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Check out "Aphrodite wounded" website. It sets out what constitutes consent. What you described sounded like sexual assault at least. Whether it is prosecutable is not the issue. The issue is that your reactions following the event are those of a victim who has been traumatized. "Submission is...

Submission does not equal consent. Apparently there are now laws being written on this very issue. I found the website "Aphrodite Wounded"useful. I had a coercive rape experience when I was a teenager and it took me decades before I was willing to acknowledge it was rape. I too lay there and let...

I used to use a razor in my pubic area. Somehow making myself bleed felt strong - perhaps around memories of someone else making me bleed during abuse. I don't do it any more and don't even have the urge. Talking about it in therapy was vital to my healing, but it took a while to work through...

I have used stories as a tool to talk about my abuse. Sort of fairy stories. It's strange. I start writing the story and it takes on a life of its own - total fantasy. But then I share it and I begin to see what the pieces represent. Perhaps not actual events but emotional events. I also use...

My sexual abuse lasted 16 years and there were multiple abusers plus abandonment by parents to a known perp. Many issues plus ddnos. I spent years working through trust and abandonment and self worth issues. Then took a break and reentered therapy after my sons suicide. My therapist is part of...

Write a narrative of the first event maybe, to test the waters. And read it to her. If you trust her and she is a good therapist it will go from there.

Be patient. He will show his true colors and then your friend will need you.

The comment that the work is the same regardless of the degree of dissociation or the label is so true. I hated being labeled even though I was having disociative experiences, so letting go of that was useful to me. The point is to do the therapy/trauma work and let the "experts" debate the...