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@Freida Thank you and yes you are absolutely right, you have to put in the work for your own recovery and no matter what the circumstances be held accountable for your actions and suffer the consequences of choices made. I think 18+ years of untreated ptsd along with multiple traumas just...

YES I agree 100%!!!

I'm so sorry to hear your sick I hope you feel better soon! And thank you for taking the time to reply not feeling well. I would absolutely consider listening to his side of the story. But at this point I've said my peace and will not be reaching out again. I already feel like any attempt on my...

Thank you for the well wishes I completely agree that both need to be invested to make it work. I really believed that we had a fighting chance until this episode "took him". I believe with all my heart that he's in a very dark place and probably thinking very irrationally right now in his last...

To all that have replied to my thread and helped me get through this difficult time this will probably be my final update as I have decided to end the relationship. After his contact last Thursday after 5 weeks of being shut out, I received some messages on fb messenger from whom I believe to...

Thank you @EveHarrington I appreciate your input and I do realize that this is just the beginning. I know he's gone to the VA for help but but bit yet certain if he will accept medication or therapy he only said that they want to put him on antidepressants and pills for ptsd whether or not he's...

Thanks I've been doing my best to breathe through this! I applaud you for going through it for 9 years. I can only hope that my relationship survives this. I've only been with my boyfriend for a year and a half but have known him over 20 years so it was friendship first which is what I'm afraid...

***update *** Last night after 5 weeks of being shut out I received a text from my boyfriend. He sent it while I was in my boxing class and I didn't see it til afterwards. Initially he seemed to be projecting some anger saying he told me he was going through a serious depression and I didn't...

@Sophy thank you for your response.I'm sorry that you've had to endure a relationship like this as well as suffering yourself thar takes a lot of strength! I was Ill informed and didn't make the ptsd connection until this episode. I knew he had ptsd and Was in denial of getting treatment...

I meant to say before getting shut out ughh stupid auto correct!!

Today has been so hard!! Last night I hosted my family so I was busy and distracted. Today we were supposed to spend it with his family. I haven't heard from him since Thanksgiving after a few attempts at making contact to show my support I haven't reached out again in 2 weeks. Last week he...

I can completely sympathize with what you are going through. I am also a supporter and today marks 4 weeks since I last heard from my boyfriend. The longest he had ever isolated before this was for a 2 week period last January with a few shorter ones sprinkled in. He's always come back, but it...

Thank you! Hearing from other sufferers has been so helpful especially when we can't decipher what is happening in our own sufferes mind even with each individual unique circumstance they all seem to circle back to the same behaviors and how it reflects upon the supporter. My boyfriend is very...

So an update... This may be more of a rant that I need to express, but I've been trying to remain supportive and reached out one more time well over a week ago to let him know I was still here if he needed anything. It's been radio silence since his last text to me on Thanksgiving and last he...

Thank you that does make so much sense! I would hope that if it's as bad as I think it is, he will reach out to one of them, however that may never happen as he's been struggling with this for a number of years and he is in now in his late 40's. For me personally feeling helpless and having no...

Oh if only there was a handbook! ? At this point, I only hope that I will have the opportunity to discuss and I may even have to explain what/why this is happening to him so that we can set boundaries. I know many sufferers here have seeked help, unfortunately mine has not and may not (that's an...

I'm a nurturer by nature and highly empathetic so it's so painful to not try and do everything in my power to help him, but I know you are right and I thank you for reminding me that even with my best efforts it is up to him to work through this struggle at his own pace. Having a better...

I think one of biggest difficulties I've always had in relationships is creating boundaries and holding to them. I'm frustrated with myself for not realizing that this was PTSD related. I would have had that conversation in hopes of helping him feel "safer" should it arise again. In previous...

I have read through that entire thread several times now. Thank you for starting it because it has been a great help! I do have a much better understanding of what may be going on with a sufferer internally during a symptomatic period. But I'm still unable to fully grasp and navigate what's...

I've spend so much time trying to find information and although there are very good resources out there to understand PTSD in general, I've gained the most knowledge from this site reading the experiences from both sides. I'm so grateful for those who come here willing to share to help others.

Wow that has happened to me as well a few times where I think I'm respecting his need for space, leave him completely alone and then bam I get a text asking are you ever going to talk to me again?? It is very frustrating! He later tells me how hurt he was. That's why I'm so desperate to...

Thank you for sharing what you go through. This information is invaluable for a supporter! As confusing, hurtful and trying being on the other side of Isolation can be, I am fully aware that it is nothing compared to the hell that the sufferer is going through. And it's difficult to grasp and...

That's what mine has done previously. A few days out of sight and I've just let him be, then he returns and we've continued like nothing happened. This time is more worrisome to me though because of the length of Isolation and also the first time he's actually told me of his need for space and...

I’ve been lurking here to help educate myself and to be able to help my vet boyfriend who is the sufferer. Like many other supporters here, I’ve found great comfort in knowing that I am not the only one going through this, and I’m hoping that other sufferers who have a pattern of isolating where...