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Turns out this guy wasn't who I thought he was at all. I had my reservations since the beginning but it's all clear as day now and unfortunately I question everything he's ever said to me, including having his PTSD triggered. Sadly it's another bad ending to something relating back to PTSD and I...

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's so hard and can be heartbreaking at times from what I've seen in the short time I've been exposed to it (supporter here too, if I even am that anymore). It isn't fair, it really sucks and its a demon that hurts it's hosts as well as it's loved ones. I...

I'm taking a pause from this conversation. I need to take a break for a while and deal with my own life and figure out this situation on my own. I appreciate the input from everyone.

Maybe that's why he's not reaching back out. Maybe he doesn't want to involve me in it. I'm not sure. So once this happens it will always happen? That's what I don't understand. I thought with treatment it could be managed. Either way it's something to think about, I agree.

@lostforgottensoul I don't know, am I supposed to just walk away and give up on someone bc they are going through something? I can't really help how I feel but I am going on with my life for sure. It is what it is. I just don't think this is something that'll be resolved in a few weeks....like...

It's made me think alot about what those who have served our country have gone through and what they have to live with for the rest of their lives. It makes me sad I can't help at all, other than offer support. I hadn't thought of the embarassment part because I just want to talk to him about...

I understand and appreciate you taking the time to explain some of this to me. I'm giving him space, I promise.

I do believe it. But I've never been through this and I'm still learning. It's why I came to this group so I can get advice. I'm not furiously texting and calling him. And after a few weeks I would hope to just hear how he is doing, that's all. I'm not asking to have a 3 hour conversation, but...

I'm not reaching out anymore at this time and giving him his space. I honestly didn't even consider the hospital, I really hope that's not the case but I guess its possible.

I didn't even consider that but it's a possibility too. ?

And actually I've been thinking about it and as much as I miss talking to him right now, I'm really proud of him for knowing he has things he needs to deal with and improve for his own health and well being. I think it takes a lot of courage to recognize and admit you need to work on your issues...

All very true but I have also noticed a lot of companies and local governments are starting to implement sustainability strategies. Unfortunately it's getting to the point now where it's too little too late. And the US energy infrastructure can't support all the renewable energy coming online.

Ah maybe that's one of the reasons he hasn't responded when I ask flat out. He just doesn't know right now, too much going on inside his mind he's dealing with. I always debate and write and rewrite a message before I send it for fear of saying the wrong thing and pushing him away further.

I broke down and sent a message and no response. I guess I'll back off for a few weeks and see what happens. I didn't think when he said he needed time to work on himself he meant for so long. But I guess it's totally possible? I even said if he doesn't want me around to please say so, easy way...

The US craves convenience. I think people work way too many hours and have very little time to live their lives and therefore they buy out of convenience, full of plastic, disposable items. People don't want to or don't have the time to wash reusable containers or grab reusable shopping bags...

I'm interested in what anyone thinks so thanks for responding. I guess it'll hurt more if I reach out again and don't get a response, again. I honestly don't know why this would be any different than any other time I've asked how he was and been met with silence. I try not to overthink it and I...

I think I need to be talked out of trying to get in touch with him again. It's been 3 weeks, 3 LONG weeks. So many questions in my head...does he just need even more time? Is he just done with me? It's been 2 months or so since he was triggered for the first time and not a word from him in 3...

Omg. Nail on the head right there. You are sooo helpful! I'm sorry you're dealing with this daily, but I'm so glad you're comfortable to share because this is exactly how I envision my sufferer when I reached out. Even the last time.we spoke, pretty sure he was abrupt and cut me off and that was...

I'm not sure what I was looking for but I was definitely venting. Lol. I honestly won't be discussing it with her. She thinks he's that type of guy she can smell a mile away and I'm gullible and he's a huge liar who made it up as an excuse not to talk to me..thats a bit convoluted to me...and...

Sorry! ? I'd love to know what mine is thinking vs what little he's said, I guess that was what I was trying to get across. Feel free to delete my posts if you want.

Thank you for the advice! So do you also think I should stop reaching out even once a week? And just move on with my life and "hope" one day, I will hear from him? I've literally cut back to 1 text a week and that's so hard as it is. I keep hoping he will respond. This would be 100 times easier...

I'm also so sorry you're dealing with this and also new here, experiencing it myself as a supporter for the first time. This forum has definitely been helpful to me. I'd say what I've learned so far is when your husband tries to or isolates, it's best to give him time to process. I was a crazy...

My one cynical "friend" who I tried to talk to about all of this just told me he's making the whole thing up and lied to me so he could blow me off. I really don't get how people can be so heartless. I guess not being in my situation and hearing him talk, this friend has no idea. She may be the...

That is a mystery, as to why he'd unfriend you on FB but watch the snapchat. Maybe he's trying to limit how much of your posts he sees? My guy doesn't have social media at all so I'm in the dark until he texts me back or emails since I gave him mine but still don't have his. I was hoping maybe...

@apear1818 I totally get it and someone on here said to me to do what makes me feel better as long as it's not too excessive, multiple texts a day sort of thing. This is my first time going through this and I did exactly what you are doing. Texts ranged from freaking out, to taking it personally...