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@DharmaGirl .... such a good Ted Talk, loved it :)

@Friday I really need to print your message and remind myself of this every damn time. We are two different people and I should celebrate in our differences and so should he, I think from both sides - he would like me to toughen up and I would like him to be more soft. Essentially when...

Sorry Never Faulter, some of your messages weren't showing before - strange. He's just a friend, we used to be intimate but now we're just friends.

I guess they can't win either way :(

@Sweetpea76 Oh don't you worry, when I was sick it was all my fault because I don't have cold showers. Been there! Thankful for this to help my perspective change on certain aspects. I was so far in my own pissed off state that I failed to see the blaring obvious signs that anything to do with...

This is also a problem, if I choose to cut off the phone or I'm quiet and don't retaliate and let him have his say and then say bye ... it makes the situation worse. He gets so angry if I put the phone down and if I don't retaliate its a 'you don't like hearing the truth' blah blah blah...

He's been out of service for about 10 years now, no longer in therapy. Has had therapy for many years but said he wasn't happy talking about what they wanted him to talk about (combat) so I guess he won't get any better if he doesn't address it. I'm not his therapist nor can I begin to...

@ladee not at all, as when you said that I was thinking 'what a jerk'. There are no hard lines as to what could be a trigger and what's just general arseholeness I guess. I think his issue with women is from several factors, past relationships, his mum and just being the less physically strong...

He's very open about his hyper-vigilance and his inability to feel safe so I guess that all makes sense. I can cope with that, but his overall distaste towards women in particular is upsetting, when I say 'you hate women' he says he doesn't but not very convincingly, does make me question why...

I guess you're right. The only issue is despite this I care deeply for my friend and we're business partners. Just wondered if anyone else had been witness to a vet with negative views on women, but you're right this is a stupid post.

I don't know if this has been covered off on another thread so please point me in the direction if so .... has anyone experienced their Veteran PTSD sufferer to have issues with gender? My friend seems to have a very negative view on women, often calling women 'weak'. It really frustrates me, I...

Hello All, Sorry for the radio silence, been a rocky few days! We met up to chat about my feelings and how I’ve been the past week or so. We were very honest about how we felt - I hope. A lot came out about his fears of hurting me if we were in a relationship, he said he sometimes needs to...

@Butterfly64 ... I’m feeling not ready than ever to walk away. Before I would never have considered it, I would have done whatever he said but recently I’ve been the one initiating these painful conversations. He says he wouldn’t like the fact I’m dating other people or seeing anyone but he’d...

Thanks @Butterfly64 that was a really lovely post to read!! He’s doing really well at the moment and I’ve loved these past 5 months. He is very honest about why he can’t be in a relationship, he says he would love one and wants the whole forever but just knows he will hurt someone. I’ve just...

To everyone who just gave that advice ..... thank you. You’re right I’m just giving him everything he wants, on a plate, for free. I won’t meet anyone else as long as I’m having this f*cked up friendship with him. It’s been three years and he knows how to play me - I’m a prize idiot. Thank...

Hi there, I was on this site around 2 and a half years ago as I was in love with a guy with ptsd who was going through a rough time and pushed me away. He ended up hurting me by getting into a relationship with someone else and failing to tell me. Throughout the last two years he’s had another...