted to learn. Otherwise, she would have just got on with her life. I didn't understand - and by these words, you helped me that little bit to write more honestly and respectfully. So thank you. And just FWIW - I have lost pregnancies, and thus...

joeylittle, Thank you for your words. I do believe however we can always learn from others who have lived an experience different to our own. Both in fiction and in real life. I appreciate those who have been (and are) willing to educate me.

Thank you Scout. I don't know if it is different either, but I thought it might be which is why I have asked. I did not want to make assumptions on other peoples feelings.

Ronin, I would never take something personal lightly. I want to learn and understand. Where else could I learn to be respectful of the people who feel this way if I don't ask the people themselves? @Suzetig - my aim at putting my own experiences into this, was to say that I have been on the...

Good evening all. Let me start by saying thank you for allowing me into your community. I am an almost-40 year old author and mother. One of the things that is very important to me in my fiction is accuracy - Which is why I am here. I am writing a novel which includes a person who has some...