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I just want to tell you that I'm SO proud of you for emailing again and that you are going to talk this over with her! Your strength is amazing. And the letter you are going to write yourself? Brilliant. I'm pretty sure you & T will get through this and that your relationship will be that much...

@Rumors :hug: I very much appreciate your kindness, thank you!! I have been journaling about this but I'm still trying to correctly identify feelings/emotions. He actually has me do homework surrounding that. I'm not quite sure what the proper protocol is for me to take ownership of my...

I'm pretty sure mine would say something very similar. It's just hard to get that thought out of my head because it's been ingrained in there since childhood. I need to work on that.

Thank you for these thoughtful posts! :happy: I'm feeling a bit better today. I'm just keeping myself immersed in my art...that helps me to remain calm. *insert art emoji here* I'm sure we will have a very calm talk about it, and I'm looking forward to it. Neither of my previous Ts would let...

Thank you all for your thoughtful posts. I have no plans to terminate with him at all. Like I said, he has helped me more than all my previous therapy hours combined. I'm just hurting right now. I'm not angry. To move forward I just need him to tell me how/why this happened, and I know he...

YOU deserve her amazingness! There is no such thing as "she deserves better." YOU are that better. You're hurting right now over attachment but I know she gets that and she wants to work on that with you. I know because she said so in her email. Can you at least call her and talk it over? If you...

Oh no! PLEASE don't let this thread be the cause of you ending your therapy. Oh...I'm so sad for you right now. Unsend, unsend! (Ok I know that's not possible) Can you at least talk to her face to face before making this absolutely final?

<Message edited: Forum administration is not for public discussion. Raise a help ticket to discuss with staff.> A lot of therapists encourage this as they know some things are easier said in writing. It's not crossing a boundary to have email conversations if the therapist allows it. If you go...

No no no! You are NOT horrible!!! Not at all! I completely understand your thinking and what you are going through is hard. It's so freakin difficult to deal with attachments and I recognize you trying really hard to understand it and to understand what you need from her. I disagree completely...

I think I may be coming off as a complete bitch here. I know you can't tell tone through writing. I completely understand that things come up. I do. I get it. I have NO problem when that happens, such as last week and the holiday schedule. I have never been upset when I've been asked to change...

I seem to have completely missed this somehow... You're right, I don't know what his other clients are going through, but unless one of them experienced extreme torture last weekend, or they are dying, they aren't more critical than I am. And if someone did experience what I did, he should...

First, thank you very much for your reply. It made me feel less alone. I think this is correct. My first two Ts would always check in when something bad happened, or after a difficult session. I thought it was nice of my first T, but I didn't think too much of it because that was my first...

@scout86 Thank you. Just...thank you. This is exactly how it works with us. He does his own scheduling and my times were blocked off every Tues & Fri. Thank you for understanding.

His exact words in writing: "I have your time blocked off for every Tuesday @ 2pm and every Friday @ 1pm (unless a holiday falls on those days, then we will reschedule for another day and time) indefinitely. You can count on me to be there, pinky promise!" And then when I saw him next we...

My appointments are scheduled every Tues & Fri at a specific time. They are days not dates. I don't understand why this is hard to understand. He scheduled me every Tuesday & Fri and it's permanent unless I need a different day for some reason. It's not just a "promised" day....it's on his...

Do you know for sure he didn't use the word promise? No, you don't. But I do. I wish you all would stop assuming that I am in the wrong and that it's MY thinking that is the problem. I also don't see how I violated some guild line as I did not do any of the things listed but that's fine. I'm...

I'm not sure what a diary is...is that his schedule? If that's the case, then my Fridays are in his schedule. I am promised every Tues/Fri at specific times. That is agreed upon. I don't think anyone here is understanding that I was promised, in writing, that time. It's not in my mind. I have...

He makes regular, scheduled appointments. I have every Tuesday at 2 and every Friday at 1. Those times are blocked off for me. How does a T not schedule like this? I've never had a T that just scheduled randomly. It's always specific days/times.

It's not "merely." It's a big deal. I had a very traumatic 4th and I need the time that was promised to me. It's that simple. He gave my time to someone else and it's not ok. I can learn to "cope without therapy" had this been not following a very traumatic event. It's the very reason I'm in...

You are absolutely right. I need to remind him that he promised me the time (and show him the emails in which he did so) and be blunt about my expectations/needs. Sort of like, I expect him to keep up his end of the bargain but be a lot more eloquent about it. I would definitely understand if...

I disagree with this. I feel he does owe me an explanation. It's MY time, I was promised that time. It's not like he switched me to another time or day...he simply replaced me. So, yes, he should explain why he did this. It's not ok with me that he just replaced me with no warning. If another...

It may be your "job" to have a positive sense of self, but it's her job to help you with that!! That is her role! It's her job to lift you up! And I definitely think she knows you're amazing! I've been a lurker for quite some time on these boards and you have shown many, many times that your...

He didn't cancel...he just replaced me. It was not out of his control...there are no sick family members or court. He told me that he gave someone else my time. He's great with boundaries (thank goodness!) but he would have told me if it was an emergency. And I don't think he would have the same...

Yes, thank you! That is a much better word. I'm still learning feelings/emotions and I often can't identify things correctly. My T has me write down what I think I'm feeling each day and why, then he goes over it with me and he explains if it's correct or if another word is more appropriate. He...

Thank you SO MUCH!! I really needed this right now! BTW, I am SO proud of you for not reacting to your Ts email! And she does not hate you!! I have a response ready to go on your thread so I'll just leave it like this here. Know what's crazy? I have never yelled at anyone in my entire life! I...